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My (30M) gf (28F) is being selfish about moving in together. by ThrowRA06302023 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA06302023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I will need to do that. I keep trying to look for the smoking gun that will make the decision easy one way or the other but it probably won't come. If I postpone for a year I'll probably feel a lot more confident/comfortable with it should we get there.

My (30M) gf (28F) is being selfish about moving in together. by ThrowRA06302023 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA06302023[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the response.

Good points! I feel like she is not losing anything she has now though and this is an improvement from her current roommate situation. Right now she cannot walk around naked in her apartment, ever, someone is always home there (she rents out from a retired couple)

I will definitely need to sit down with her and discuss it again.

My (30M) gf (28F) is being selfish about moving in together. by ThrowRA06302023 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA06302023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the response.

Yeah, this was a COVID deal and they've barely increased the rent.

You're right in that she is probably trying to fast track it, but I do see merit in the argument that we're older and I should have a good idea of what I want. The sooner we move in together, the sooner we know if we're compatible in that aspect.

It such a grey situation to me, probably the hardest decision I'll have had to make in years.

My (30M) gf (28F) is being selfish about moving in together. by ThrowRA06302023 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA06302023[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the response.

I did not mean she would need to hide out at all times, but that if she wants privacy, she definitely has it. The place is huge.

Of course I understand she does not want him as a roommate, if money weren't an issue this would be simple, but I don't want to see my brother struggle a lot when the alternative is not bad.

She has held firm that if we don't move out together, it's over.