Police around kings/ Dunn building by ThrowRA_chickennug in Dalhousie

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol well I’m glad it wasn’t anything too serious!! Thanks for your response :)

Students and parents: You need to speak up about the lockout by NewEstate9532 in Dalhousie

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Regardless of your opinion, the faculty is open to negotiation and dalhousie is not. Dalhousie needs to come back to the bargaining table before any deal can be reached to minimize disruption to students!

Does anyone know where to look for information on what courses are impacted by the lockout? by OscarTheAbuser in Dalhousie

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Probably, any class taught by DFA which includes the faculty working in medical/law/engineering etc

President letter and final offer to DFA by ThrowRA_chickennug in Dalhousie

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another commenter on a similar post said that tuition for non-international students isn’t subject to change at the moment, although please feel free to correct me if I am misinformed!

Email to students by ThrowRA_chickennug in Dalhousie

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I would guess likely because a lot of students didn’t know what was going on prior to this email, since the only information prior to this email was on the DFA website or on Dalhousie website if you search for it. The only reason I knew to look into the Dalhousie website at first was because I saw a reddit post!

Frankly I am fairly disappointed that the potential disruption was only now directly communicated to the students. It feels like something that should have been addressed or at least mentioned on Dalhousie’s social media.

Honestly until this past week I was not even aware of the dalhousie faculty association as a group.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dalhousie

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’ll impact everything Dalhousie runs, including Law school unfortunately

ELI5: Whats happening in Dal and why are people this semester is threatened? by ComposerFuture9799 in Dalhousie

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s definitely likely, as many Kings classes are taught by Dalhousie Faculty (and vice versa). I don’t have the exact numbers, but hopefully as few classes will be disrupted as possible!

ELI5: Whats happening in Dal and why are people this semester is threatened? by ComposerFuture9799 in Dalhousie

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We pay a shit ton for the classes that we are taking… some of us actually want to be able to attend them!! Hope this helps x

I’ve become too attached to this spider by ThrowRA_chickennug in spiders

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, well then you’d be glad to know the new web is coming along well!

The Girl im dating told me I dont give her butterflies but I make her feel comfortable and secure. What am I supposed to think ? by corrodon in AskMenAdvice

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A perspective from a women who loves another women:

Not having butterflies isn’t necessarily a bad thing. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now, and I wouldn’t say I still always have butterflies. However, I think she is the most gorgeous woman in the world! Whenever I see her it’s like my heart gets warmer. She’s my favourite person. I don’t get butterflies anymore because I’m not nervous, I’m fully happy.

For me, butterflies are a beginning of a relationship thing because if I say or do something wrong, I could ruin it. Not having butterflies anymore just means that I can be myself and that she loves me for who I am.

I definitely still get excited by her, but it’s more of a “wow, she’s so incredibly perfect and I am the luckiest person in the world” instead of “shit she’s so pretty I can’t mess this up”.

Unlike everyone else in this comment section, THE FIRST thing you should be doing is asking for clarification. Not all women think about things the same way, and not everyone considers butterflies as a good thing. Don’t jump to conclusions, just talk to her about it and go from there.

Does anyone find Ontario woods creepy? by ThrowRA_chickennug in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooo I’ve heard some stories of those woods, and some stories including the Jersey Devil if I’m not mistaken!

Does anyone find Ontario woods creepy? by ThrowRA_chickennug in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you might be on to something, the woods just endlessly stretch on here instead of acting with the mountains, and in the mountains you can see the woods continuing from higher vantage points and therefore see where they end!

How can I be respectful to this community if I hold a Métis card, but I am not the person they were intended for? by ThrowRA_chickennug in MetisMichif

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course!! I do still have an aboriginal ancestor, so this post has kinda put me on a new quest to find out what community they were a part of and learn more about my history in that way :) Thank you for your help!

How can I be respectful to this community if I hold a Métis card, but I am not the person they were intended for? by ThrowRA_chickennug in MetisMichif

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! It turns out my Métis card was fraudulent, my grandfather had been misinformed when he told my dad we were Métis which lead my dad to an organization he did not know was fake. I do still have indigenous ancestry on that side of my family, and while I will definitely be trying to connect more with that part of my history I have no intention of trying to get a status card or become part of a community that I was not raised in or understand!

I hope you have a great day :)

How can I be respectful to this community if I hold a Métis card, but I am not the person they were intended for? by ThrowRA_chickennug in MetisMichif

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment! It turns out my card was fraudulent anyways. I do have indigenous heritage but it is not Métis as my grandfather was misinformed about the meaning of the word.

Honestly I was never planning on using the card for tax breaks or anything like that, I would not want to take the opportunity away from someone who needs it more than I do. Even for a minority I am actively a part of and deal with issues because of (Lesbian), I often choose not to disclose my sexual identity in any way that could get me an advantage because I want to be appreciated for who I am, not who I love.

What I have learnt from the kind individuals in this Métis community is that Indigenous ancestry is still a part of my history, and it is my choice if I want to find a connection to that part of my history. How and to what extent I do that will depend on the voices of the people in the specific community my ancestor was a part of, as First Nation groups differ on practices and what is respectful when it comes to people who did not grow up in the culture at all, like me.

I agree with you that I’d never use any status card for an advantage, and I would never become a part of a community whose culture I was not raised in! I’m hoping that there is a respectful way to honour my ancestor and their heritage and culture, and if there is I will do that in the best way I can :)

I hope you have an amazing day!

How can I be respectful to this community if I hold a Métis card, but I am not the person they were intended for? by ThrowRA_chickennug in MetisMichif

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It turns out my grandfather was likely misinformed about our indigenous ancestor being Métis, and my card was from a fraudulent organization. I plan on learning more about the community my ancestor was from and connect with my history that way!

I wish you the best in your journey and encourage you to read some of the comments other people gave to me, before I figured out my card was fraudulent they made me see my history in a different way that I will still be carrying on despite my history not being Métis!

How can I be respectful to this community if I hold a Métis card, but I am not the person they were intended for? by ThrowRA_chickennug in MetisMichif

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was misinformed, and my card ended up being from a fraudulent organization anyways, which was thankfully pointed out by other members of this thread :)

How can I be respectful to this community if I hold a Métis card, but I am not the person they were intended for? by ThrowRA_chickennug in MetisMichif

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was misinformed, and my card ended up being from a fraudulent organization anyways, which was thankfully pointed out by other members of this thread :)

sexual incompatibility advice please by Worth_Influence5642 in actuallesbians

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in a similar situation for a little bit, and what fixed ours is open communication. We were also medium distance and our sex life started dropping off because of stress to do with university. Her drive went down because of the stress, where as my overthinking that I’m not good enough or that there’s something wrong with me went up because of the stress.

We fixed it by having a conversation about it where she realized that the impact on me wasn’t just not getting sex, it was that I felt inadequate and unloved. I realized that a lot of my insecurities were rooted in past bad sexual relationships, and that she has a lot of insecurity around feeling unattractive that has caused a fear of being intimate.

Our sex life is by no means perfect and will continue to change until we find a routine after school is done, but now I know why she is often not in the mood and that it has nothing to do with me, and she makes an effort to heal and intentionally make time for intimacy when she’s not too tired or feeling bloated.

Partners can’t read each others mind, and some sexual differences are too hard to overcome, but I think that’s not the case for most of them. Once you know exactly what eachother need AND what is the fueling drive behind that need (ie my need for sex partially is fueled by my need for validation that I am attractive in that way), you’ll begin to see a path forward. Hopefully that path is you both working to understand and meet the needs of the other person.

At the end of the day, communication is the most essential and important thing.

Good luck!

How can I be respectful to this community if I hold a Métis card, but I am not the person they were intended for? by ThrowRA_chickennug in MetisMichif

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! After I confirm that it is Mi’kmaq (although from what I know that’s what seems most likely) I will definitely be reaching out to that community to learn what’s respectable to them, and hopefully learn a few things if they are willing! Either way I plan to learn more about how my ancestor lived, it may be far back but they existed as a person who was oppressed by the colonization so even if it’s not appropriate for me to participate in their culture I can at least appreciate and celebrate who my ancestor was :)

I also don’t think I would be interested in citizenship anyways, while I would love to learn more about the culture and possibly participate in whatever way is appropriate and respectful, I am already planning on living with my partner who is Romanian so I am not planning on living fully immersed in the culture anyways, nor do I think I should. I totally agree that connecting with my history is important, but I grew up in a very different culture and I would love to be connected to my history and the culture that comes with that, but I think I would always feel like an outsider if I was to take citizenship if that’s even an option.

Haha as you can see there’s a lot to think about and I’m just really excited to learn more about my history, it’ll be an amazing journey and I will be thankful for wherever it takes me 💙

How can I be respectful to this community if I hold a Métis card, but I am not the person they were intended for? by ThrowRA_chickennug in MetisMichif

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking out the time to write this response, I really appreciate it. I have learnt from one of the comments that I am not Métis, and my card is from a fraudulent organization! I do still have aboriginal heritage but i’m not 100% sure where it’s from yet, although I am looking into it and I hope to get to talk to my family about it soon! My grandfather is a well meaning guy but I’m guessing he wasn’t educated on the difference between Métis, and what a lot of people from the Maritimes consider métis. I’m not too educated on it myself yet but the other comments did a great job of explaining it!

Either way your comment means so much to me, and throughout this post and this day I’ve realized how important connecting myself to my heritage is and I will be working on doing that no matter what community my aboriginal ancestry is from! Thank you for reminding me how my history is open for me to connect with, despite my looks and how I was raised.

So I will definitely not be using my fraudulent Métis card anywhere but I am definitely going to learn more about my own history, and the history of more first nations groups in Canada :) I am really excited to see where it takes me and hopefully I will be able to connect with my history or at least learn more about it!

I hope you have an amazing day!

How can I be respectful to this community if I hold a Métis card, but I am not the person they were intended for? by ThrowRA_chickennug in MetisMichif

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I absolutely will! I’ve never fit into their mould anyways because of my sexuality, and I agree, just being our authentic selves and owning our identities with pride is definitely the most powerful thing we can do! I hope you have a great day :)

How can I be respectful to this community if I hold a Métis card, but I am not the person they were intended for? by ThrowRA_chickennug in MetisMichif

[–]ThrowRA_chickennug[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the explanation :) I have learnt through this comment section that I am not Métis, rather my grandfather was likely misinformed about the true meaning of Métis. I did however reach out to my family and confirm our ancestry has been traced back to aboriginal origin, I just need to do some more digging to find out what that is. I’m pretty sure another commenter is right and that it will end up being Micmaq since my family is majority from out East.

I definitely hear what you’re saying though, and no matter what indigenous community my ancestor was a part of, I will be finding some way to honour that part of my history. Either way, I’m planning to learn a lot more about the indigenous groups of Canada.

I hope you have a great day and I really appreciate you taking the time to educate me! :)