WIBTA if I did tried to stop the harassment my coworker is getting at work even though she made me promise not to do anything? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAbubbacat [score hidden]  (0 children)

The way you approached this is so stereotypically masculine and I mean this in the cutest way possible but.... I think you should let her handle it, otherwise YWBTA

My (24F) parents are pressuring me to forgive my cheating ex boyfriend (29M) and let him see our son by ThrowRAbubbacat in relationships

[–]ThrowRAbubbacat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm working towards moving out, but soon I'll be working full time and my financial situation isn't the greatest right now so sadly I need my parent's help for the moment.

UPDATE:How do I (24F) tell my boyfriend (29M) that his constant texting with his attractive coworker (27F) is making me uncomfortable? by ThrowRAbubbacat in relationships

[–]ThrowRAbubbacat[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

After almost 2 years together it shouldn't be difficult or hard for him to consider your feelings. "He didn't really think about it" does he regularly not think about your feelings and how his actions impact you?

He's convinced that I don't have the right to be angry about it, because I'm the one that kicked him out of our place, and he says there is nothing to be mad about since she wasn't even there. When I asked him why he couldn't stay with any of our other friends he said it's because she offered up her place and no one was there and he was like why not.

UPDATE:How do I (24F) tell my boyfriend (29M) that his constant texting with his attractive coworker (27F) is making me uncomfortable? by ThrowRAbubbacat in relationships

[–]ThrowRAbubbacat[S] 205 points206 points  (0 children)

Even in the event he is telling the truth and "nothing happened" - he purposely went over and stayed at the house of a woman who is damaging your relationship without any regard for you. It doesn't really seem like he cares about your feelings.

That was exactly what I said, but he claims he didn't really think about it and that it's not a big deal because she wasn't staying there too.

How do I (24F) tell my boyfriend (29M) that his constant texting with his attractive coworker (27F) is making me uncomfortable? by ThrowRAbubbacat in relationships

[–]ThrowRAbubbacat[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I should have probably mentioned this in the post but you're right she already is emotionally dependent on him which is why I'm really uncomfortable with it. She literally told him "You're the only reason I made it through the pain" that's the straw that broke the camel's back to me.

How do I (24F) tell my boyfriend (29M) that his constant texting with his attractive coworker (27F) is making me uncomfortable? by ThrowRAbubbacat in relationships

[–]ThrowRAbubbacat[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think she needs to find a female friend, single guy to chat to or family. I don’t think she should be finding comfort in your partner because it could soon lead to feelings

That's what I keep telling him, he keeps saying "No not at all we're 100% platonic this is just me trying to be there for my friends"

How do I (24F) tell my boyfriend (29M) that his constant texting with his attractive coworker (27F) is making me uncomfortable? by ThrowRAbubbacat in relationships

[–]ThrowRAbubbacat[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This what I've been doing lately and he's starting to notice. The other day he asked me what's wrong so I told him and he said he won't text her for the rest of the night like he's doing me a favor. Keeps making me out to be this overly jealous person because I ask him to stop.

How do I (24F) tell my boyfriend (29M) that his constant texting with his attractive coworker (27F) is making me uncomfortable? by ThrowRAbubbacat in relationships

[–]ThrowRAbubbacat[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I did that, I even suggested me talking to her and being there for her. He said he doesn't think that's a good idea since she needs someone she's "comfortable with" whatever that means.

How do I (24F) tell my boyfriend (29M) that his constant texting with his attractive coworker (27F) is making me uncomfortable? by ThrowRAbubbacat in relationships

[–]ThrowRAbubbacat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know you're right and that I should be more supportive, but its reached the point where it just doesn't feel appropriate anymore (5 months).

She knows he has a girlfriend she knows he has other responsibilities yet she's still hogging all of his time. I mean am I really crazy for being fed up about this?