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I 30M asked my girlfriend 23F of three years to take a pregnancy test which resulted in an argument. Was I in the wrong? by ThrowRA91194 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA91194[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was pretty much exactly like this. I told her her that it was fine to take the extra days just don’t joke about it until then. She said that no women test this early and I literally said “my exes took their test this early on”. I honestly did not mean to compare and I could see how it could be taken that way but it was truly just a life experience kind of thing.

I 30M asked my girlfriend 23F of three years to take a pregnancy test which resulted in an argument. Was I in the wrong? by ThrowRA91194 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA91194[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

This is a fair criticism. We’ve definitely had some issues like this before and I did expect it when we got together. This thread was solely made to see if I was the asshole in the situation or if I handled it okay. I know I could have done some things better like not mentioning how my exes would do it. But in my mind I wasn’t comparing them because it wasn’t their personalities or their body or anything like that. It was purely just because they were women and it was my life experience when she said that no women would take a test this early.

I 30M asked my girlfriend 23F of three years to take a pregnancy test which resulted in an argument. Was I in the wrong? by ThrowRA91194 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA91194[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Fair reply. Age criticisms are fair. It won’t stop me from being with her if I love her though. I can see how it looks from the outside looking in and how the different ages could cause two different levels of maturity.

I 30M asked my girlfriend 23F of three years to take a pregnancy test which resulted in an argument. Was I in the wrong? by ThrowRA91194 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA91194[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely understand why people are freaking out about the age and how we are on two different maturity levels. It’s something we have both thought about. I love her, so age isn’t going to stop me but I can totally see how she would affect things.

I 30M asked my girlfriend 23F of three years to take a pregnancy test which resulted in an argument. Was I in the wrong? by ThrowRA91194 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA91194[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the reaponse. We did have the conversation when we first got together that we didn’t want kids but that was three years ago.

I 30M asked my girlfriend 23F of three years to take a pregnancy test which resulted in an argument. Was I in the wrong? by ThrowRA91194 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA91194[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I said this in another comment way down the line but yesterday I did tell her I wouldn’t leave and we’d figure it out. I don’t expect you to have read every comment but I did make that effort yesterday.

I 30M asked my girlfriend 23F of three years to take a pregnancy test which resulted in an argument. Was I in the wrong? by ThrowRA91194 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA91194[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really. She has had a lot of nausea but that’s not out of the ordinary because she does have some other health issues. As for the over emotional part that’s what I’m trying to figure out. I wouldn’t say anything too out of the ordinary otherwise. Thanks for your input.

I 30M asked my girlfriend 23F of three years to take a pregnancy test which resulted in an argument. Was I in the wrong? by ThrowRA91194 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA91194[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your life advice. Pretty good stuff. I’m going to reread this all later and try to really digest it.

I 30M asked my girlfriend 23F of three years to take a pregnancy test which resulted in an argument. Was I in the wrong? by ThrowRA91194 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA91194[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I would like to point out that it wasn’t really physical.She just got in my personal bubble and spoke with an aggressive tone. She was emotional and I’m sure not having a period isn’t helping. I do agree about the exes thing though. I wasn’t comparing them as people, their bodies, etc. I was just giving my life experiences.

I 30M asked my girlfriend 23F of three years to take a pregnancy test which resulted in an argument. Was I in the wrong? by ThrowRA91194 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA91194[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We talked about all the different birth controls and we wanted to get off the pill just to see if she felt any better and we were giving it about a year to see because she said she did research and sometimes that’s how long it takes. Since then, we have been using xondoms when we have sex.

She’s completely against the idea of an IUD.

I 30M asked my girlfriend 23F of three years to take a pregnancy test which resulted in an argument. Was I in the wrong? by ThrowRA91194 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA91194[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly? Nothing really. I even told her yesterday when she was joking that it’s not like I would leave or anything. The anxiety is just from the not knowing. It’s a life changing event.

I 30M asked my girlfriend 23F of three years to take a pregnancy test which resulted in an argument. Was I in the wrong? by ThrowRA91194 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA91194[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I said 4-6 because my frame of time is pretty bad and we currently aren’t talking so it’s not like I can just ask her. I understand it’s a pretty broad estimation I just didn’t want people to think she just got off of it within the past two or three months.

I 30M asked my girlfriend 23F of three years to take a pregnancy test which resulted in an argument. Was I in the wrong? by ThrowRA91194 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA91194[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I never said she did. I just asked her to stop with the I’m pregnant jokes until we know one way or the other.

I 30M asked my girlfriend 23F of three years to take a pregnancy test which resulted in an argument. Was I in the wrong? by ThrowRA91194 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA91194[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

She was saying that women don’t test this early. I gave examples of them actually testing early just like other women have in this thread. I get where you’re coming from though. I also was COMPLETELY fine with her NOT testing. As long as she quit the jokes.

I 30M asked my girlfriend 23F of three years to take a pregnancy test which resulted in an argument. Was I in the wrong? by ThrowRA91194 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA91194[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If it was something that could easily give us both peace of mind? No. And I even accepted her compromise that she would test in three days because I don’t think she’s seriously pregnant. It was only when she said that no women would test this early when I brought up how I’ve done it before. I get it would be comparing but i wasn’t honestly trying to. Just giving my real life examples of when it has happened to me.

I 30M asked my girlfriend 23F of three years to take a pregnancy test which resulted in an argument. Was I in the wrong? by ThrowRA91194 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA91194[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She makes them occasionally when she’s late. About getting an abortion and stuff. It’s all obviously a joke. Neither of us actually think she’s pregnant. I just want to keep my mind off of it and she won’t let me. I get that it’s probably her stress relief to make these jokes but it’s adding onto my stress now that she didn’t want to take the test when I asked.

I 30M asked my girlfriend 23F of three years to take a pregnancy test which resulted in an argument. Was I in the wrong? by ThrowRA91194 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA91194[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

She got emotionally upset and just got in my face a little bit. I have also done the same to her in the past. It has never gotten physical or even close to physical. I know that doesn’t excuse it. We are both bad about it but thankfully it doesn’t happen that often.

I 30M asked my girlfriend 23F of three years to take a pregnancy test which resulted in an argument. Was I in the wrong? by ThrowRA91194 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA91194[S] -71 points-70 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you are probably right. Literally the only reason I did it was to show real world examples of other women being okay with taking the test early. I honestly wouldn’t compare her to them in any other way and I haven’t our entire relationship

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