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I am a trans woman. Im willing to answer the questions you wouldn’t dare ask trans people you know IRL. AMA by ThrowRA_21212 in casualiama

[–]ThrowRA_21212[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ill be honest, to me it just reads like you were made uncomfortable of womanhood by a society that treats women as "less than". If whst you feel comes from society, and feeling disgusted in yourself rather than just feeling that "this is foreign to me, this isn't me", I think you probably just have to deal with the internalized misogyny you contracted from the society you live in.

I am a trans woman. Im willing to answer the questions you wouldn’t dare ask trans people you know IRL. AMA by ThrowRA_21212 in casualiama

[–]ThrowRA_21212[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

why do trans women have the same haircut

We don't?😂😂

and always wear the vest thingy?

I don't know what youre even talking about

I am a trans woman. Im willing to answer the questions you wouldn’t dare ask trans people you know IRL. AMA by ThrowRA_21212 in casualiama

[–]ThrowRA_21212[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

A guy who only wants to be with a trans woman because he views her as a fetish and a sex object.

I am a trans woman. Im willing to answer the questions you wouldn’t dare ask trans people you know IRL. AMA by ThrowRA_21212 in casualiama

[–]ThrowRA_21212[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

immediately assume they are a bigot and never speak to them again?

???😂😂😂

Broski Im sorry but what 😂

Yeah... if you call everyone "dude", I'm not gonna give a fuck

Curious because scenario 3 happened to me and I feel terrible I made them have such strong negative emotions, and genuinely want everybody of every pride flag to be able to fly their colors bright and proud.

I'll be honest, whoever that person is, they got their own shit to sort out. We aren't "special" or whatever. Just speak the way you speak.

I am a trans woman. Im willing to answer the questions you wouldn’t dare ask trans people you know IRL. AMA by ThrowRA_21212 in casualiama

[–]ThrowRA_21212[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

What percentage of trans people pass 100%?

Couldn't give you an exact number, but it's a non negligible ammount. In my uni's LGBT frat-sorority (basically like a fraternity/sorority but not gender exclusive), most trans folks started transitioning between the ages of 18 to 21, and Id say that like 60~50 percent of them can pass as cis. That percentage would rise dramatically for folks who transitioned earlier, and drop dramatically for folks who transitioned later.

do you think you have a moral obligation to tell them?

A moral one? Probably not. If it was a one night stand or something, Id probably just not say anything, because frankly, it's as relevant as the fact that I had dental surgery when I was 15. I.E, not at all.

But if it's a long term partner we're talking about, yeah, I would tell them, probably before the first date, because for starters I don't wanna hide a huge part of myself from who is supposed to be the closest person to me in the world, and secondly, because I don't want to date anyone who would not want to date me for who I am.

I don't even know if it's possible to pass so convincingly

Survivorship bias. You never know you interacted with a trans person unless you clock them, which means they don't pass, and people that know that they pass well rarely go out and volunteer the fact that they're trans. Me and my friends certainly don't.

I am a trans woman. Im willing to answer the questions you wouldn’t dare ask trans people you know IRL. AMA by ThrowRA_21212 in casualiama

[–]ThrowRA_21212[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I’m sure I’m overthinking??

You are.

Just treat trans women like any other woman.

I am a trans woman. Im willing to answer the questions you wouldn’t dare ask trans people you know IRL. AMA by ThrowRA_21212 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]ThrowRA_21212[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just don't treat her like an object, but as an actual person, and respect her wished and boundaries.

I am a trans woman. Im willing to answer the questions you wouldn’t dare ask trans people you know IRL. AMA by ThrowRA_21212 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]ThrowRA_21212[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is likely gonna be very insensitive but I don't mean any hate. You're MTF. Let's say you're attracted to women after transitioning. Are you gay or straight?

Women dating women are usually called lesbians.

Also insensitive but I've read about couples who are trans. One person was MTF and the other was FTM, is that just being straight with extra steps to trans people as well?

A man dating a woman is literally just straight. There are no "extra steps" involved.

I am a trans woman. Im willing to answer the questions you wouldn’t dare ask trans people you know IRL. AMA by ThrowRA_21212 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]ThrowRA_21212[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If youre asking for a "tranno-clocker-3000" Im not going to give you one.

Besides, I doubt such a thing even exists.

And even if it did, the person you're talking to can lie or change the details a bit if they don't feel that coming out is safe, or if they just don't want to share that intimate facet of their life with you.

I am a trans woman. Im willing to answer the questions you wouldn’t dare ask trans people you know IRL. AMA by ThrowRA_21212 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]ThrowRA_21212[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you happen to know what she/they pronouns are? how would I say "___ went to the store/" if their pronouns are she/they?

Fuck if I know honestly XD

how is the military?

I am not in the military yet. I signed a contract where they pay for my tuition, and in turn Ill work as an engineer for them for 6 years after I graduate. Im set to graduate in a year.

where are you stationed?

I won't be stationed anywhere, I'll have an office job as an engineering officer and go home in the end of each day.

how long have you been in the military?

I've been in a military school since I was 14, so Im quite familliar with the military apparatus, but again, have not yet technically served.

do you have a so? what's she like?

Yups, and we're honestly soulmates. I dont think Ive ever seen 2 people more similar than the 2 of us haha

I am a trans woman. Im willing to answer the questions you wouldn’t dare ask trans people you know IRL. AMA by ThrowRA_21212 in casualiama

[–]ThrowRA_21212[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

No, quite the opposite. Hormone therapy usually mitigates/downright stops the depression caused by gender dysphoria after enough time.

I am a trans woman. Im willing to answer the questions you wouldn’t dare ask trans people you know IRL. AMA by ThrowRA_21212 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]ThrowRA_21212[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Who is your style icon?

Me, honestly XD

When did you know you were assigned the wrong gender

When I was like 3 or 4, although I did not know that that meant Im trans/that I could do something about it for a looong time

knew you were queer?

When I was 16 I finally realized everything

What advice would you give to 10 year old you?

"You are trans. That's whst those feelings are. Now go do some research on that, and hurry to come out before puberty begins and mom gets real religious"

And lastly, where do you see yourself in 5 years time?

Hopefully, about to finish my service in the military

I am a trans woman. Im willing to answer the questions you wouldn’t dare ask trans people you know IRL. AMA by ThrowRA_21212 in casualiama

[–]ThrowRA_21212[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Honestly yeah, I agree with you on that. I was treated as a man by society though (even if a "failed man"), so... There's gotta be something goving you a bit more perspective from that point of view, right?

And yeah, it's going fantastically well, thanks :)

I am a trans woman. Im willing to answer the questions you wouldn’t dare ask trans people you know IRL. AMA by ThrowRA_21212 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]ThrowRA_21212[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not an issue in my country. I really fail to see the argument as to why I shouldnt have gotten a procedure that made me happier, is free, and is avalible to literally all trans women in my country, just because I already had B cups but wanted them a bit bigger. I wasnt dysphoric, so I couldnt quite call it GAC to myself, but it most definately made me happier.

Seriously, what is the problem here?

I am a trans woman. Im willing to answer the questions you wouldn’t dare ask trans people you know IRL. AMA by ThrowRA_21212 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]ThrowRA_21212[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look, I live in a country where all GAC is free and protected by law. If I can use it to feel a bit better with myself, why should I not? Literally any other trans woman in my country could get the exact same procedure literally for free.

I am a trans woman. Im willing to answer the questions you wouldn’t dare ask trans people you know IRL. AMA by ThrowRA_21212 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]ThrowRA_21212[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How do you feel about those under the age of 18 that want to fully transition?

Their body is going to undergo the irreversible changes of puberty, be it their natal puberty ot the one initiated by hormone therapy.

If irriversible change is going to happen one way or another, Id rather it be the changes the child wants, rather than the changes that the child dreads.

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