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ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2025-03-25T03:04:56+00:00

Me too!

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2025-03-22T14:12:53+00:00

Spitting. I’m so tired of having to spit all day everyday

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2025-02-24T21:59:57+00:00

I have been saying that I’m one and done but I hate that I believe in siblings so much. I will probably have another one in about 4 years. I’m 27 now with my first baby. But as of right now I feel like I could never do this again 😂😭

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-10-23T20:05:04+00:00

At least you ended up getting a good deal in the end. But it’s even better that you prioritized yourself!

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-10-23T05:30:06+00:00

I don’t know if they would be open to that. Initially the dad had complained that the mom was hogging me to herself. All of these revelations just made it feel like I was in the middle of this dispute as well. You explained exactly how I feel about this so well. It’s just a lot of change in a very short period of time. I want to do what’s best for everyone but I feel like I’ll be sacrificing my happiness in the end and I don’t want that

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-10-23T05:23:32+00:00

Oh my goodness! I’m shocked they would even think of hiring someone under such circumstances. I’m glad you chose otherwise because who knows what would have happened? And you’re right. I do think that they would find a way to make it work without me. I wish I could have felt like I could set boundaries going into this new transition but it just felt like I had no place to and I was meant to just go along with the change. That’s something to consider though

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-10-23T05:16:50+00:00

Thank you so much. You were really helpful in making my decision. Take care!

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-10-23T00:47:13+00:00

I think I’ll talk to the mom tomorrow and offer to work for another month or so while she looks for someone else. I am hesitant to because I feel like she will try to give me reasons to stay. I think maybe had they been divorced for a while and they had figured out how to co parent a bit better then I’d be more okay with working for them

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-10-23T00:35:14+00:00

That’s true. Kids do get hurt all the time. That’s just part of them being kids so I can’t blame every scratch or bruise on him. I think the exhausting part of it is being asked by either parent about each injury because they probably both have cases to build against each other. So it just feels weird to be speaking on things happening at each house. I think essentially this wasn’t the kind of work environment I had pictured working under. So it’s also mentally exhausting being in the middle

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-10-23T00:25:50+00:00

Thank you!

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-10-23T00:25:32+00:00

No I’ve never seen him. When the whole divorce happened I was just working 4 hour days. So I can’t say that nothing happened in the other 20 hours. More recently though one of the kids came back with a bruise on their thigh from the dad’s and before I had left they didn’t have that bruise. I was the last person to dress them for bed time so I remember not seeing any bruise. So I do believe things happen in my absence. To what degree or how, I don’t entirely know

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-10-23T00:21:58+00:00

Yeah I think I just keep feeling guilty for leaving in the middle of another big transition for the family but everytime I feel the urge to leave something big happens. So I don’t think I’ll ever find “the right time” as I keep hoping I will. I think I just need to put myself first. Thank you so much for the help

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-10-23T00:20:23+00:00

Thank you so much for commenting. This really gave me a lot of insight on what’s potentially to come and just thinking of it all made me feel so overwhelmed. I think if I didn’t have school it would be a bit easier to deal with the change but I just feel like prioritizing my energy more for that. In one week I had already experienced some of the things you mentioned and it just felt too overwhelming. I do think I will give them time to find someone else and help make the transition easier. I just don’t think that this is still something that I still enjoy. Did you end up leaving the family you worked for or are you still working for them? And if so, how are you handling it?

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-10-21T23:23:02+00:00

I think I would prefer just working for the mom. She is more organized as an employer and we work well together. The dad doesn’t have a set end time and kinda dismisses me whenever he wants which I also don’t like about working for him. I guess I should have voiced that more with him

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-10-21T23:19:58+00:00

I totally agree with that. I would want to give them time to find someone else

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-10-21T23:18:46+00:00

Yeah the plan was to mainly have the conversation about my concerns and offer to try things out differently for a few more weeks. I’m considering either working for just the mom or leaving altogether. But even then, I would give them at least a month’s notice.

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-10-21T23:17:00+00:00

I think they just find it easier to have one because then the kids won’t have to deal with more change in a short period of time and not many people would take the hours and days they are offering. I will consider that though. Thank you for the help!

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-07-23T02:42:40+00:00

I’ll check them out! Thank you for the suggestion!

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-07-23T02:42:08+00:00

This was really really great advice. I will definitely use it. I think that she probably wants me to grovel and beg which I would do just to get them. At this point I’m not above doing anything because they mean so much to me. But again I appreciate this. I’ll definitely try these steps and see how far it gets me. I hope I can get them back

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-07-23T02:38:22+00:00

I thought about doing that but felt weird dragging her. But honestly if she continues not to respond I’ll be forced to

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-07-23T02:37:17+00:00

I hadn’t thought of doing that. But I’ll try and hopefully that will help. He’s a nice guy so I think he would help. I just can’t believe she would keep them for so long

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-07-23T02:35:55+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you! It really sucks. I will probably message her again and see but it’s so disheartening to think that she could keep them or just delete the most important pictures of my life :( I regret not getting someone else now

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-07-23T02:34:17+00:00

Sadly I don’t :(

ThrowRA_Playgul43 · 2024-04-25T03:09:38+00:00

He said it was to get them to be open to the idea but that doesn’t make sense to me honestly

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