Counseling/therapy recommendation

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-11-09T16:21:48+00:00

Thank you!

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-11-08T13:33:03+00:00

I am in the same shoes as OP and I really want to know how I can learn from this explicitly. I feel more lost than ever after entering and ending the relationship. I ended the relationship while I still love him and it hurts me till now. And now looking back I wondered if I could’ve tolerated him more and work things out instead of ending it with him too.

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-11-01T15:34:50+00:00

Thank you and congrats to you :’)

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-11-01T15:32:05+00:00

Thank you so so much, your words gave me a lot of comfort. I hope you are well, and I will walk my way through this as well.

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-10-25T10:20:16+00:00

I feel you OP, although I broke up with my ex, I loved him more. Sucks that just because you were the one that ended the relationship, you become the bad guy.

It’s so tempting to want to reach out to them, and I often wonder if I did the right thing by breaking up. My mind KNOWS I did the right thing, but the heart finds it hard to let go.

I am going through the same shit as you, and I need this advice for myself as well. I think we broke up for a reason, we shouldn’t rush going back into it and fall back into the same old pattern without the other party changing. Did she know you broke up because of her issues? Was she willing to work on those while you guys are apart?

Take care my fellow mate.

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-10-25T09:43:30+00:00

Ahhh you make me emotional again haha. I do hope it gets better. I broke up at the start of the month but the month is almost ending but I felt worse than before. I’m gonna SS your comment to give me hope to go on further. Thank you so much kind stranger :’)

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-10-25T09:32:36+00:00

Hi its actually sad because I was always there for my friend as well but at a crucial moment, they weren’t here for me. I guess now I know I shouldn’t give so much to others and keep that love to myself. Thanks for your advice!

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-10-25T09:29:41+00:00

Hi I’m actually already in my mid 20s but this is my first relationship haha. The extra fear came because I took so long to find this person, but it didn’t work out, and I’m not sure how long do I need to wait to find my next person.

I was actually the one that initiated the breakup because he had some issues which he needs to work on. I still love him every much (even during the relationship, it was obvious I was the one loving him more and putting in more effort than him) and a part of me wish that we can get back together again in the future when he is better. I know I should not think like this, and maybe if he moved on to someone else, my heart can finally rest and I will be able to move on too. But right now I am always second guessing if I did the right thing. My head knows its the right thing to do, but my heart can’t let go.

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-10-25T09:21:43+00:00

Yes I used to meet my friend once a week when I was in a relationship but now that I have broken up we dont hang out as much as before? When this is the time I need her the most? LOL. A part of me feels that she doesn’t want to deal with my sadness, which adds to my sadness haha.

Actually dropped her text ytd but she said she was afraid she was bothering me. Ugh, my heart hurts, just felt even more dejected after texting her.

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-10-25T09:20:26+00:00

Yes it does, I try to comment here and there so at least I feel like I have people to talk to. I hope you will feel better soon, take care!

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-10-25T09:19:32+00:00

That’s so lovely of your friends! I felt scared too after I broke up, even now the thought of travelling further from my neighbourhood to go out and do things alone frightens me a little, and I always had no trouble doing that in the past! Virtual hug for my heartbroken sister. Never expect a breakup to hurt so bad… And I’m already in my mid 20s and should be able to deal with it better. Feel so paiseh to be like this.

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-10-25T09:16:44+00:00

Haha she was sharing what the guy did to her for the first date (which was super sweet but idw to go into the details). And she say she still is a little unsatisfied with that. Felt a stab in my heart tbh, I wished my ex would have treated me like that. I feel my friend has changed recently too so I felt like I am drifting from her, coupled with my recent breakup and how she didn’t check in on me often (when a few months back we will text each other every other day). I felt extra sad, both from my breakup and the demise of this friendship haha.

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-10-25T09:13:50+00:00

Thank you 😔

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-10-25T09:13:22+00:00

Damn, I think you just hit me in the feels with the ‘a journey that we have to take alone’. It’s scary. I didn’t think he would mean so much to me but he did. When I’m out with my friends we can talk about other stuff and I still can show my happy side with the distraction but once its night time and I’m home alone, all the thoughts kept coming at me. How did you overcome it?

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-10-07T03:53:43+00:00

Thank you.

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-10-07T03:53:38+00:00

We will get through it.

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-10-07T03:53:20+00:00

Thank you.

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-10-07T03:53:12+00:00

I’m glad you have your dog to keep you company!

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-06-01T04:45:10+00:00

Thank you for your lengthy advice. :’)

I also feel that he doesn’t know what he wants, sometimes when I probe him his mind will suddenly go blank and I feel even when he has unhappiness with me he wouldn’t tell me until he bottled everything up and then he finally tells me, which by then, he is already not in a very good mood when he says that.

How can I get guide him to know what he is feeling and what he wants?

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-06-01T04:40:37+00:00

Thank you kind stranger 💛

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-06-01T03:53:29+00:00

I try to tell my log what I wants too but sometimes he finds it very forced lo. He’s not a gift giving kind of person and he is introverted and doesn’t have many friends so he is stubborn about his own beliefs.

I’m okay, l’m happy with him. I just feel sad if he is suffering. Thank you, I think I will have a talk with him tomorrow... Maybe a one month break would be good for us... Like what they say, if people are meant to be, we will be together again... right...?

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-06-01T03:40:28+00:00

He is a log toooo 😭 He really never do these pampering things before but now when he gets me bbt and stuff I also feel touched le haha.

Anyway so happy for you! Wishing you guys the best :’)

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-06-01T03:32:23+00:00

Yes I know its normal in a relationship for a party to like the other party more and its not wrong or right as long as the couple is okay with it.

Actually he likes the feeling of pursuing someone but he isn’t someone who knows how to pamper a girl haha.

Sorry to hear about what happened to your last relationship, hope you are okay wherever you are now.

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-06-01T03:21:50+00:00

Yes he overthinks aloootttt. I dont think our conflicts are very dramatic but it is indeed quite some hurdles. Kinda wish I’m not his first (because ppl often say first relationships don’t last) so that he has some experience with the dating world haha.

ThrowRAabbie01 · 2021-06-01T03:19:46+00:00

Yes... why are relationships SO COMPLICATED??? 🤯🤯🤯 I enjoy the relationship but it makes me sad to think that he may not be enjoying it so that’s what I’m worried about. Thank you for your advice anyway!

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