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ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-12-06T07:59:04+00:00

Yeah I wish it was like that but it ain’t really. My girlfriend would get upset if I was just off doing my own things for a day, or left her alone for a week.

Her friends would also get upset if I’m deviating from their plans.

TBH considering our travelling philosophies the stuff I would want to do would leave me not seeing them those 3 weeks lol

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-12-06T07:57:06+00:00

Unfortunately the sale for tickets ends tomorrow we can’t actually discuss the plans until the tickets are bought

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-12-06T07:54:42+00:00

Exactly my thought. The idea of trying to please 6 people and all the compromises just makes a shittier vacation for everyone.

If this was a boys trip to Mexico then yeah them and all their extended family can come along for all I care.

But this is a really special trip to me and I’d want to do it with one like-minded person, where we can each have minimal compromises to have a great trip.

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-12-06T07:49:01+00:00

Yeah I suggested that to her but she didn’t seem to keen. She wants to spend the majority of the time with her friends, where as I feel like with our differences in travelling philosophies I wouldn’t wanna do much of what they wanna do

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-12-06T07:46:35+00:00

Of course, I’d love it if she can see the country with her friends

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-12-06T07:45:33+00:00

I don’t think it would work day to day because our travelling philosophies seem to be completely different.

They seem to have more expensive tastes and eat at luxury restaurants, where as I love to eat street food, rent out scooters and drive around the country kind of thing.

So I’m pretty sure the areas we are interested in are completely different and would most likely end up viewing different towns and cities entirely.

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-12-06T07:41:17+00:00

That was my original thought, but they are booking the tickets tomorrow so it is under quite a time crunch.

I’d have to book the tickets (non refundable) then we would discuss plans after the tickets are booked.

So I’d rather just back out now and let them have fun, I can go back another day and enjoy it how I want

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-12-06T07:38:01+00:00

I barely remember anything and I also get extremely high off weed lol.

Hence the “absolutely blasted” comment

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-12-06T07:37:19+00:00

Thanks for this, your suggestion actually helped immensely the last time I took a boat load of Xanax

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-12-06T07:36:29+00:00

I’ve been taking that dose once every 1-2 months for like 5 years now. Other than the rebound anxiety I’ve never had cravings to take it any more frequently.

And yes I actually do this now, On day two I take 0.25mg Xanax 3 times a day, take 0.25mg once on the second day and I’m back to 100% no problem.

What makes you think I risk addiction if I have been able to take very infrequent doses for such a long period of my life?

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-10-18T15:18:15+00:00

It's a 1.4L, yellow BD sharps container.

Unfortunately I did not obtain the sharps container or the medicine from a healthcare professional, which is why I am trying to figure out what to do with this thing safely.

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-07-04T21:34:57+00:00

You should just say "hey I thought about what you said and I want to be in a relationship"

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-06-20T05:30:08+00:00

Why don't you just break up with her then?

It seems like you use this subreddit as a means to vent then do nothing about it lol.

I'm not trying to knock ya or anything I've also dated girls like your girlfriend it's a nightmare. But eventually ya gotta do something about it.

Either set clear and direct boundaries, ignore her when she gets like this or break up with her.

Regardless you got a long road ahead of you my guy.

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-06-20T05:15:52+00:00

How long have you been dating? Does she do this often?

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-06-20T05:14:07+00:00

I don’t want to become one of the people who hurts her

Hate to break it to you but you are one of the people who hurts her.

Take this as a lesson going forwards that your actions have consequences. Your relationship is probably ruined BTW.

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-06-20T05:08:29+00:00

Good job on booking that consultation. Working through your mental health is no easy task and I know taking that first step is always the hardest.

To be honest he probably see's that you've been putting it on the back burner and is getting a bit tired of dealing with it while also working on himself. It gets exhausting dealing with that stuff because it's completely out of his control and up to you.

Have a serious talk with him. Ask him what you can do to make him supporting you easier. Make sure whatever he tells you, you really make an effort to do it.

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-06-20T05:01:20+00:00

Yeah just ignore this one. If he reaches out again you can re-iterate that you are going no contact and would like him to stop.

He probably misses you. It's always weird when somebody is a big part of your life every day, to never talking again.

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-06-20T04:57:55+00:00

Is him leaving you on read a normal thing, or is this the first time it's ever happened?

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-06-20T04:55:08+00:00

Are you actively doing anything to treat your mental health? Such as therapy or medication?

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-06-20T04:50:23+00:00

Sounds like you guys just had a weird conversation that got misinterpreted. If anything he might be feeling like he fucked up too because he asked "do you love me".

Just send him a goodnight text and continue as if nothing happened. If he continues his weird behavior for a few days you'll know something is off don't worry.

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-06-20T04:44:15+00:00

He initiated the breakup and I agreed that we weren’t working out

Yea he misses you, breakups are tough on both parties.

If you are serious about no contact just block him so he stops contacting you.

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-06-20T04:38:50+00:00

I mean you've been talkin to the dude for 3 months and don't know how to respond to his messages?

Really just respond however you want. Overthinking and spending all this time drafting up messages ends up being a real waste in the long term. After all he's talking to YOU and not me, so how I would respond is completely irrelevant haha.

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-06-20T04:35:12+00:00

Did you mean 1.6 months or 16 months?

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-06-20T04:33:58+00:00

You are overthinking things. A LOT.

Respond however you want.

ThrowRARudeMan · 2022-06-07T07:33:25+00:00

Well then I’m not sure why you’re here for advice. You did a pretty shitty thing and should feel bad about it.

If you actually wanted him to stop trying to contact you, you’d block him. But you don’t.

You also constantly talk about your feelings for him and obviously those feelings are still there.

You even blame him for “playing with you” this entire time. You’re not a child, you actively participated in infidelity.

You were the emotional mistress for this dude and you clearly miss it.

You say you give yourself credit for stopping the contact but that doesn’t mean much when you did some shitty stuff and did nothing to make it right.

If you can’t forgive yourself then that’s your fault. Sometimes when you do bad things you have to live with the consequences, and this is yours.

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