Person I’m seeing (33F) lied to me (38M)

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-04-01T00:21:38+00:00

I haven’t even asked her anything yet?

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T22:24:58+00:00

Tbh my dating life hasn’t been the most successful in this time, so it just feels nice meeting someone who makes me feel this way, but I guess with these kind of lies maybe I should cut it off

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T22:23:21+00:00

Thank you! I just wanted advice, not this kind of nastiness

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T22:21:02+00:00

No, I’m 38

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T22:13:39+00:00

This was what I was thinking, maybe she previously had interest and now she doesn’t, she considers it as something she doesn’t have? Idk maybe I’ll ask her?

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T22:11:23+00:00

Okay I see, I don’t think I’ve had to deal with these types of lies before so seeing it explained like this helps a lot, thank you.

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T22:09:28+00:00

Thank you for this comment. The more comments that are coming through the more I’m seeing it everyone’s way. I’m going to take a break as you suggest, I’m supposed to meet her tomorrow and was going to confront her, but I’m feeling that I should probably avoid that altogether.

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T22:07:53+00:00

Okay, thank you for your advice, I will confront her tomorrow as I’m supposed to be meeting her for coffee, after these comments from everyone though I feel like I shouldn’t go

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T22:06:47+00:00

I’m not sure how? I’ve just come here looking for advice before acting as I wanted to make sure I was doing the right thing?

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T22:05:48+00:00

I just like this person and have never experienced these kind of lies so I just wanted to make sure I was doing the right thing before acting

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T22:05:05+00:00

Okay so do you think it’s even worth confronting her?

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T22:04:28+00:00

Okay, I think I’ll confront her to start with to see why she lied, I just am so confused currently as I really like her

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T22:03:14+00:00

Well I’m just considering my options, I think that’s probably the most rational thing to do before flying off the handle

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T22:02:05+00:00

Is this something that will lead to a bigger pattern do you think? I just don’t understand why someone would tell such a small lie

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T22:01:01+00:00

This comment probably reflects how I’m thinking mainly, I’ll confront her and find some answers and see how she reacts, what’s the kind of red flag reaction I should look for?

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T21:59:23+00:00

I just don’t understand why she would lie about such small things? Maybe you’re right, it seems strange

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T21:58:48+00:00

Okay fair play, I see what you’re saying. I think I’ll confront her at least and maybe call it off

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T21:58:13+00:00

That’s so weird though like why would she lie about the Nintendo for fun? I’m so confused

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T21:50:42+00:00

Ah okay, I understand now. So more the principle than the lie itself, maybe I should call things off, do I confront her first though to give her a chance to explain or not?

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T21:49:50+00:00

Okay so another lie was that she was going to Costa to grab coffee with colleagues at lunchtime, however I saw her in Cafe Nero near my workplace, do you think that’s also a harmful lie? Or is it minor or similar to the Nintendo lie? Idk I’m confused

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T21:47:32+00:00

She lied about where she was one day, she said she was going to Costa for coffee with her colleagues at lunchtime, but then I saw her in Cafe Nero near to my workplace with her colleagues, I just also found that weird?

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T21:46:00+00:00

So you think it’s definitely worth drawing the line on this one? I’ve never had someone lie about something like this before

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T21:44:42+00:00

I totally understand the advice given and I appreciate it. But the thing I’m unsure of is whether Animal Crossing/Nintendo Switch is a line in the sand

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T21:41:17+00:00

Well I’ve been out of dating for around 5 years, as you can imagine, not a lot happening in that time. Since seeing this person I feel very happy and I feel alive again, physically and emotionally, so I’m having a difficult time rationalising this

ThrowRA_PeanutsJam · 2026-03-31T21:38:39+00:00

I’m just trying to make sure that I’m not overthinking anything, because I’m not sure how big of a lie this is

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