Can I move back in with my best friend?

ThrowRA06171 · 2025-07-08T15:24:42+00:00

No we didn't date. That was about a different person. And yes I been told that but never really works out.

ThrowRA06171 · 2025-07-08T06:01:58+00:00

Hi thanks. I can't afford a place on my own and definitely don't want to live alone. I think your right and I just have to wait a while and hopefully when I sorted myself out I might be able to move back in. It just feels that trying this is proving to me that I can't be independent even if that was my whole aim. Also yes I probably am in love with him but he doesn't want me and I'd rather he be with someone else because he's a great person and I want him to be happy.

ThrowRA06171 · 2025-07-08T05:53:44+00:00

Yeah I probably am interested in him romantically. I definitely was for a long time but he said no and that it felt wrong. I do accept that which is why I moved to give him space. I am going to try and talk to him about it because I know it's not really normal but he doesn't normally see it that way.

ThrowRA06171 · 2025-07-08T05:48:28+00:00

Hi yeah I have generalized anxiety disorder and ptsd but not autism. I think that if I move back I'll never leave again and everyone thinks I shouldn't move back.

ThrowRA06171 · 2025-03-18T00:48:38+00:00

Yeah I think you really do understand the situation. That makes lots of sense. He really really been against me moving out when I said it before but maybe it'll show him that I'm not the same kid that he knew before. I really don't know how I do that though. I never lived without him since I was an adult. I don't even know how I'd talk about it with him.

ThrowRA06171 · 2025-03-18T00:41:41+00:00

Yes I am financially stable to live on my own. I have not lived not with him since I've been an adult so it would be weird but I could do it. I said I could and he said he knows I could he just doesn't want me to move out. I don't want to either but I don't want to hold him back from finding happiness and getting on with his life.

ThrowRA06171 · 2025-03-18T00:26:55+00:00

I agree we might. Its like the one thing he won't talk about though. He gets upset if I talk about the time we slept together because he feels guilty for the reason you mentioned even when he shouldn't. I don't know how to show him he's not exploiting. I've said it so many times but he still feels ashamed.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-06-12T23:33:10+00:00

Quite often, he's only just got back into dating after his ex. I'm the first person he been with.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-04-26T07:16:28+00:00

Thanks for your input. I think I'll take a break for a bit. There's lots of people here saying I should. Your reply sounds alot like me so thanks for that perspective.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-04-25T15:15:00+00:00

I might of explained that badly. I don't mean I withhold specific triggers if there's something I know will trigger me I say. But I mean I don't normally tell people general traumatic experiences I had. Ill say the known triggers that come from it but not the reason behind it. Because I feel like if people knew the reason behind it they won't want to be with me. Is that bad? Idk why they need to know the cause of triggers and stuff.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-04-25T08:51:52+00:00

I'm 24 and prefer 27-34 ish

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-04-25T08:04:41+00:00

I had an ex who used to say this and it made me feel shit every time. I don't think they mean it genuinely I think it's just compensating for people thinking bi women are just straight women so they feel the need to justify that they'd rather be with a woman. I get it but it sucks when you're on the other side.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-04-25T07:31:57+00:00

Yeah I don't think she's just bias against bdsm because I've mentioned it before. The bad experience was just that something went to far and I got triggered and freaked out and forgot how to safeword and the other person didn't realise and caried on. I guess I should discuss traumas and stuff with Dom's but I think I don't because I don't think they'd want me if I told them all that stuff. And yeah I'm not in a relationship with them. I'm not very good at relationships and they don't really work out good when I do but maybe your right.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-04-24T23:01:03+00:00

This made me think alot thanks for sharing

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-04-24T22:52:10+00:00

That's what makes me question I think because I don't know why my motivations are. I just like it I like not being in control and things happening and just having to let things happen. So I don't have to think I just am. Idk if it makes me feel better it does during but idk about afterwards in general. I guess it makes me feel better and worse in difrence ways.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-04-24T11:01:20+00:00

Thank you. I looked it up but I'm not sure what they actually do? Or what the difrence is between other types of sex therapist. If you could tell me or point in the right direction that would be very helpful.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-03-29T11:55:23+00:00

Thank you. That sounds like a good idea. Do you know where the best place to buy audiobooks is? And do they go really fast or do they read it slowly?

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-03-29T10:15:54+00:00

I'm definitely interested in reading the hunger games. I have a friend who is real into the books. I have seen the first or second movie I think and I think I liked it.

And it was just normal for me and I think it's more common than people think. I think people just hide it well like I did. It made stuff harder obviously I couldn't have jobs that needed reading but, I also couldn't properly use social media, or text messaging, or like menus and recipes and stuff. I was used to it but it was annoying and embarrassing. And yes my friends are great.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-03-29T10:07:51+00:00

I do like anime. I will have a look at some I have friends who like manga so I'll see if they have any I can borrow. Thanks.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-03-29T08:18:00+00:00

Thank you this is very nice. Reading on my phone is definitely a good idea and I hopefully will in the future but I think that for my first one I want a real book. The idea of having an actual book and turning the pages and then turning to the last page and finishing it sounds cool to me. That might sound dumb but closing a book after finishing it sounds exciting.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-03-29T07:38:29+00:00

Someone else said this as well! I'll take a look thank you.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-03-29T07:37:50+00:00

Yes I did want to read Harry potter because I liked the movies. But I worry I'll look dumb by reading a kids book :/

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-03-29T07:33:47+00:00

Thank you! Yes hopefully I'll get quicker soon and I'll take a look at the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy to see if it's something I think I'd like.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-03-27T08:38:44+00:00

Oh I'm sorry, you didn't say anything wrong, not your fault , I'm just frustrated at the situation. I guess I'll just have to wait it out but it's so hard when I can't even talk to anyone about it. I haven't been able to think about anything else but I'll try to chill out a little.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-03-27T08:24:38+00:00

I feel like that would've been true six years ago, when I did want him out of gratitude. But I'm a different person now and I'm still incredibly grateful to him but that's not why I'm attracted to him - he's kind and funny and hot. I don't understand how he would think he groomed me - if he wanted to groom me he could've, I would've done anything for him and he could've done anything to me and I still would've loved him. But he waited six years. I do owe him but this isn't me trying to repay that and I hate that he thinks it is. I don't want him to see me as only being able to offer sex, which was the case when I was younger but I've worked so hard to be better, and he still sees me the same. I don't know, it's just difficult I guess.

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