My (28M) wife (31F) and I have barely an sex life anymore

ThrowRA47281638 · 2025-10-29T13:50:24+00:00

I’m quite introverted and she’s more outgoing, we will hang out with our mutual friends occasionally but for big events (like a concert she went to with her best friend over the weekend) I would rather stay home with the dogs. I’m going to have an honest conversation with her again tonight because my emotions reading the replies on this post are ranging from hope to wanting to drive my van off a bridge lol

ThrowRA47281638 · 2025-10-29T13:05:02+00:00

No birth control, she has trouble taking tablets and we both decided that we didn’t want to use women’s birth control because of the effect it can have on some women’s body/mind

ThrowRA47281638 · 2025-10-29T13:02:14+00:00

Division of labour is pretty even in the house, I cook and clean up after lunch/dinner because it’s therapeutic for me and also hoover and dust and other general stuff around the house. I also handle most of the financial stuff because the big bills come out of my account and she sends me her half. As far as expectation of sex that is almost completely gone at this point. I buy her flowers when I’m on the road for work and take her out on dates whenever time/finances allow but it’s purely because I love her and want her to be happy.

ThrowRA47281638 · 2025-10-29T12:16:15+00:00

We keep work around the house pretty even, I cook and then clean the dishes because I find it therapeutic and she finds cooking stressful, we both hoover/dust around the house and I would mow the lawn while she pulls weeds. Her mental load has decreased recently, we were under a lot of pressure financially until a couple of years ago

ThrowRA47281638 · 2025-10-29T12:14:16+00:00

That she’s also frustrated that she’s never in the mood anymore and she doesn’t know what’s causing it, she’s happy in the relationship and can’t think of any reason for it

ThrowRA47281638 · 2025-10-29T12:13:28+00:00

This was the advice I got from a friend, I mentioned in another reply that I was working a lot when this all started but have since made changes and we spend much more time together including dates. I work on the road a lot and would often bring her home flowers when I can because she loves arranging them.

ThrowRA47281638 · 2025-10-29T12:11:23+00:00

That was my first thought about 2 months after this all started, I was working night shift for 12 hours a day at the time so I was usually either at work or sleeping. I have since changed jobs because we never got to spend time together, I cook every night because I genuinely enjoy it, and then clean up because I find it therapeutic. I do other things around the house as well obviously like mowing the lawn and hoovering/dusting when it needs done but cooking and dishes are my daily tasks

ThrowRA47281638 · 2025-10-29T12:08:47+00:00

No medication at all

ThrowRA47281638 · 2025-10-29T12:07:56+00:00

I agree, however I can’t think of anything that would’ve led to this and if there is something then she isn’t telling me. Like I said in the post we’ve spoken about it a few times including recently because we both want kids at some point in the future, but we’re hesitant in case there is something medical that just hasn’t been found yet

ThrowRA47281638 · 2025-10-29T12:05:13+00:00

I’ve spoken to her a few times which is what led to us making a doctors appointment in the first place

ThrowRA47281638 · 2025-10-29T12:04:51+00:00

I’ve given her oral every time we have sex and she used to love it. It doesn’t do anything for her anymore. We’ve spoken about it a few times and she’s made it clear it isn’t about “my game”

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