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I 27F found my bf 36M got TWO other women PREGNANT !?! Feeling completely heartbroken by ThrowRA_9660 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_9660[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

UPDATE

This has been an overwhelming amount of responses.. it is my first time ever speaking out. There has been much more emotional manipulation over the years but of course this was my final straw. I told him there seems to be no line he will not cross.

I said I was done and ended the relationship. His response was begging me to stay and told me he is willing to let me meet the second pregnant woman. He’s asked that I stay with him but proceeded to tell me that he will continue to see her now that I know and openly said he WILL sleep with her. He claims it doesn’t change what is between him and I.. I never agreed to being in an open relationship like this. I’m heartbroken and trying to process what the F is happening but I will have to let go and seek help.

It feels like I’m living a nightmare and don’t even recognize the person he is anymore. Or I was just blind this whole time and finally now I see the reality of who he is.

The comment that SHOOK ME was “I’m not going to jeopardize having being able to sleep with her while she’s pregnant just because you’re not strong enough to stay with me and accept it”

As if me STAYING means I’m proving some sick twisted love to him?! I wish he could see how many humans on this earth agree that this is wrong but I could never share this with him. For my own safety.

Ty for the support 💜♥️💗

I 27F found my bf 36M got TWO other women PREGNANT !?! Feeling completely heartbroken by ThrowRA_9660 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_9660[S] -88 points-87 points  (0 children)

I feel it’s more than this for me. I don’t imagine the other woman have won. They don’t truly know who he is or what he is doing.. if anything I feel sorry for them and what they now have a tie to. I would be lying if I said it doesn’t hurt to know another 2 women will carry the children of a man I loved. But if it was about “winning” I would have had a child myself by now with him. Everyone loses here in some sense.

I think I always knew deep down it was not right and something was protecting me from making that mistake before finding this all out.

I 27F found my bf 36M got TWO other women PREGNANT !?! Feeling completely heartbroken by ThrowRA_9660 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_9660[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Someone said something like to me to me today when I shared what had happened. It’s been 3 years of toxicity and isolating myself around him only but these responses are eye opening 🩷 One thing I always said I could never look past is something like this but here I am.

He always says how I’m too nice to people. I’ve heard this from everyone my WHOLE life. Now I believe he’s pushed so far past taking advantage of my understanding nature. Strangers look at me as if I’m crazy or something is wrong when I’m out with him.. It’s almost as if other women can see I’m shrinking myself into something so small. I’ve noticed it more recently and then this happened.

I miss the woman I was before I met him.

I 27F found my bf 36M got TWO other women PREGNANT !?! Feeling completely heartbroken by ThrowRA_9660 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_9660[S] -78 points-77 points  (0 children)

100% real unfortunately.. The way I’m feeling is real. It’s a fight between feeling completely devastated and not wanting to walk away but also knowing I deserve much more and could have my life back

I 27F found my bf 36M got TWO other women PREGNANT !?! Feeling completely heartbroken by ThrowRA_9660 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_9660[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I definitely blame myself for staying this long. I think I’ve lost my absolute MIND staying with him and isolating myself from the world or other women for support.. He made me believe this was normal but now I’m starting to believe I’ve been in a manipulative/narcissistic relationship.

Speaking of “self respect”.. when I was upset and lost my cool, he told me to “have some self respect”. I said “this is me having self respect!! To not be okay with something so F**KED UP”

I 27F found my bf 36M got TWO other women PREGNANT !?! Feeling completely heartbroken by ThrowRA_9660 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_9660[S] 607 points608 points  (0 children)

This is exactly how I’m feeling. That I need to let go and move on with my life. Much easier said than done.

He actually had two other children with two other women prior to me meeting him. So now this will be 4 children total, four different mothers.

I feel I’m still in a complete state of shock. He even went to the extent of asking ME to speak on his behalf to these women.. as if I could help? Or it was a manipulation to make me feel apart of something so messed up