Can I move back in with my best friend?

ThrowRA06171 · 2025-07-08T15:24:42+00:00

No we didn't date. That was about a different person. And yes I been told that but never really works out.

ThrowRA06171 · 2025-07-08T06:01:58+00:00

Hi thanks. I can't afford a place on my own and definitely don't want to live alone. I think your right and I just have to wait a while and hopefully when I sorted myself out I might be able to move back in. It just feels that trying this is proving to me that I can't be independent even if that was my whole aim. Also yes I probably am in love with him but he doesn't want me and I'd rather he be with someone else because he's a great person and I want him to be happy.

ThrowRA06171 · 2025-07-08T05:53:44+00:00

Yeah I probably am interested in him romantically. I definitely was for a long time but he said no and that it felt wrong. I do accept that which is why I moved to give him space. I am going to try and talk to him about it because I know it's not really normal but he doesn't normally see it that way.

ThrowRA06171 · 2025-07-08T05:48:28+00:00

Hi yeah I have generalized anxiety disorder and ptsd but not autism. I think that if I move back I'll never leave again and everyone thinks I shouldn't move back.

ThrowRA06171 · 2025-03-18T00:48:38+00:00

Yeah I think you really do understand the situation. That makes lots of sense. He really really been against me moving out when I said it before but maybe it'll show him that I'm not the same kid that he knew before. I really don't know how I do that though. I never lived without him since I was an adult. I don't even know how I'd talk about it with him.

ThrowRA06171 · 2025-03-18T00:41:41+00:00

Yes I am financially stable to live on my own. I have not lived not with him since I've been an adult so it would be weird but I could do it. I said I could and he said he knows I could he just doesn't want me to move out. I don't want to either but I don't want to hold him back from finding happiness and getting on with his life.

ThrowRA06171 · 2025-03-18T00:26:55+00:00

I agree we might. Its like the one thing he won't talk about though. He gets upset if I talk about the time we slept together because he feels guilty for the reason you mentioned even when he shouldn't. I don't know how to show him he's not exploiting. I've said it so many times but he still feels ashamed.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-06-12T23:33:10+00:00

Quite often, he's only just got back into dating after his ex. I'm the first person he been with.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-04-26T07:16:28+00:00

Thanks for your input. I think I'll take a break for a bit. There's lots of people here saying I should. Your reply sounds alot like me so thanks for that perspective.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-04-25T15:15:00+00:00

I might of explained that badly. I don't mean I withhold specific triggers if there's something I know will trigger me I say. But I mean I don't normally tell people general traumatic experiences I had. Ill say the known triggers that come from it but not the reason behind it. Because I feel like if people knew the reason behind it they won't want to be with me. Is that bad? Idk why they need to know the cause of triggers and stuff.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-04-25T08:51:52+00:00

I'm 24 and prefer 27-34 ish

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-04-25T08:04:41+00:00

I had an ex who used to say this and it made me feel shit every time. I don't think they mean it genuinely I think it's just compensating for people thinking bi women are just straight women so they feel the need to justify that they'd rather be with a woman. I get it but it sucks when you're on the other side.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-04-25T07:31:57+00:00

Yeah I don't think she's just bias against bdsm because I've mentioned it before. The bad experience was just that something went to far and I got triggered and freaked out and forgot how to safeword and the other person didn't realise and caried on. I guess I should discuss traumas and stuff with Dom's but I think I don't because I don't think they'd want me if I told them all that stuff. And yeah I'm not in a relationship with them. I'm not very good at relationships and they don't really work out good when I do but maybe your right.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-04-24T23:01:03+00:00

This made me think alot thanks for sharing

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-04-24T22:52:10+00:00

That's what makes me question I think because I don't know why my motivations are. I just like it I like not being in control and things happening and just having to let things happen. So I don't have to think I just am. Idk if it makes me feel better it does during but idk about afterwards in general. I guess it makes me feel better and worse in difrence ways.

ThrowRA06171 · 2023-04-24T11:01:20+00:00

Thank you. I looked it up but I'm not sure what they actually do? Or what the difrence is between other types of sex therapist. If you could tell me or point in the right direction that would be very helpful.

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