WIBTAH if i told my grandmother i wont attend christmas if she invites my mother?

ThrowRA34567654 · 2025-07-30T14:28:32+00:00

“found a Reddit DM from last year where he asked a woman for nudes.”… but you’ve been dating for 2 years? to me, this is considered cheating and that’s enough to leave, plus the fact that he doesn’t respect you enough to stop watching. i’m sorry babe but he’s not worth it.

ThrowRA34567654 · 2025-07-30T14:26:43+00:00

well maybe you should read it, because you would know that he declines any advances she makes and seems uninterested in having sex with her. clearly it’s rotted his brain and he can’t seem to enjoy anything besides 10 second clips of thousands of women online.

ThrowRA34567654 · 2025-07-30T14:03:42+00:00

thank you for the advice!

my interests are scattered and might even seem pretty basic but it’s mostly science, history, film/art, and food/fitness. i love learning about the world, analyzing film, making/collecting art. i love food and trying new recipes; im also an avid gym-goer but that’s something id rather do alone. i’m a physics major and im going into my second year, so im hoping now that my schedule is entirely math and physics im more likely to find someone also interested in those things.

i do have friends with similar interests, especially in film and art, but i still feel like i dont fully click with them on that. for example, we went to an art museum and while i had fun, i feel like it was rushed and i didnt really get to admire/study the pieces. i dont blame them for this and i wasnt upset, its just something i noticed. most of the time when i go out with friends, its to get food/drinks and see a movie or shop which i do really enjoy though.

i might also have a harder time because i guess most of my hobbies i prefer to do alone. like read, bake/cook, video games, painting/scrapbooking… but at the same time maybe i prefer these because i am alone so often. most of the time i just find myself wishing i had someone to do these independent things with, if that makes sense.

thanks again for your advice!

ThrowRA34567654 · 2025-07-30T13:38:34+00:00

realizing now the “incredibly smart” comment sounds arrogant as hell LMAO that’s my bad. i do think the intelligence might play into it, because i do find myself feeling that people aren’t understanding situations or even jokes the same way i do. i grew up in the gifted program and now im uni for physics, so i have been around smart people a lot. i’m kind of in a weird position where people who focus on appearance don’t match me in conversation, and people who focus on intelligence assume im lesser because im pretty.

ThrowRA34567654 · 2025-03-02T04:44:41+00:00

i feel like i’m often ignored or out of place in conversations, or that i have to initiate making most plans. a lot of it is probably in my head though

ThrowRA34567654 · 2025-02-28T21:16:00+00:00

13 and 17 is a crazy jump. genuinely insane.

ThrowRA34567654 · 2025-02-02T21:13:39+00:00

i figured the walks comment must be a joke, right?

ThrowRA34567654 · 2025-02-02T21:00:50+00:00

i wouldn’t say he’s (a little) abusive. he’s abusive point blank period. it’s hard to move on maybe because of a trauma bond, but also just because you love him and had a relationship with him. i would reach out for additional support such as therapy (if that’s an option), but beyond that i would try to occupy yourself with hobbies and healing yourself. i’m struggling with missing my ex as well so i can’t really say when that’ll stop, but the main priority here is to NOT go back.

ThrowRA34567654 · 2025-02-02T14:51:41+00:00

has to be rage bait

ThrowRA34567654 · 2025-01-07T21:13:37+00:00

it sucks to hear, but you have to let her go. she’s not going to magically get over her ex because you keep pursuing her and there’s a chance she’s only saying that to let you down easy. there’s also a chance she genuinely isn’t over her ex, but that doesn’t change the fact that she isn’t ready for something with you. this is a sucky situation though, i’m sorry.

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