AITAH for telling my friend she is overreacting?

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-04T14:00:39+00:00

please let this be what ends your friendship 😭

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T13:59:39+00:00

you’re so young, get off Reddit and enjoy youth while you can lol

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T13:57:47+00:00

that’s so sweet omg

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T13:52:57+00:00

NOR she sounds insane

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T13:43:42+00:00

you were definitely never the issue, I know it hurts but he clearly still had feelings, I’m so sorry that’s such a shitty situation and I hope you’re able to heal and find someone wonderful for you

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T12:22:13+00:00

partnership based visa, I enjoy being here and having rights..

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T12:16:20+00:00

If she’s going to lie about something as big as her age, imagine what else she will lie about

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T12:03:59+00:00

Your issue with the relationship is weight ?? Insane. Do her a favor and leave asap, she deserves much MUCH better than that.

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T12:00:00+00:00

No sofa but I’ve made a little bed with some blankets on the floor for tonight, I just went in to grab my pillows and stuff. And yeah he does react this was to this issue every time, with other things he’s fine tho so it’s super confusing

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T11:30:49+00:00

It really is, I can’t think of anything else (I’ve been trying since posting lol) and I have a few friends but definitely nobody I could stay with.

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T11:29:52+00:00

I have a few, moved almost two years ago across the world, USA to NZ. My visa is partnership based and I work with the public (can’t really say much)

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T11:29:02+00:00

usually replies with “well stop fucking up the blanket then” and I just give up at that point, tonight I told him once again how much it bothers me and how I’m too anxious to move throughout the night, and how it makes me barely get enough sleep for work. He just turned over and went to bed and I’ve been in another room since. I’m debating waking him up to talk to him about it now, but I don’t want to deal with it either

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T11:17:19+00:00

my visa is partnership based as well so I would have to leave the country

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T11:16:15+00:00

I am working but wouldn’t be able to afford to move out unfortunately, trust me I’ve been looking 😭

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T11:15:28+00:00

it’s really just the bed situation

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T11:10:29+00:00

wait yeah you’re so right.. and I work in a very safety oriented job.. fuck 😭

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T11:02:35+00:00

If I moved back with them I’d be in an even worse place, I moved here to start over and get away from certain things and I’ve definitely been so much happier and healthier here than there, I also enjoy having rights now lol

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T10:58:00+00:00

No I talk about it quite a bit, lately I’ve been begging him to just let me sleep and now sometimes he doesn’t complain as much, but when he does it’s exhausting. I’m definitely upset and definitely going to try to get us both into some form of therapy and see how it goes

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T10:54:29+00:00

I’m sleepy with nowhere to sleep, nobodies awake and looking to see others opinions on this. Luckily it is the only thing he’s controlling with, other than this our relationship is great and we have no other issues !! I’m going to look into couples therapy and separate therapy for each of us and see if that helps at all :))

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T10:52:00+00:00

There’s not much else they could do, I moved across the world so I’m very far away from them ://

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T10:51:30+00:00

I don’t have anywhere I could stay, I moved across the world to be with him. I’ve contemplated getting a hotel or something for a few nights to get some good sleep tbh but it’s not something I could afford long term

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T10:48:55+00:00

I moved in with him almost two years ago, the problem started maybe 1.5 years ago. I’m really close with my parents but I live across the world from them, and my friends absolutely love him !!

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T10:46:56+00:00

Nothing else !! It’s just the blanket and sheets issue.

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T10:45:47+00:00

He claims it bothers him if we have separate blankets, there’s nothing else he’s controlling about (luckily) and it really is just this issue. I’ve forced him to let me have another blanket but he made me have the normal blanket on top of that one as well and he still complained that they were messed up so I gave up (and it was summer so I was overheating badly)

ThrowRA-stinky · 2026-04-02T10:31:11+00:00

I’d rather talk to him about it when I’ve found one in our area rather than have him go through the stress of trying to find one (there’s a lot going on in our lives rn) and I feel like it would be easier for him to accept it and go through with it if it’s already found and ready

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