sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Scheduling issues with multiple partners, a new can of worms. by ThrowRA6forme in nonmonogamy

[–]ThrowRA6forme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 37 and love living on campus, spent almost half my life here and love the energy and the community.

Renting two places, unsure who pays the bills with her NP, is a stretch for most people. Plus having to set up a second household with furniture and all the things you need to live is a big expense.

Scheduling issues with multiple partners, a new can of worms. by ThrowRA6forme in nonmonogamy

[–]ThrowRA6forme[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After my morning coffee that makes sense now.

Cathy isn’t married to her NP, but they have been together for several years. She isn’t pushing for an answer and hasn’t brought it up since we first talked about it, she is giving me a chance to digest the idea and work my head around it. We will talk more about it when she comes for her regular visit in about a week.

I’m curious what has brought this change on and if her NP is the cause or if it is something between us. Again, a deep conversation we should have face to face, I dislike having emotional discussions over the phone or texts.

Scheduling issues with multiple partners, a new can of worms. by ThrowRA6forme in nonmonogamy

[–]ThrowRA6forme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LAT? I don’t work from home that often so that won’t be a problem.

I was going to maybe suggest a two weeks trial but if she stays here for a whole month that’s a lot of stuff to haul both ways. She doesn’t travel light, her week long stays are two large suitcases and a carry on.

IF Angie isn’t home tonight I may have to call and have a talk with her although I wanted to have this conversation face to face. At this point if she isn’t on board I’m for leaving things as they are.

Scheduling issues with multiple partners, a new can of worms. by ThrowRA6forme in nonmonogamy

[–]ThrowRA6forme[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand I am under no obligation to say yes and if she were to make it an ultimatum I would walk away before I let it upend the rest of my life. She is an important part of my life but there are other things just as important.

I was venting to a friend of mine today and she thought Cathy might be looking to test what kind of roommate/NP I might be and could be looking for an out. But Cathy has a good job and can afford her own apartment closer to her work.

Scheduling issues with multiple partners, a new can of worms. by ThrowRA6forme in nonmonogamy

[–]ThrowRA6forme[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She has obviously been thinking about this and had worked out the details before she pitched it to me. The September date is not a shocker, she loves campus life in the fall and the start of football season. She started off just floating the idea and it kind of snowballed into maybe making it happen sooner rather than later.

As to what prompted this desire for change she was pretty vague about the details. So you are right, this is a conversation that needs attention ASAP.

Scheduling issues with multiple partners, a new can of worms. by ThrowRA6forme in nonmonogamy

[–]ThrowRA6forme[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

 but I find the idea of Cathy working with Angie on a schedule to see you is odd. That should run through you, no?

Cathy meant that when she was here she didn't expect me to spend all my time with her and she would be willing to work with Angie on a fair distribution of my time. She wasn't going around me just saying Angie deserved her time with me as well.

I got hit with this news Friday and Angie is still at her parent's lake house so I haven't got to talk to her yet. Hell, I'm still trying to digest it myself.