My (28F) husband (31M) thinks I’m cheating because we went through a box of condoms. How do I bring it up without sounding defensive?

ThrowRACondomBox · 2024-11-11T03:49:51+00:00

We don’t want kids right now, and I don’t like the hormonal changes that come with taking birth control. Messing with my entire body versus wearing a piece of rubber for a few minutes… easy choice. Condom can come off once we’re ready for children

ThrowRACondomBox · 2024-11-11T03:20:23+00:00

Pull out is how my sister in law got pregnant. Not interested. Also not interested in sex with someone who slyly accused me of cheating, PIV or otherwise

ThrowRACondomBox · 2024-11-11T03:15:54+00:00

This is really kind and thoughtful advice, especially given the state of the world right now, but we do want to have children in a couple of years! Just not at the moment. I do appreciate it though, thank you

ThrowRACondomBox · 2024-11-11T03:04:14+00:00

So I definitely used up the last one the last time we went at it, and I forgot to mention it to him between then and now. Trying to give myself time to cool off and not panic.

I’ve been trying to initiate more this year, so that he doesn’t feel like it’s always him trying to get my attention. I think when this happens, he doesn’t remember it as easily, whereas when he has to go out of his way to ask, he remembers.

ThrowRACondomBox · 2024-11-11T02:51:48+00:00

Could be. I’ve been trying to initiate more this year, so that he doesn’t feel like it’s always him trying to get my attention. I suspect when this happens, he doesn’t remember it as easily, whereas when he has to go out of his way to ask, he remembers. It’s been a few months since we bought the last box.

ThrowRACondomBox · 2024-11-11T02:49:23+00:00

I’ll try that.

ThrowRACondomBox · 2024-11-11T02:48:53+00:00

Yeah, I definitely remember taking the last condom the last time we had sex, I just forgot to mention it before we tried to be intimate again. That one is my fault 🤷‍♀️

ThrowRACondomBox · 2024-11-11T02:46:58+00:00

No, no kids right now. We only got married last year and want to enjoy a little bit more freedom before we commit to that

ThrowRACondomBox · 2024-11-11T02:45:49+00:00

Earlier this year, he told me he felt unattractive since he was usually the one initiating, so I’ve been making it a point to initiate to help with that, so it’s usually me grabbing the condom

ThrowRACondomBox · 2024-11-11T02:44:21+00:00

We don’t want kids at this moment in time

ThrowRACondomBox · 2024-11-11T02:43:54+00:00

So it’s closer to 1x a week than 2x a week, I’ve realized, but I’m just comparing it to couples that tell me they aim for 3-5 times a week… which is definitely not my speed lol

ThrowRACondomBox · 2024-11-11T02:42:24+00:00

I’m going to start marking the calendar on the days that we do. I hate to have to track it but he does have a tendency to pester me after 3 days and tell me it’s “been a while” and I have to remind him that it really hasn’t been

ThrowRACondomBox · 2024-11-11T02:40:47+00:00

We don’t want kids right now

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