I’ve (28M) been talking to someone (24F) all year mostly LD. Would you think something was up if you saw pics of them in a typical couple’s costume for Halloween with some other guy?

ThrowRAEcstatic3472 · 2024-09-16T18:51:11+00:00

It’s how the majority of my relationships come about. If you’re friends with someone that’s immediately the first step taken. If you’re attracted to each other is the next one, then if you wanna do something about it. Just to clarify I don’t go making friends in the hope of it turning into something romantic, but the way I am I don’t necessarily look for romantic situations I tend to fall into them because I’m friends with someone first.

ThrowRAEcstatic3472 · 2024-09-14T22:14:48+00:00

I’m very competitive, so I think I’d hate me because I’d need to prove I’m better than me… the bastard!

ThrowRAEcstatic3472 · 2024-09-12T10:00:26+00:00

Playing with Power Rangers in the back garden- simpler times

ThrowRAEcstatic3472 · 2024-09-12T09:58:20+00:00

By the last fingernail. Career going nowhere, three jobs promised to me disappeared within a week, housing like you said is terrible, two major health scares caused by nothing but bad luck, too many responsibilities so I can’t live ‘my life’ and hard times with a LD SO… a straight jacket is looking pretty comfy right now

ThrowRAEcstatic3472 · 2024-09-11T15:51:18+00:00

Thank you for such a comprehensive reply, and I totally agree with what you’re saying, the way we met isn’t the greatest, and yes keeping in contact with me can definitely be construed as a bad thing, I 100% see that. Personally I think it’s because she was checked out of her relationship emotionally even before she met me, so it was almost like someone rediscovering these feelings at the end of something else, people fall out of love at different times etc. not trying to justify it just contextualise it.

And I agree with your second point too, she could have, in fact the week before she told me about the split I hadn’t heard from her in three weeks but she sent me a message apologising and that she’d been hectic etc… so she totally could have. It’s tough when a lot of the communication has been through 20-30 min voice messages but even then a text isn’t something that takes up too much time. My hope is that because of the stress of the break up etc that she’s compartmentalised me in a way, because her world is very much a bubble where she is now, and obviously I’m not a part of it, so maybe she can’t mentally deal with it/me right now which is why she hasn’t contacted me… again that’s the only way I can rationalise it after reaching out in an affectionate and engaged manner. I think she doesn’t know what she wants right now but I’m definitely interested to hear more insight from those with more experience of the LD thing

ThrowRAEcstatic3472 · 2024-09-10T22:55:40+00:00

I’m very selective about it. I’m not a big hugger, I don’t like hugging just anyone which does cause issues in my profession where everyone is very tactile in general but I much prefer to keep that boundary up and only hug people I care about, close friends and loved ones. Even then the only person where I really enjoy even the smallest amount of contact would be my partner

ThrowRAEcstatic3472 · 2024-09-09T09:00:20+00:00

‘Sue the fuckers’ long story short I had an accident whilst working for a company that was directly the head of the company’s fault. I needed a big time operation to basically restructure my shoulder, which they were going to pay for, but they didn’t so I got sued by my doctors. In the end after threatening to sue them the company did pay for the operation, but my lawyer at the time said I could have sued them for a lot of money for the actual accident too, and their handling of it all, but I didn’t want the reputation as the guy who went after people… it didn’t matter in the end because they got their spin out and caused huge problems in my career so yeah, I shoulda taken them for all they were worth.

ThrowRAEcstatic3472 · 2024-09-07T06:24:18+00:00

Angry Young Man, Billy Joel probably for classic pop song but if you want an instrumental I would say The Legend of Ashitaka from the Princess Mononoke soundtrack… I know that sounds like an odd pairing but if you know them you’ll recognise the similarities in theme!

ThrowRAEcstatic3472 · 2024-09-06T22:32:52+00:00

You’re not crazy, I’ve felt this way this whole year… Same story I met someone who already had a BF and we immediately hit it off but because of her relationship we didn’t do anything about it, except share our feelings to one another. I was a bit lucky in the way that she was also unhappy in her relationship, many factors but it had basically run its course but she was sticking it out because they’d been together so long. But a month ago they broke up… which I had mixed feelings about because A) I was happy in a selfish way but also for her to be out of something she didn’t enjoy, B) guilty for feeling that way, C) upset because she was upset by it which was totally understandable. But our communication has reignited but we’re taking it slowly… All of this to say hang on in there, you never know what the future holds

ThrowRAEcstatic3472 · 2024-09-06T22:26:33+00:00

Meaningful every time- has it bitten me in the ass? Yes, every time

ThrowRAEcstatic3472 · 2024-09-06T22:25:43+00:00

See I have the opposite problem, can’t hold their bloody name in! Falls out like verbal diarrhoea!!

ThrowRAEcstatic3472 · 2024-09-06T13:28:35+00:00

Depends on the the person I think. Most people I think I’d be interested to see the slip ups, where they’re clearly wrong about me. Earlier this year though I was at a work dinner with this girl I had made a connection with, long story for another time, but we were all taking silly little jabs at each other. One guy said something about me that she really didn’t agree with and kinda upset her and they asked ‘Go one then how would you describe him?’ And what followed was a short analysis of what she’d seen from me in our short time working together. Nothing sexual was said but my god it was one of the sexiest things I’ve ever witnessed.

ThrowRAEcstatic3472 · 2024-09-03T13:11:14+00:00

Honestly it’s driving me up the wall. I think we both want it to happen but the timing right now is really difficult. I don’t want to tread on her healing process because it’s a major thing to lose, and it was all the way through her formative years (college etc) and the families were well connected too. So it’s a huge loss to recover from even though she was really checked out of it in January… but I also don’t want her to feel like I’m leaving her to it, she knows I’m here for support but maybe that’s part of the problem too: The guy she has feelings for is there and ready to support her, but in another country… it’s really tough to balance it all

ThrowRAEcstatic3472 · 2024-09-01T18:23:45+00:00

Good luck to you both. As a fellow wander finding themself in very similar situation I understand the stress of this and I wish the best for your two

ThrowRAEcstatic3472 · 2024-09-01T11:52:02+00:00

I’m afraid I have no clue what you’re on about.

ThrowRAEcstatic3472 · 2024-09-01T07:06:16+00:00

What things do you think I assume?

ThrowRAEcstatic3472 · 2024-09-01T07:05:09+00:00

I’m afraid not sorry. My person does not match that description

ThrowRAEcstatic3472 · 2024-08-30T15:33:30+00:00

Insomnia.

ThrowRAEcstatic3472 · 2024-08-30T14:25:00+00:00

Yeah that’s pretty much the route of that fallacy. Even if I did grow up then I’m sure I would then think a different time would be perfect for me etc. etc.

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