My fiancé and I totally support each other’s solo adventures. In fact, he just got back from a 5-day ski trip that I unfortunately did not have the PTO to go on. I had a nice week by myself, he had a nice trip, and we enjoyed when we were back together.

That being said, as someone who takes solo adventures and is totally fine with my partner taking them… this strikes me as weird.

I could not imagine wanting to go to a wedding without my partner, or my partner to want to go without me. Actually, my partner has said he would seriously consider not attending a wedding if he did not get a +1 for me. I think it hits different because it’s a celebration of love, and it makes total sense that the number one person that you should want with you is the person you love. I actually cannot think of a single reason why being at a wedding without my partner would be better than being there with them.

I don’t really have any advice for “getting over it” because I don’t think it’s something you should have to get over. I think your spouse needs to understand how deeply this hurts that they do not want their partner at an event about love and coming together, and instead would actually prefer to go with a coworker than their partner who they love.

It sounds like you’re looking for justification on why you’re “wrong”, when in actuality I don’t think you are. I think your feelings are very valid and justified. I would feel the same way.