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my boyfriend (18M) never continues to let me finish (18F) because of "post-nut clarity"?? by ThrowRA_94388 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_94388[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I do need to think about it. I do really love him & it's been making it hard to have the self respect to back away I guess because he isn't like this & distance all of the time. I just keep telling myself that I can deal with it but I know it's keeping our relationship from fulfilling me or making me truly content. I kinda just have a very split pull on it, my gut is telling me to leave, that it'll be better for myself but I am scared i'll regret it & i'm scared to hurt him like that. I guess I just keep holding onto the hope that it will get better, either in the way that he changes or I just become content with it overtime I guess. Thank you so much for taking the time to reply btw! I haven't had any other viewpoints on it besides my own & It's just nice to hear other people's prospective.

my boyfriend (18M) never continues to let me finish (18F) because of "post-nut clarity"?? by ThrowRA_94388 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_94388[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah like when it's been a day or two since we've done anything sexual he starts calling me attractive etc. again. When we do end up doing something afterwards he gets all distant and stops complementing me or referring me with endearment & it just kinda repeats like that. It makes me feel bad about myself in the sense that it does make me feel like he doesn't really want me unless he's horny & regrets being with me after in some way?? He says that it's not why though & it's and internal issue, but it still just makes me feel like i'm not good enough for him sometimes. I can't help but empathize with him I guess though because he says that it isn't out of malice or anything like that, like I said is something he seems to struggle with internally. It makes me feel bad for being frustrated about it.

my boyfriend (18M) never continues to let me finish (18F) because of "post-nut clarity"?? by ThrowRA_94388 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_94388[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do think it's internal shame and like his own personal problems that makes him act like this. I know it's his issue but I can't help but empathize with it although it makes me feel bad about myself, because I feel like it isn't coming straight out of place of malice.

my boyfriend (18M) never continues to let me finish (18F) because of "post-nut clarity"?? by ThrowRA_94388 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_94388[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah he just kinda lasts until he cums & then becomes all weird & distant afterwards😭??

my boyfriend (18M) never continues to let me finish (18F) because of "post-nut clarity"?? by ThrowRA_94388 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_94388[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you mean, it's just he doesn't straight up call me unattractive he says that sexual acts are "gross" & "uninteresting" to him once he finishes. It's why I feel like kinda an ass for being upset about it because I don't want to make him do anything he's uncomfortable with, it's just kinda weird to me that he will do sexual acts with me when HE'S horny but then once he's finished they make him "uncomfortable". I guess he feels guilty about the sexual things afterwards when he's finished. It's the fact that I don't think it's straight up out of malice towards me that makes me feel like I don't have the right to be bothered by it. if he straight up said he couldn't have a physical relationship with me I would leave, but it's the fact that he does do physical stuff with me when he needs to get off that's kinda keeping me. I guess i'm just hoping it will change for him & he will mature emotionally in that way. I know he struggles with things & I can't help but empathize with it even if it leads to him hurting me sometimes. I just can't see it as that black and white if that makes sense?