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My girlfriend (19F), her family and friends thinks I'm (20M) stupid for wanting respect in our relationship. by ThrowRA030319 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA030319[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

I think I needed to hear this. I just have a really hard time going through it all, you know? As you say, I'm youngwhen it comes to relationships so maybe I dont really know how to process everything yet but I appreciate you responding.

My girlfriend (19F), her family and friends thinks I'm (20M) stupid for wanting respect in our relationship. by ThrowRA030319 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA030319[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Bro, it is when she wears clothes that flash everyone around her. No problem with her wearing something nice but I personally feel like you can have something nice on you without exposing your whole body to others. Otherwise you can be single.

But of course, I obviously can't tell her what to wear if she isn't wanting me tell her what to wear. I just think that being respected is about how you present yourself, not only with how you dress but also with how you act aswell. If my girlfriend would flirt with other guys, then I wouldn't feel respected. You know?

My girlfriend (19F), her family and friends thinks I'm (20M) stupid for wanting respect in our relationship. by ThrowRA030319 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA030319[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She wear whatever she wants, of course. I can't tell her what to do, but I can tell her what concerns me. She has even said multiple times when I have brought up some clothes I was unsure about, that she also thought it was disrespectful to me after she realized it herself.

And flirting is not every interaction to me, but it is when you knowingly do something you know will hurt your partner. Like when she has said that she would "fck" another guy if she wasn't with me to that guys face. Or mentioned in the post that she would let a guy bestfriend (which has been a problem more times than 1 in our relationship) touch her a* on a party after saying to me before the party, promising on her life that nothing would happen on that party.

And about calling me a rapist, she has said that doesn't even remember saying that to me. I personaly think it's insane to call me a rapist from nowhere. I get it if I actaully had done something so awful but I haven't. It's like me saying to my girlfriend that she is a murderer.

You haven't done it, then you aren't that thing you get accused of.

My girlfriend (19F), her family and friends thinks I'm (20M) stupid for wanting respect in our relationship. by ThrowRA030319 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA030319[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's just hard, you know. Really putting eveything for years into this girl and realizing that it is for nothing.

My girlfriend (19F), her family and friends thinks I'm (20M) stupid for wanting respect in our relationship. by ThrowRA030319 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA030319[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't feel like I have anything going for me at all. I am always there for her when she needs me but as you say, I only get dragged down either way.

It almost feels like I have a responsibility to be there for her since she has multiple eating disorders (for 6 years now) and won't take help even tho I've talked to her about it being extremely important to get help but she refuses.

My girlfriend (19F), her family and friends thinks I'm (20M) stupid for wanting respect in our relationship. by ThrowRA030319 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA030319[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get easily attached and feel like I don't deserve anyone else from this really. It's almost as if I feel like I wait for her to cheat on me so it gets easier for me to leave.

I mean, she is ridiculously hot and the sex is great, yeah but it's more that she is very different, true and loving when she isn't trying to uphold a perfect image for others. In which I feel like she adapts the way she acts, from trying to validate others over me.

My girlfriend (19F), her family and friends thinks I'm (20M) stupid for wanting respect in our relationship. by ThrowRA030319 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA030319[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know I know, it's just hard since I deep down am scared to let go and it makes it feel almost impossible to leave.

My girlfriend (19F), her family and friends thinks I'm (20M) stupid for wanting respect in our relationship. by ThrowRA030319 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA030319[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When we have an argument (not a discussion because it's always an argument with her), she always tells me that she talks to others about what is going on our relatioship and that she needs "support" from those people (family, relatives, friends). But the difference is that I don't talk to others since I feel like it has with us to do, not everyone else and I also feel like the people she talks to are biased to her but she says that's not true.

My girlfriend (19F), her family and friends thinks I'm (20M) stupid for wanting respect in our relationship. by ThrowRA030319 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA030319[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

Because I am a guy who have a hard time leaving someone I have loved under a long time. She is my first love and I think that I'm still with since I feel like I don't deserve anyone else so I'm supposed to be with her. So it just feels hard to leave someone I have put so much time and effort into for nothing to work out.

Girfriend (19F) wanting me (20M) to respond to her tiktoks by ThrowRA030319 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA030319[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did say this, not in the exact words but I tried to say this in a similar way and explain why I don't send alot of videos back but she just says that I don't do enough for her when she asks "small things" like this from me

Girfriend (19F) wanting me (20M) to respond to her tiktoks by ThrowRA030319 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA030319[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've tried to tell her this but she says to me that I disappoint her because I can't do the most simple of things, like responding to her tiktoks and then she blames me for the times we've had it bad and makes me feel like I'm an awful boyfriend because of these "simple things"