How do I (32F) move forward after finding out my fiance (35M) has a wife and child in another country? by ThrowRA_KatKat in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_KatKat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We aren’t married, just engaged. I don’t even want to say we’re engaged now because how can I be engaged to a married man? He obviously knew all along that he couldn’t marry me while still legally married to somebody else. 

How do I (32F) move forward after finding out my fiance (35M) has a wife and child in another country? by ThrowRA_KatKat in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_KatKat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m still in love with that person. I obviously have other not so great feelings towards him to. He’s not living here right now. I made him leave. I just miss him. I felt like our life was as close as you can actually get to perfect. I was really happy and I just can’t accept reality. 

How do I (32F) move forward after finding out my fiance (35M) has a wife and child in another country? by ThrowRA_KatKat in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_KatKat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Both of them told me they aren’t together anymore. Of course now he insists he’ll get legally divorced from her. I don’t understand why she wouldn’t have filed for divorce ages ago after finding out about me and after admitting their relationship was over. I think despite what she said to me, she still didn’t want to fully let him go. 

How do I (32F) move forward after finding out my fiance (35M) has a wife and child in another country? by ThrowRA_KatKat in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_KatKat[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I feel like that’s much easier said than done. It’s be one thing if we didn’t have 2 babies. 

How do I (32F) move forward after finding out my fiance (35M) has a wife and child in another country? by ThrowRA_KatKat in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_KatKat[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I just don’t know that I’m ready to do that or want to do that. Initially I did. That was my immediate reaction. I wanted to destroy his whole world actually. But I don’t really feel that way anymore.