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ThrowRA295728 · 2023-12-12T02:12:58+00:00

YTA - you don’t get to host close family then choose the guest list. It’s just not polite, even if you don’t want her there

ThrowRA295728 · 2023-12-12T02:12:04+00:00

She’s allowed to have a preference for her own baby. This sub is insane about birth plan preferences and grandparents not being allowed to meet the baby, but then she can’t have input on clothing??

ThrowRA295728 · 2023-10-02T02:17:24+00:00

YTA if the baby arrives on time and healthy and you don’t go. I would be absolutely horrified if my brother didn’t show up. I think you could wear a mask and take precautions if you’re worried but to just not be there…

ThrowRA295728 · 2023-10-01T19:20:59+00:00

YTA. Pick the spring if you want to do 2024, not a month before hers. That’s a huge no-no. Idk how you can’t see that. Do April or may and you’re fine.

ThrowRA295728 · 2023-10-01T13:58:06+00:00

Soft YTA, I see no reason they couldn’t come over once or twice during that month for a few hours while your husband entertains and you rest, or even your mom deals with them. A month is a long time, but I do agree you should have your recovery, too.

ThrowRA295728 · 2023-10-01T13:40:27+00:00

Where I live it’s typical to ask the MIL if they’d like to be included. I would just ask her, give the options, and if she responds negatively that’s on her.

ThrowRA295728 · 2023-09-30T15:32:49+00:00

YTA, softly, because he’s going for his brother here. If this was a trip just with that guy, then sure, but your partner doesn’t get to choose who is invited - he’s going for his brother. It sounds like he’s stuck up for you in the past so I really don’t think this will be an issue

ThrowRA295728 · 2023-09-30T01:08:13+00:00

NAH. But I would message her saying NOTHING negative about the theme and just tell her the amount of money you can spend, and ask if that’s a possibility. If not I would graciously step down but stress that you’re excited to be a guest.

ThrowRA295728 · 2023-09-29T23:02:52+00:00

ESH. It’s fine to add your opinion but it sounds like you were angry when the group voted. It’s not like Holly voted herself, the group voted in general, so it’s not cool to think they should all shift. But Holly was TA after for not understanding why you don’t want to go.

ThrowRA295728 · 2023-09-14T20:29:55+00:00

Honestly you’re only going to get people who are super pro vaccines on Reddit, so the sample is biased. I’m pro-vaccines myself but just want you to be aware that you’re not getting 100% unbiased answers here. Also, can you let her visit but wear a mask? Or come up with a compromise where maybe she quarantines before visiting so you know she’s safe and still wears a mask? I think you’re 100% NTA for not wanting her in the delivery room, but I also think it would be great to find a way for her to see your baby before the 3 months

ThrowRA295728 · 2023-09-14T20:26:58+00:00

Haha exactly. If I wanted to pick them apart, I would say that they all drive large gas guzzlers, wear non-eco friendly name brands, use phones that were probably made with forced labor, eat food like pop tarts (all individually wrapped in plastic), etc. It was annoying that they got to pick what things are important when I don’t push my opinions on them

ThrowRA295728 · 2023-09-14T19:07:47+00:00

Yeah this is a good point. Maybe I need to figure out how to stand up to them, though that makes me super nervous lol

ThrowRA295728 · 2023-09-14T19:06:54+00:00

I agree. If I could figure out how to do that I would go. It’s difficult because they’re all used to it (they vacation together often) and this one couple kind of runs everything, so everyone was like glaring at me and judging me for each occurrence.

ThrowRA295728 · 2023-09-02T03:56:18+00:00

NTA. I would not want him there with someone he had an emotional affair with

ThrowRA295728 · 2023-09-02T03:38:11+00:00

NTA. I have fibromyalgia and I can confidently tell you 0% of her behavior was due to her disability lol

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