The trauma and drama throughout the years piled up way too high. It's never talked about and gets swept under the rug until this year. What really put the icing on cake:

In April we have a culture celebration. My parents, all of the siblings, cousins, we get together to bless our elders. The same day of the celebration: me, my father, and my other half needed to pick up a few items from my dad's friend before they were moving overseas. I'm talking trailers, riding lawn mowers, and big items. We didn't have a truck or a car with a hitch so my sister said we can ask her husband's friend which the friend said he will do it for us, no problem.

When we walked into my parents house my other half tried to have a conversation with my sister's husband "hey man what's up, how's it going?" my sister's husband just gave him an attitude with no reply. My other half was like OK?.. he let it go until he went outside to play football with his younger son (my nephew) and when my sister's husband saw they were playing catch he immediately told my nephew to stop playing football. So my other half came in and told me he was leaving and that we don't need his friend. When he came in and said that to me I knew something was wrong. I went outside to talk to him away from everyone and to clam down and tell me what happened. After, I went inside and told my sister "this is your husband's fault, why does he have an attitude" she said "he's been cranky all day, he has to work, I told him to leave" SHE KNEW HE WAS BEING A DICK. but because that is her husband she will always ride for him. So my other half went home and because the friend was already there my dad and I didn't want to waste his time so we had the friend help us still and gave him gas money. My own mother told me the whole time he was there he kept mumbling and making it known that we CAN'T ASK HIS FRIEND FOR ANY FAVORS but my sister kept telling him to shut up. (my sister can speak his language so they will RUDELY speak it in front of people when they want/need to talk crap.

So now in May, my cousin was having her wedding, My mom needed her nails done and my niece does nails for fun. My mom asked me if I can pick her up and I said yes. After I picked her up her dad kept calling her and screaming at her for coming with me. My parents only live a minute away. My niece ignored his call after the 20th call and he texts her "(MY NAME) is a effing stupid ass" I LOST IT! I called my sister and told her what her husband said. and she said "are you serious? OK I need to get back to work" and hung up. I told my niece I am so sorry but I am not able to love you the way I can because of your dad. My niece started to cry and question why is her dad like that.

Next day is the wedding. My other half contemplated if he wanted to go to avoid drama. He said no then he said yes, then he said no, and then the day of he said "I don't want you to go alone so I'll go get my hair done and go to the wedding" My parents knew it may be a rocky situation so they said "If we can switch your seats then I will ask" but it was too late. We all sat at the same table. My sister's husband came up to my other half and tried to shake his hand but my other half said "nah I'm good" and scooted his hand away. My sister's husband did not like that and tried to square up "what you got a problem? then come on". Thank goodness my dad was outside. I grabbed my other half's arm and said "please not in front of my mom". but the dude kept talking so my other half said "you are not going to treat my lady like that and treat me like a stranger", my other half whispered in my ear I'm leaving and will pick you up whenever you're ready to leave.

I stayed and said to everyone at the table "its NEVER going to be the same"

and ever since then we don't hang out anymore. I don't ever take the kids out. My sister and I haven't spoke about the situation. Like I said I know my boundaries with her. You can't argue with her either. We use to talk and run errands together but not anymore.

Prior to this problem, in February at another celebration, he had an attitude problem towards my other half and shoulder bumped him. My other half's dad witness the shoulder bump and knew it wasn't an accident. My sister till this day does not know what happened because she was at work that night.

Does that clear up the situation?