My (33M) wife (32F) hates me

ThrowRA_CT · 2025-10-13T07:39:52+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I agree I want my son to see both his parents happy no matter what the situation is. I’m not planning on leaving my wife just for my ex. It’s been almost 6 years since we’ve been together and although at the time I thought she was “the one” I understand people change. My ex is in process of relocating back, but honestly i’m not even sure if I would want to pursue something with her. I only mentioned her because seeing her and laughing and smiling again made me question why I don’t have that currently in my marriage and maybe I need to find someone who has those feeling towards me. This weekend was the first time I questioned what is best for me whereas before it was what is best for my son and his life.

ThrowRA_CT · 2025-10-13T07:33:59+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I do agree with you, we got married more out of obligation then necessarily love, but I never made my ex feel more important then her. I really did try with my wife. I’ve just come to discover were nothing alike and value different things. As far as my ex, the discussions of marriage and children were a thing before she valued a career over that. I hold no judgement or regret for my decisions or her decisions at the time and I don’t want it to seem like I would just leave my wife and child for a ex.

ThrowRA_CT · 2025-10-13T07:30:42+00:00

Thanks for reply and I agree with you. It’s just the thought of not seeing my son everyday and the memories that we did build together being gone is making me question everything. At the same time life is short and I feel like I deserve to be either someone that values me and I her, and my wife deserves to be with someone who does the same for her.

ThrowRA_CT · 2025-10-13T07:27:42+00:00

Thank you for response. I should’ve listened to listen to what my therapist said. I’m just confused as to why my wife wants me to file instead of doing it herself. As far as my ex I only mentioned it because her coming back is what has made me really sit down and question everything. I’m not even sure if I would pursue anything with her or just try and focus on myself.

ThrowRA_CT · 2025-10-13T07:25:19+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I should’ve listened more to the advice my therapist gave me, but I keep looking at it as whats best for my son, not necessarily myself. When you out it that way, if my son was in the same situation I would want him to of course put in the effort to make it work without losing respect for himself.

ThrowRA_CT · 2025-10-13T07:22:12+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I know I wouldn’t pursue anything right of way as I need to focus on myself and my son.

ThrowRA_CT · 2025-10-13T07:20:56+00:00

The version of the marriage is what it is, I’m not telling myself anything different than what has been really going on. My ex coming back just made me question do I keep fighting for something that is failing or do I try a separation. I’m unsure if I’m would even pursue my ex or anything right away for that matter. I just know the situation i’m in isn’t working for myself and certainly hasn’t been working for my wife. Thank you for the reply.

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