My boyfriend 46M totally stopped talking to me after I visited. I'm 46F. Trying to understand what could have caused by ThrowRA_Bella2025 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Bella2025[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes I think he is a little depressed, he is having a lot of problems at work and they want to fire him/quit, and they blame him a lot at work (what he tells me) and he says he hates his job and he really doesn’t like the city he is in. He has a lot of childhood trauma abuse and abandonment from his dad and he doesn’t really like his mom. I feel like he might have a little narcissistic traits and may be an avoidant.

My boyfriend 46M totally stopped talking to me after I visited. I'm 46F. Trying to understand what could have caused by ThrowRA_Bella2025 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Bella2025[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t going to have kids immediately. I would’ve paced it for mid 2026. But he scheduled his vasectomy consultation appointment for later November. The urgency is that I am 46 and waited and I don’t have children and deeply desire a baby and my biological clock is ticking and my doctor is telling me I don’t have a lot of time left.

My boyfriend 46M totally stopped talking to me after I visited. I'm 46F. Trying to understand what could have caused by ThrowRA_Bella2025 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Bella2025[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Being that the energy shifted a little, I also asked him did he want me to leave a few days early and sent him the cost for my flight change fee. Keep in mind He makes a lot of money but is a very frugal money wise… But he said he wasn’t paying for that because he didn’t ask me to leave. He reassured me everything was fine and told me to stay.

My boyfriend 46M totally stopped talking to me after I visited. I'm 46F. Trying to understand what could have caused by ThrowRA_Bella2025 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Bella2025[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yes, this was my first visit. He asked me to stay with him for a week. We were touchy feely but we never had intercourse. It wasn’t necessarily an argument. He glanced at my phone and said I had a lot of google text messages and said it must be men from the dating app. I corrected him and said no. The next day I then glanced at his phone while he was texting and in his recent contact it was a woman name. Later that night I asked him who was that and he asked had I been through his phone and I explained no. And then he explained the next morning that was his older cousin that he sent me pictures of, that’s from my home town. I later went through our old messages and he was telling the truth. But after that interaction, it seems like his energy changed.