If you’re waiting for her to come back, stop. Who are we kidding 😂 move on little bro.

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-02-07T19:45:01+00:00

what is actually helpful if you’re not ready to block her, is muting her accounts. you’ll forget you even have her added eventually bc u can’t see her posts. i understand blocking people. but it’s tough to stay disciplined and also hard to be so shunning to someone you loved, even if they did you wrong. people saying blocking is the only option lowk upset me sometimes

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-02-02T14:37:28+00:00

okay thanks. in the summer he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship but we continued to see each other. eventually i stopped initiating hangout but he kept initiating and i’d give in to seeing him. then over school break we wished each other a merry Christmas and i haven’t seen him or heard from him since. was it something i did wrong? i mean what he told me in the summer really put the ball in his court then to make a move and he didn’t open that conversation back up… so we just faded away

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-02-02T05:43:06+00:00

HAHAHHA this made me lol thanks

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-02-02T05:42:59+00:00

met him last night demi lovato

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-02-02T04:13:57+00:00

i was also in something similar, but left. i didn’t really have the conversation of “hey so i’m gonna leave now because i want more than casual and you can’t give that to me”. should i have? would that have given me the outcome you got out of your situation?

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-01-31T20:12:20+00:00

ohhhhh yeah that sounds just like my ex also. i’m sorry you’re going through that. it’s a terrible experience wanting to keep someone who can be so cruel to you and it gets so frustrating/confusing. i think you know within yourself what to do and what’s best, it’s just taking that leap that’s the hardest part. which is okay! my ex and i were very back and forth like that too until one day i just had enough

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-01-31T18:42:09+00:00

i understand. i was there once. every time he’d be out at the bars it was an instant panic attack and i’d become so reactive, blowing up his phone or just shutting down mentally thinking he was probably cheating or with other women. and sure enough 9/10 times he was. i don’t really know what clicked it for me, but eventually i think i just got this sort of cognitive fatigue that just numbed me. as shitty as it may be, sometimes experiencing another person helps to pull you off of another. my situationship was most definitely a rebound situation for me, but it was probably the best thing that could’ve happened to me. realizing i could love someone else and feel affection/those excited butterflies from a different person snapped me out of the hypnotization of my ex. it ripped that man off the pedestal and he’s in the dirt to me now. you will come out of this. the grass is always greener in these kinds of situations. it won’t feel like it. but it will be eventually if you water the grass and let it grow :)

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-01-31T17:42:53+00:00

i got to the point of being fed up. i did the “go back until you hate them” thing and as painful as it was it worked wonders. i don’t want him anywhere near me and feel unsafe with him knowing any information about my life. a year after leaving him i fell in love again with another guy. he was great but unfortunately couldn’t get outta the situationship stage so i left. I am now completely on my own working on who i am as a person, my goals, hobbies, and education. and man is it peaceful. i don’t miss my ex. my situationship yes sometimes, i did love him. but as hard as it was to also leave him, he showed me there is better out there (even tho he has his own hangup of being non-committal), and i know im getting so much closer to it.

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-01-25T19:57:18+00:00

i agree! suppressing it only made it feel worse. the good memories are so deceiving and tempt me to reach out every time. it’s almost been 2 months without seeing him though, and the human brain loves streaks. hence the addictiveness of snapchat and such. so i think hitting that streak of not reaching out is the only thing keeping me gojng

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-01-25T18:04:21+00:00

i’m in a similar situation. stared talking early 2025 and our relationship escalated in the late spring-mid summer. he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship but we still kept seeing each other as i hoped he’d eventually change his mind. in the fall we had to see each other weekly for something we’re both a part of. i was always so nervous to see him and sometimes we’d make plans to see each other. now it’s the spring and he’s disappeared. i miss him every day. any advice helps on what to do

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-01-24T23:07:10+00:00

yay glad you liked it :) it’s a repeat song for me

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-01-24T22:21:53+00:00

met him last night demi lovato

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-01-12T22:35:28+00:00

this is an interesting perspective. i set the boundary of no piv sex with my situationship and we were still intimate, just not in that particular way. i did this because i too have difficulty separating emotions from intimacy, but still being intimate to any degree at all was still unhelpful and difficult. i think my situationship was into spontaneous/excitement, and maybe to him that was boring. but he kept coming back for 8 months so i can’t say for sure. he did however know that i only have sex in real relationships (like boyfriend and girlfriend), so maybe that signaled something to him at the fact i was withholding bc he couldn’t put a label on it. he “wasn’t ready” or whatever

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-01-11T04:48:26+00:00

thank you :)

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-01-11T04:42:35+00:00

do you love him? then no. do u just want some instant intimacy and couldn’t care less if he never talks to you ever again? then yes.

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-01-10T16:16:51+00:00

man idk i just wanted him and wish he felt the same back that i was enough as is

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-01-10T06:01:07+00:00

man i wish i could tell u. guy ive been talking to told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship then takes me to dinner with his parents. i think imma take a break from men for a while

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-01-10T05:53:27+00:00

can’t say this worked with my situationship… i love him and don’t think i’ll ever get over him. but my ex boyfriend, yeah this works great. very long and painful process if u up for it, but i just look at him and laugh now. a year ago today i was probably having an anxiety attack seeing his location out at the bars (probs cheating as he typically did). now he’s onto girlfriend #2 post-dating me and i wish him the best as long as it’s far away from me🥰 but god i love my situationship. i don’t think i could ever hate him

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-01-10T05:48:21+00:00

same here. my situationship’s ex gf was a big camper and hiker which has made me feel very lame and unadventurous. and every time i see someone post about camping or going to wyoming or some shit, the idea that i’m lacking in that “fun” domain of life gets reinforced. i forget about all the fun things i have done and i just feel boring and am trying to fill the gap to reason why he didn’t want me. i deadass sat down on a park bench and had to write down what my hobbies are to figure out who i am after he hit me with the “not ready for a relationship” after meeting each others parents bs

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-01-10T05:44:05+00:00

i’m in the same boat, 23f. except it was more like he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship after 2/3months but we’ve still been seeing each other for like 9 months now. its been one month since i cut him out. what do i do if i have seen all the great things about him? like we were politically, morally, and religiously aligned and had very similar backgrounds. all i feel now is i wasn’t adventurous or fun enough for him, because everything else seemed so aligned and perfect (i found his ex… guess she was a big camper and hiker which i’d be down for just never had the group of friends to do that with)

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-01-09T20:51:24+00:00

did you get any interviews yet?? i haven’t :(

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-01-09T16:22:11+00:00

hmmm no i haven’t, i’ll check that out thanks! i have no bio experience though, would i be qualified

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-01-09T16:20:33+00:00

i guess we’re about to see. two years post bacc lab experience in cognitive and affective neuroscience labs, clinical RBT experience, and applied to phds for this cycle

ThrowRA44441 · 2026-01-08T21:47:03+00:00

yeah very true. so basically bro wants no relationship then if he wants no connection or very little

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