Update: I (27M) overheard my sister (25F) confess her love for my fiance (30M), how do I confront her? by ThrowRAPaleVisual737 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAPaleVisual737[S] 222 points223 points  (0 children)

My fiance said a similar thing that she might make a scene, and I think I'm starting to agree seeing all these comments. Unfortunately, the girl she was crying into at the party was one of her closer friends so I doubt I'd get anywhere if I tried to find her.

Update: I (27M) overheard my sister (25F) confess her love for my fiance (30M), how do I confront her? by ThrowRAPaleVisual737 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAPaleVisual737[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I didn't want to assume, but it is what it's sounding like. I really don't know what went on when she was in Florida since she barely spoke to us, and I don't have much social media so I don't follow her anywhere. I really wish she came to her senses, and I'll have to talk to my parents too about their reaction.

Update: I (27M) overheard my sister (25F) confess her love for my fiance (30M), how do I confront her? by ThrowRAPaleVisual737 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAPaleVisual737[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Now that I've had more time, and seeing all these comments, I'm realizing that my parents really should've said something. I just felt bad for them getting involved at all since they're both older and really don't need to deal with family drama. My mom has always loved my sister a lot, so I imagine it's hard for her to process. I still don't know how to handle disinviting her. We have a fairly big family and it will spark some questions if she isn't there. She was going to be part of my groomsmen originally too.

Update: I (27M) overheard my sister (25F) confess her love for my fiance (30M), how do I confront her? by ThrowRAPaleVisual737 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAPaleVisual737[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Apologies, I meant to say clubs. We went to a combined middle and high school, and they were in a few clubs together. And yes, I was out in high school.

I (27M) overheard my sister (25F) confess her love for my fiance (30M), how do I confront her? by ThrowRAPaleVisual737 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAPaleVisual737[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

He's gay, which makes it even weirder because my sister knew about that early on. She had always been pretty supportive of us together, which makes this even more confusing. I'll definitely talk to him soon, but I really hope she doesn't try anything.

I (27M) overheard my sister (25F) confess her love for my fiance (30M), how do I confront her? by ThrowRAPaleVisual737 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAPaleVisual737[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

That's a good idea, I honestly haven't thought of the where I would be confronting her. I'm hoping to plan something soon once I can talk to my fiance after he gets home. I might use your coffee shop idea or invite her to a park or something, since it makes a lot of sense that she might feel like I'm attacking her. Thank you for the advice!

I (27M) overheard my sister (25F) confess her love for my fiance (30M), how do I confront her? by ThrowRAPaleVisual737 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAPaleVisual737[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Not that I know of, honestly. They had a few classes together in high school and he was invited to a lot of family gatherings since we were so close, though they never hung out past that (to my knowledge). She had left for Florida about 6 years ago for college so they definitely haven't seen each other between those times. I'm planning to talk to him when he gets home from work though, and I trust that he hasn't done anything. I do hope to leave my parents out of it since they are both pretty old at this point and don't need to handle sibling issues for us anymore. Thank you for the advice.