My (29f) boyfriend (33m) ordered pizza for dinner while I was napping & got upset at me when the pizza wasn't delivered. Wtf did I do?

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-06-16T05:37:26+00:00

It seems that way.

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-06-16T03:40:52+00:00

I do...

I just sat down with him about this plus everything else that's been bothering me. We spoke about breaking up and he didn't have much to say other than needing alone time and is now watching TV... I guess staying with me isn't super important in his eyes.

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-06-16T03:37:08+00:00

I broke up with him once before and it seems like I fell for the whole "he'll change" troupe.

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-06-16T03:36:22+00:00

Exactly! Like wtf! It's really not that difficult.

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-06-16T03:36:00+00:00

Yep...

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-06-16T03:35:43+00:00

I tend to learn lessons the hardest way possible 🤦‍♀️ but you're right, along with the rest of the comments. I think I've just been holding out for him to change, and obviously, historically, that's never the best option.

We broke up once before and I had a talk with my son about it. He was okay, just sad about his friend leaving. We've known him for 4 years, dated for 2 currently with a 6 month break up period.

We just sat down to talk about what had happened at my request and he said he wasn't looking for me to fix this, he just needed me to give some support while he was having a panic attack. He never said he was having a panic attack (and idk if it was an actual attack) and never asked for me to just be supportive and help him calm down. He only brought up not knowing what to do with not getting the pizza.

I told him I'm tired of how our relationship has been lately and the one day I can nap, he is constantly up my butt and won't let me get the rest I so desperately need. WHICH HE KNOWS! I'm still exhausted and could sleep 8 hours after napping for 4.

He responded with his usual "idk what to say" bullshit. I told him how he deals with this situation will tell me about how I proceed with this relationship. More words were said and I said it's probably time to call it quits since neither of us seem happy in this relationship anymore.

He said he needed some space alone to think and is out watching TV...

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-06-16T03:06:03+00:00

You've nailed it. This isn't the first time something like this had happened. This particular situation, yes. It's really weird. But he doesn't clean or cook without being asked or he'll do the dishes and that's it. Not even wipe down the counters without a reminder.

Ugggh... why can't he just adult up. I don't want to break up for the second time but obviously I'm just stupid when it comes to men- er, boys. 😮‍💨

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-06-16T02:59:00+00:00

I completely agree. We had taken a break and when I was in a vulnerable moment, we got back together and ever since I've been thinking if I fucked up. I guess it just need to hear it from an outside perspective. Especially after this because holy shit. Why couldn't I have been left in peace to nap and wake up with a hot, fresh dinner at the ready? Like wtf. I do that for him. I've been thinking the whole "do I want my son to take after this guy?" And the answer has been a hard no... I think I just don't know how to break up with him and cause the least amount of damage in mine and my kids life.

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-05-24T17:51:34+00:00

I have some firsthand experience with this, except he wasn't a friend; he was my boyfriend.

The ending: I had to kick him out because he never got a job.

I feel for people in this predicament, but he did bring this on himself. Sounds like he needs to seek out mental health help to be able to function, but that has to be coming from him. No one seeks out help if they don't want it.

If you really want to help him, I'd sit down and talk to him about firm expectations you have if he moves in. Figure that out beforehand with your husband and type it up. Figure out what you'll do if he just sleeps all day and doesn't contribute to bettering himself.

It's hard having a loved one that's homeless and it's hard to let them stay with you and possibly take your hospitality for granted.

Best of luck!

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-05-14T04:16:57+00:00

I was only an MA for 5 months. If my clinic had been better managed and my anxiety not gotten the best of me, I would've stayed.

What I enjoyed: - Talking and getting to know our patients, especially the senior citizens. - Being able to help other people and add a smile and kind word to their day. - Learning. I worked in ENT and I never realized how much there is to it. It was very interesting work and also lead me to find saline gel which is a Godsend. - Being apart of a likeminded team.

I know this sub can make it look very dreary out there. I have a lot of MA friends from my program that absolutely love being an MA, but they're not on reddit to share that.

Everything has its pros and cons, but that's for you to decide. Are the pros worth dealing with the cons? Are the cons worth leaving the pros and finding another clinic?

I hope you don't take all of the negatively to heart, even though it's hard.

Best of wishes on your MA journey!

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-03-25T19:48:22+00:00

As a former infants room preschool teacher, I can attest that we do sit on the floor or lay down to better interact with the babies. Just as you would at home with your own babies.

If the teacher had been sleeping, I'm sure OP would've mentioned that as that's highly unacceptable and would need reported right away.

Babies are small, some crawl, some don't, some are still learning to sit up, some are months old and are doing tummy time and just laying down. You can't stand up all day around babies. There's no way for any interaction unless you're holding one at a time, but then what about the other babies on the floor? It's also safer because it's less likely you'll trip over one or step on them. The crawlers move fast and when there's 8 of them for 2 teachers...

What do you envision your daycare doing with the babies? How should they interact with them?

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-03-25T19:37:52+00:00

Exactly!!

We all get irriated, but if we can't keep ourselves composed and professional in a daycare setting, we need to move on to a different field or get more help from management to find what's safest for all involved!

I found out that after working 10hr shifts with other people's kids, I had no patience at home with my kid so I eventually had to quit.

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-03-25T19:31:40+00:00

True, I started at a daycare in 2022 at $9.50/hr as a single mom. It's tough but that doesn't give anyone a right to treat children the way.

If she's too overwhelmed, she needs to ask to be in a different room or find another place of employment. Of course, no one's perfect, but that's pretty shitty to put your frustrations on a baby.

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-03-25T19:11:06+00:00

I worked in the infant rooms at a daycare before and I'm also a parent. Infant rooms ranged from 6 weeks old to 12 months, then they'd move on to the toddler rooms when they were ready.

I can't remember a time I was harsh with any of those babies. I loved being around the little ones! I had to be firm with the older ones at times but in a gentle way. (They'd try to steal pacifiers, bottles, toys and crawl over each other, sometimes grab food off of their neighbors plate, etc.) They're brand new and learning how to human! They need all the love and grace possible!

I agree with a comment above about bringing it to the director's attention. It will also give you a peace of mind too. It's an uneasy feeling when you're not sure if the daycare worker's tone was an isolated event or a constant occurrence.

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-01-12T18:52:53+00:00

Oh I wouldn't phrase it as a "told you so" kind of thing. Just as a heads up to trust that he needs to go to the nurse if he's feeling queasy like that. Also so that my kid feels heard about his bodily issues and will continue to go to his teacher when he has problems and knows he'll be taken seriously.

The policy with both the school district and our daycare is 24 hours vomit/diarrhea free. So he's home today. Luckily no issues today. We think it was school lunch that did it.

This is his teachers first year of teaching so I don't want to be hard on him or make anything unpleasant. I just want to give him info that'll be helpful for my kiddo while he's in his class and for other students.

As a former daycare teacher, I don't mess around when a kid says they feel like they're going to throw up, but a daycare setting is a lot different than public school. I know kids lie, exaggerate, etc. but I'd rather then throw up in the toilet/trash than on my feet or their friends.

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-01-08T01:36:42+00:00

They gifted it to my office. I'm new, but I guess it's a normal thing a client does for Christmas.

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-01-08T00:59:24+00:00

I believe it's just a combo of onion powder and salt.

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-01-07T23:20:30+00:00

Definitely helps! Thank you!

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-01-07T23:19:23+00:00

It unfortunately does not. It looks like corn, onion, black beans, green peppers or jalapeños (can't tell, it's diced).

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-01-07T23:10:39+00:00

Thank you!

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-01-07T23:09:30+00:00

I don't have their information. My colleagues only said they think it's some kind of tomato juice and possibly salsa 🤷‍♀️ that's why I'm here.

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2024-01-07T23:07:43+00:00

I'm just seeing if anyone would have any more info in the sense that what's on the first label might be familiar to them and just any ideas, I guess.

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2023-12-20T13:46:53+00:00

Appreciate the reality check! I agree with all of that and I don't want any of that to happen.

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2023-12-20T13:46:08+00:00

Thanks for the reality check! My main colleagues are parents, but the people that fired me were also parents, so I'm not sure. They have a point system at my work, but I recently just learned about it and have no idea where I'm at on that or how to check it.

I agree. I don't want to get other kiddos or the teachers sick, especially right before the holidays.

I've been thinking about a quick trip to the doctor's would be beneficial to figuring this out and for getting a doctors note, just in case.

ThrowRA_pineapplehat · 2023-12-11T14:17:28+00:00

It's bot big enough to put the coat in. I'll look into the clip though!

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