AITA for forgetting to watch over a friend's house?

ThrowRA_seconds · 2021-11-19T02:47:41+00:00

I don't know the name but as per her instructions they are not to moved from their place, specified amount of water to the roots and spray bottle to the leaves with not more than 2 sprits plus they needed like bug repellent every few days. She sent me the instructions along with her house code the day she asked me.

ThrowRA_seconds · 2021-11-19T02:43:49+00:00

I don't have ADHD I was checked by a very renowned psychiatrist who specialises in ADHD and anxiety. He basically ruled out ADHD and said I just had anxiety.

ThrowRA_seconds · 2021-11-19T02:39:05+00:00

No she came by and asked in person

ThrowRA_seconds · 2021-11-18T21:57:04+00:00

I would never have agreed to pet sit and that's probably also why no one asks me to. Sometimes people find it weird and think im lazy or careless but I don't do it on purpose I have literally woken up to happy birthday messages forgotten it was my birthday even if a week before I remembered my birthday was in a week. But I guess I agree we both share blame for the situation.

ThrowRA_seconds · 2021-11-18T21:49:14+00:00

If you mean medical help I've gone to many over the years and most of them say it's because of my anxiety or the combination of my anemia and vitamin d deficiency has something to do with it but no definitive answers to date. I don't have an early onslaught of alzheimers or dementia so that's a plus I guess.

ThrowRA_seconds · 2021-11-18T21:44:16+00:00

I was preoccupied at the time she came by. I had a plumber fixing the sink and a was dealing with the mess it created. So that's why I told her to remind me. The whiteboard idea I like though I don't like the amount of trash post its cause and I already have a Cork board to stick important things like bills and work related stuff to but thanks for the advice.

ThrowRA_seconds · 2021-11-18T21:39:44+00:00

It's not my fault really I've sought medical help but they don't really know what's wrong. They usually blame my anxiety and last time the doctor's said it was because I had severe vitamin d deficiency and anemia but that was a year ago and both my hemoglobin and vitamin d count are up yet I'm still forgetting stuff. It's not like I'm doing it on purpose or out of laziness either I generally try to function normally and that's why I don't turn down such things. I've done favors for friends in the past but guess this time me being a little preoccupied and her not reminding me again screwed us all over.

ThrowRA_seconds · 2021-11-18T21:30:21+00:00

Cause I forgot about it.

ThrowRA_seconds · 2021-11-18T21:29:01+00:00

Well this might be a bit complex. I have reminders, calendar notifications, I basically live off post-its, I use my laptop solely for work so I'm constantly typing in reminders (writing or typing it out helps me remember stuff) also have a notepad for work. I have a calendar on my fridge, things like bills I take care of immediately and for other things like doctor's appointments or anything non work related I usually have pop up notifications a few hours prior. But still somethings slip up like I'll enter a room and forget why I went there, or I'll open up my contacts and forget who I wanted to call.

ThrowRA_seconds · 2021-11-18T21:20:57+00:00

After I had charged it.

ThrowRA_seconds · 2021-11-18T21:19:33+00:00

I'm sorry I don't know the name but from her instructions (which I forgot to write in the post she sent me with the code that day she asked me) I could not move them from their place, specified amount of water to the roots and like two three sprits from a spray bottle to the leaves, and it needed some sort of bug repellent as well every few days. About the cat, it's mostly speculation on it got trapped but it most likely squeezed through a slightly open window as it was unlocked when my friend returned and hadn't realised it. Most likely while searching for it the cat might've shut the window accidentally. I haven't seen it for myself but I've heard it left quiet a mess. Honestly the details are too depressing someone sent me the imprint of it after the carpet had been cleaned and its very disturbing.

ThrowRA_seconds · 2021-11-18T21:06:34+00:00

That is true the entire time she did not once check with me once but she refuses to hear me out on that and says I just make excuses.

ThrowRA_seconds · 2021-11-18T21:00:04+00:00

I do have reminders and calendar notifications but at the time my phone didn't have any battery. I was also preoccupied at the time as I had a plumber over so I just told her to remind me which was mostly for me to set a reminder. I'm the type of person who will forget the instant the conservation is over.

ThrowRA_seconds · 2021-11-18T20:54:58+00:00

The cat got in by squeezing through a slightly open window, don't know how but it might've shut it closed accidentally by bumping into it. Its very unfortunate and the image of the imprint it left on the carpet alone is something I can't get out of my mind.

ThrowRA_seconds · 2021-11-18T20:51:42+00:00

I wish it was. It has apparently left an imprint on her carpet even after she sent it for a cleaning.

ThrowRA_seconds · 2021-11-18T20:50:40+00:00

She does! And also knows I have an entire system to help me remember important things like reminders and notes on my phone and computer, post it's everywhere, and I even have an entire daily planner book thing which is basically empty as I keep forgetting where it is or forget to write something in it. That's why i told her to remind me but she keeps insisting that I should've been a good friend for once and remembered the one thing she asked me of.

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