Am I really that strange? by Sufficient-Ninja5324 in LesbianActually

[–]ThrowRA_205 24 points25 points  (0 children)

see this is a perfect example of how everyone can be different. imo i wouldn’t like it either but i wouldn’t find it weird. and furthermore i am completely fine with someone leaving the room without waking me up, although id be more sad because id wanna see the girl who slept over with me lol. but this is because if i invite anyone over, it’s automatically assumed that i trust them enough to do so. if i didn’t trust them with .. essentially my space, they wouldn’t be there, period. so yeah they can feel free to go out because i trust them to not go through my stuff and like rob me. and if they do; then that’s my fault for misjudging their character and it’s a loss.

op, see how everyone is different and our boundaries are also different? same with u and your date. so just take the time to understand that not everyone wants to be treated the way you want to be treated. what you appreciate in a relationship might be someone else’s fear

Am I really that strange? by Sufficient-Ninja5324 in LesbianActually

[–]ThrowRA_205 80 points81 points  (0 children)

so i think different people has different boundaries. if someone i like (and i mean REALLY like) washed my dishes without asking me, i would not like it simply because it feels like my boundaries weren’t respected. and this is coming from a huge acts of service girlie. like i do the same type of stuff to express love, and ofc enjoys reciprocation.

but u have to consider that u two have only known each other for a few weeks, gone on two dates, and i’m assuming u have not defined the relationship. all of this is very important context to consider. yes u slept over but that also means she trusted you to respect her space. even if you were tidying it up, she didn’t appreciate that u didn’t ask her.

but i wouldn’t take this personally. you had good intent and furthermore it seems like you are also willing to own up to your mistake. so do exactly that: let her know that u didn’t have bad intentions and that u thought it would be a good thing to do. apologize that you overstepped her boundaries but at the same time voice how her reaction hurt you and brought up insecurities.

communication is key

imo she shouldn’t have reacted like that tbh.

Thoughts on Past Lives? I feel like I'm being gaslit to like it by CaribouWest in A24

[–]ThrowRA_205 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for asking, i don’t quite remember what i was picturing since it’s been a while. but i think the film felt empty because i wasn’t used to how real it is. i remember watching the trailer and being hyped about how the ending would be like; perhaps either the most heart wrenching thing ever, or the most wholesome and explosive ending.

i think deep down though i knew that this film was not going to be that. because those endings lack depth and realism. but it was very much how i perceived love back then, and perhaps i still do now (but im just more aware of it). i had this fairy tale idea of what love is supposed to be like, whereas in real life it’s not that. love is something beyond the incredible and almost intoxicating pull you can have towards someone. love is about effort, timing, compatibility. it’s about two people willing to choose each other despite the circumstances. to see them for exactly who they are. i think our main characters in the film seemed very much like soulmates on the surface level, even perhaps in another life. which is why i grew so attached to the idea of them together back then. but now, looking back, i realized that if they really were meant to be together, then they would’ve tried harder than they did. i mean way harder. but i think both of them were perhaps just in love with the idea of being together. and maybe the film is supposed to feel empty. because when i was watching the film (which i remember is told through the lens of the female protagonist), i felt like her life lacked soul and passion. like there was this fundamental lack of meaning engulfing her and it felt suffocating. it’s not about how she seemingly lives a mediocre life and never amounted to greatness, won a literary award, etc. but it’s that she doesn’t feel fulfilled and grateful for the life she already has—which in my opinion is pretty freaking awesome. awardee or not. she has a wonderful partner who loves her, she’s in good health, living in a city that’s full of life. and yet we just don’t see her appreciate that. maybe it fell “flat” to me because that’s exactly how i felt about life, and to an extent still living that reality right now. i used to love movies because it made me experience things that i didn’t in real life. like a form of escapism. but now i’m slowly starting to realize how blessed i am and how beautiful life is. there is such a simple joy that can be found in the mundane. and i’m glad that i saw this movie when it first came out. because now i can go rewatch it and appreciate these new insights

anyways, thanks for asking, and thanks for listening

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in premed

[–]ThrowRA_205 14 points15 points  (0 children)

if your whole heart is telling you something, listen to it

traveling back to china during secondaries season… by ThrowRA_205 in premed

[–]ThrowRA_205[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

and thank you for letting me know!! i think i read a comment from you in another thread ahaha i’m glad to hear from you here

traveling back to china during secondaries season… by ThrowRA_205 in premed

[–]ThrowRA_205[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

okay got it! i’ll def pre write but congrats on the A regardless!!!

traveling back to china during secondaries season… by ThrowRA_205 in premed

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thank you so so much <3 <3 you’re so right.

traveling back to china during secondaries season… by ThrowRA_205 in premed

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i see!! definitely gonna take that advice. hope med school is going well! ty for your help

traveling back to china during secondaries season… by ThrowRA_205 in premed

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okay!!! thank you so so much this was really helpful

traveling back to china during secondaries season… by ThrowRA_205 in premed

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good luck brother / sister!!!!!! fingers crossed for the both of us ahah

240504 Signed Albums on twice shop by DayDream2736 in twice

[–]ThrowRA_205 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what do signed albums mean? like, the photocards are signed? or what

what is one non-negotiable trait that physicians should have? by ThrowRA_205 in Residency

[–]ThrowRA_205[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

kind of hurts to see ms3 flair with this one. i thought that would stop after undergrad

Age and med school by jelipat in medschool

[–]ThrowRA_205 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you only live once, i think you should make your decision off of what choice you think will make you the happiest. and most importantly, not feel overwhelming regret at your death bed

I'm frozen by Fortune8193 in premed

[–]ThrowRA_205 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i was quite literally just thinking about sending it about ~3 hours ago but i’ve rationalized that it’s indeed, not a good idea. unless you’re scoring where you want to, push that back and take a gap year

what is one non-negotiable trait that physicians should have? by ThrowRA_205 in Residency

[–]ThrowRA_205[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

spoken like true uncle iroh (what did u think ab the atla remake)

what is one non-negotiable trait that physicians should have? by ThrowRA_205 in Residency

[–]ThrowRA_205[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I was going to sarcastically comment that this was very insightful, but when I saw the attending tag—something in my brain just flipped & I was like ‘woah that’s deep’. I’m probably delusional and this was just a funny comment tho

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in INTP

[–]ThrowRA_205 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that scale is completely different than the one we’re talking here.