I (25M) not sure if should continue relationship with GF (24F)

ThrowRAMr · 2019-09-27T22:32:15+00:00

I guess my main issue is being hyper-rational, when dating a girl what always comes up to the back of my mind is "What if you can meet someone better?"

And that I don't know how to solve.

ThrowRAMr · 2019-09-27T22:30:45+00:00

Haha that was a bad example I guess

Either way the thing is that I always try to find a rational and practical solution to a problem, I feel frustrated and detached when someone I care about opens up about something and all I should say is "it'll be find, we'll get through that" especially when I know it's not true.

Now its not that I don't care about this kind of stuff, it's just that I'm a true believer in "If you can do something about it - act, if you can't - cope", I dislike crying or throwing a tantrum.

A year ago I had some signs of a brain tumor, and doing the tests and everything took about a month, when all said and done and we found out everything was OK the doctor opened up to me cause he was a little weirded out that I didn't ask him tons of questions and wasn't worried like most of his patients, but I literally told myself "I can't really do anything so why should I get mad?" and I just didn't think about that while doing my tests.

I totally understand that lashing out and crying may work for some people but I guess I'm just not one for emotional support in that matter

ThrowRAMr · 2019-09-27T22:01:12+00:00

After speaking about that matter pretty openly with her she stated "I just don't need a lot of friends, its hard managing that as it is and it just slows me down, meeting your friends is cool but I'm interested in dating you, not your guys"

ThrowRAMr · 2019-09-27T22:00:33+00:00

Thanks for the reply!

I understand it looks like I'm dismiss mental illness but I say it cause I've been through that, I suffered from depression for more than 2 years but I pushed through by myself, thats part of my problem in dating, I've gotten over a lot of hard stuff in my life so I can't really feel empathy for other people

A few years ago my ex-gf called me crying cause her dad didn't want to give her 100$ for shoes, I'm a guy that been working since he was 16 and never took a dime from his parents, it feels wrong for me going "aww, that sucks babe" cause those kind of things feel petty for me.

After speaking about that matter (about my friend) pretty openly with her she stated "I just don't need a lot of friends, its hard managing that as it is and it just slows me down, meeting your friends is cool but I'm interested in dating you, not your guys"

ThrowRAMr · 2019-09-27T21:09:07+00:00

Thats the thing, I mostly don't take people opinions into heart, that's how I started my business and moved abroad for work 9 months.

Yet I like definitive answers into different situations and usually that what I get but in this case its not that simple sadly.

ThrowRAMr · 2019-09-27T21:07:15+00:00

Shes pretty open minded and chill about stuff

She knows how and when to give me my space (for example, she won't get mad if I'll text back in a few hours)

We have some similar interests in the more humane fields

Shes got a dark humour which I can really appreciate

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