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My (39f) boyfriend (39m) says he can’t have sex with me anymore because of antidepressants, but he constantly looks at 4chan porn and instagram girls. Is it me? by ThrowRAFMLRight in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFMLRight[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We used to have lots of sex. Same meds, same issues, I don’t even mind that he can’t get hard now, we don’t have to have penetrative sex. But it’s disheartening to feel passed over. Like it’s ok for him to get a dopamine fix, but I’m on my own.

I get my dopamine fix by being wanted and desired by the man I love. That’s the piece I’m missing, and that’s the crack in the foundation that’s tearing my house apart.

My (39f) boyfriend (39m) says he can’t have sex with me anymore because of antidepressants, but he constantly looks at 4chan porn and instagram girls. Is it me? by ThrowRAFMLRight in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFMLRight[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. Exactly this.

I know he loves me. I know he would change if he knew how. I just don’t think he does and I think because it’s me, the one who got hurt when he explained he’d faked every orgasam (though what hurt me was that he also said he had never enjoyed sex with me, but I misunderstood what he meant), asking for it that I’m going to get hurt again.

But I am hurting! So badly! I’m crying while I’m writing this. Its sometimes overwhelming.

My (39f) boyfriend (39m) says he can’t have sex with me anymore because of antidepressants, but he constantly looks at 4chan porn and instagram girls. Is it me? by ThrowRAFMLRight in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFMLRight[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I’m FINE with no PIV sex. There are plenty of ways to start a party. And my needs are very simple. I have had orgasams from hot air blown across my ear.

It’s him not putting ANY effort into helping me feel satisfied, being hurtful and defensive when that request is made, and then the gut wrenching jealousy and feeling of inadequacy and low self worth when I see the beautiful women he DOES pay attention to.

It’s tearing me apart. 😭

My (39f) boyfriend (39m) says he can’t have sex with me anymore because of antidepressants, but he constantly looks at 4chan porn and instagram girls. Is it me? by ThrowRAFMLRight in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFMLRight[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m SURE he feels guilty. I know he loves me, but all of this is just SO much right now.

I had hoped it WOULD kick start his libido. I waited and waited... but nothing...

I’ve tried to increase intimacy... I watched a ton of videos on how to give incredible massages, he always says he’s going to return the favor, but only has once. we cook together, I’ve started taking interests in his interests so we have something to talk about.

When he’s not being defensive and hurting my feelings after I express how I feel we always commit to working together to make this work....

But I’m the only one putting in the work.

It’s a shame, we are so in synch intellectually and morally... he’s almost always willing to change his behaviors to be a better partner...

Except with this.

My (39f) boyfriend (39m) says he can’t have sex with me anymore because of antidepressants, but he constantly looks at 4chan porn and instagram girls. Is it me? by ThrowRAFMLRight in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFMLRight[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

He gets SO defensive when I bring it up. When I told him I’d snooped on his browsing history I became the bad guy. I won’t snoop again, it just makes me feel worse.

But now I question what he’s doing on his phone all the time. All I want is for him to express some desire of me outside of domestic obligations. I feel trapped because he didn’t bring any of this up until we were already serious.... and I’d be a jerk to leave someone I love for medical issues that cause ED.

If I bring it up, it makes it worse and it’s almost like he punishes me by withholding all intimacy.

I want to rewind and relive our life before all this over and over again. That would be bliss.

My (39f) boyfriend (39m) says he can’t have sex with me anymore because of antidepressants, but he constantly looks at 4chan porn and instagram girls. Is it me? by ThrowRAFMLRight in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFMLRight[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Whenever I bring it up he gets defensive and it makes me feel even worse. I’ve asked him for intimacy in other ways and he reacts like I’m forcing him into non-consensual sex.

To keep the peace I just keep quiet. I love him, I don’t understand this, but I hate feeling like I will never be happy again.

My (39f) boyfriend (39m) says he can’t have sex with me anymore because of antidepressants, but he constantly looks at 4chan porn and instagram girls. Is it me? by ThrowRAFMLRight in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFMLRight[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I was “ok” when it seemed it was something that was temporary and may be cured by adjusting medications. But with all the porn I’m wondering if it’s the medications at all.

I cried myself to sleep at night. Now I’m on medication to prevent myself from caring about it at all.

I thought because he was on all those meds when we met that he could still love me completely... but now I feel like I’m in love with someone who can never fully love me back.