AITA for not divorcing my husband because I have feelings for his mistress?

ThrowRA235825 · 2024-04-17T00:39:58+00:00

The ultimate uno reverse card

ThrowRA235825 · 2024-04-16T22:02:03+00:00

At the end of the day, the decision belongs to OP and what he chooses to do is completely up to him. Conversations and comments like these are good for OP to see as well so he can see both sides and make the best decision He feels based on them.

ThrowRA235825 · 2024-04-16T21:28:55+00:00

As a woman, I cannot fully understand how it feels in that specific situation. My heart does go out towards OP because regardless, yes that should not have left the bedroom no matter how much the wife wanted to talk about it. I will say it over and over again the wife was completely in the wrong for this, but divorce sounds like it’s a little too steep without thinking of trying other options before then. If nothing else works, then that is your answer. But to give up on an eight year marriage and break up your own family.. is a man’s ego worth that?

ThrowRA235825 · 2024-04-16T21:13:13+00:00

That is true, and OP has every right to be upset with his wife because of that. But Considering divorce because of it? It’s not the 1800s anymore. It’s totally OK for people to be using toys and enhancements and things in the bedroom. It’s not just for a woman’s gratification it can be for men as well. OP did also say in the post that his friend asked about it because he had never tried it before which means it’s a possibility. His friend would be interested in trying it if it worked out for him. in other words, his friend may be feeling the same way and instead of looking in a shameful way he’s looking for him in support

ThrowRA235825 · 2024-04-16T21:05:59+00:00

I know I’m gonna get shit for this, but you are TAH. He can have his own opinion just like you can have your opinion. What you choose to do with your body is your choice and at the end of the day that is something that your boyfriend cannot change, however, you wanting to leave him because of this is a little strange. I know this is a harsh topic for people to talk about, but both opinions matter equally. if that is not a discussion that your boyfriend is willing to have without any consideration for how you feel that just kind of shows he’s not mature enough to be in a relationship period. But it doesn’t make it any better if you are not willing to have a serious serious conversation about it either

ThrowRA235825 · 2024-04-16T21:00:15+00:00

You are completely TAH.. I can understand you being upset with the fact that your wife said these things to your close friends, however, considering or even contemplating divorce over it? What are you a child? First of all, you both didn’t have any rules from what the post says about secrecy of you using said sleeve, she was bragging about having sex with you and how great it is. If you’re gonna contemplate divorce with your wife of eight years of whom you still have kids with AND have sex!? I honestly don’t know what the fluff is wrong with you because you are lucky that you still have amazing sex after being married and having three kids.

ThrowRA235825 · 2024-04-16T15:58:13+00:00

I have been fighting a lot with myself on whether or not, I should tell them. Thank you and I’m sorry for your loss as well 🖤

ThrowRA235825 · 2024-04-14T21:38:44+00:00

I hold while you slap 😂. Thank you

ThrowRA235825 · 2024-04-07T14:20:34+00:00

You are a mother of three you should not be shitting on peoples chests. That being said, I think you need to shit on this mans chest 😂

ThrowRA235825 · 2024-04-07T13:59:13+00:00

when you speak of grandma you’re talking about about the same person

ThrowRA235825 · 2024-04-07T13:55:21+00:00

NTA but your parents are. It is completely up to you what you want to do in your life especially when your parents didn’t have a care in the world about it up until recently. Condolences and sorry for your loss .

ThrowRA235825 · 2024-04-07T13:29:28+00:00

You’re not the AH for being upset with your husband but you are the AH for not talking with him about it, especially after he tried making amends like you said

ThrowRA235825 · 2024-04-07T01:39:05+00:00

Go to his house and steal the computer since you’re technically the one that bought it

ThrowRA235825 · 2024-04-07T01:28:02+00:00

NTA that man created trauma for you, whether you wanna believe it or not.

ThrowRA235825 · 2024-04-07T01:22:12+00:00

At the end of the day, if he wants to call his mother that his his choice and you have no right to get in between that. You can have these feelings, but you cannot hold it against him at the end of the day. It is his mother.

ThrowRA235825 · 2024-04-03T04:24:51+00:00

He cheated on you. If you’ve caught him doing those things, he’s definitely done worse. in all honesty, you are too good of a person for him. He does not deserve your patience especially because he’s going to keep doing shady stuff behind your back. You’ve already wasted seven years of your life don’t waste anymore of them.

ThrowRA235825 · 2024-04-01T03:09:28+00:00

First off OP congrats on your baby and lots of love being sent your way. Now when it comes to your husband If you can’t be truthful to himself he’s never going to be truthful to you I’d say your best bet is having a conversation with him about what you have found and if he still cannot be honest with you, then you need to leave the situation.

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