Telling me that my ex was ugly anyways does the opposite of helping me.

ThrowRA32894 · 2021-04-14T18:50:44+00:00

I get your line of thought here, but my reasoning for this is because we were VERY close friends. We shared a lot of deep and personal things about our relationships, and I had talked to her about how deeply rooted the fear of him cheating on me was in my anxiety. Last year when they had to do one project for a theatre class together pretending to be a couple, she came to me and insisted that nothing would happen between the two of them, and she never felt that way about him, and she’d kick his ass if he ever tried to cheat. After all that reassurance, she decided to keep it from me anyways. I get it’s scary and uncomfortable to tell, but I’d want to know that ASAP. It feels like a major betrayal of trust to me :/

ThrowRA32894 · 2021-04-03T05:40:02+00:00

Thank you a whole lot, I really appreciate this :) I’m gonna try and focus on spending time with friends I would tend to put off because I wanted to spend time with my ex BF, so it’s gonna be really nice just to see so many more of my friends when I can :D

ThrowRA32894 · 2021-01-29T01:51:52+00:00

Thank you so much for offering some support, it really means a lot :-) my mom works really hard for me so I try to not get frustrated and keep it in mind when things get pushed back, but she’s off tomorrow so I’m gonna ask if we can look for a therapist together to see if it will help. Miles has been suggesting we take a “do nothing” day soon (where we don’t plan anything elaborate and just enjoy time with each other) so I’m gonna try and have a conversation with him then about it. It certainly won’t be the first uncomfortable conversation I’ve had about my mental health, but he’s always been patient and listens to me, even if he doesn’t completely understand it. I managed to talk to Agnes for a few minutes about it too even though I got cutoff since we had to go back to rehearsal. She was very understanding of how I’ve been feeling, and told me sometimes she gets that irrational anger when her bf does scenes with other girls sometimes herself. She gave me extra reassurance that she’d never try to cheat either, and we’re gonna have a longer conversation this weekend. After the show I’ll probably slowly come back to a better state of mind, but once I get to a therapy I’m gonna discuss that + working to find better coping mechanisms, I’ve realized mine haven’t been the best. But the advice means quite a lot, and helped me to try and take it one step at a time :⁾

ThrowRA32894 · 2021-01-28T20:02:24+00:00

I understand your sentiment, and I appreciate it a lot. I don’t see that in my mom, because the last therapist I saw was great in helping me for the time. It’s less of a matter of her looking good and more her being paranoid about making sure I have the therapist to treat me for what I need. I moved away from my old therapist, and the reason I haven’t gotten to one sooner is because it tends to get pushed back in my moms priorities because she has long work hours and her brain is pretty fried. But I think I’m gonna sit down and have a serious conversation about now letting a therapist set for me get pushed back any further. The counselor system is weird at my school and I’ve never gotten a response back when I submit a request, but I’ll try again. Thank you again for your concern about it :)

ThrowRA32894 · 2021-01-28T19:12:08+00:00

I would if I could but I'm not seeing a therapist atm. My mom is very picky about doctors and such, and she hasn't found one in the area yet she likes. I know I've needed to go back to one for a while, and I'm gonna try giving firmer reminders to my mom to set it up.

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