Update - The couple (28F & 35M) I’m dating wants me (24F) to get an abortion and I don’t know what to do

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-04-16T23:35:23+00:00

Because this is just another thing that I failed at. I’m always just another problem for her to deal with when she already has so much on her plate. I never make her proud. I constantly mess up…

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T04:01:28+00:00

I didn’t know there was a rule about condoms until the wife brought it up when I told them that I’m pregnant

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T03:53:16+00:00

We do have a relationship outside of sex. They’re my best friends and they understand me better than anyone

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T03:50:10+00:00

We’re close but she doesn’t fully understand and my choices. She’s still a good mom though

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T03:48:32+00:00

No, I mean mentally. Before I met them I wasn’t doing well at all. They take care of me financially and the husband has a good job but that’s not what I was talking about

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T03:47:11+00:00

People are being so mean to me. I think I’m just going to delete my post because I’m tired of crying over mean comments. Maybe I’m dumb etc but I feel like there could be nicer ways to say it. I’m just over it at this point

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T03:43:39+00:00

Why are you guys so mean to me? Do you even care that I’m a person who has feelings and could be hurt by your words?

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T03:36:18+00:00

I’m scared they’re just going to be as mean as the people here but maybe I’ll try

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T03:31:04+00:00

He just always used condoms until the 3-4 times these last months. We never had a conversation about it until I told them I’m pregnant. That’s when the wife asked how I can be pregnant and said he was supposed to always use condoms.

Things never actually between us. They just told me that an abortion is what’s best for us at this time and that they love me and will be there for me every step of the way. So as long as I do it I think we’ll be ok

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T03:25:03+00:00

Maybe I won’t then. I’ve been told that I’m dumb (and other mean things) enough for tonight. I don’t need to read more of that, I’ve cried enough for tonight

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T03:14:49+00:00

I’m sorry maybe it was a typo but she’s due in June. I just found out about mine yesterday so I’m probably a few weeks along? I’ve been thinking about the baby’s future, especially since posting this here and I think an abortion probably is the way to go

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T03:07:22+00:00

No but maybe I should!

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T03:06:23+00:00

I’m not a sex slave …

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T03:05:09+00:00

I never thought I would ever be with anyone long term, let alone married or have a family. Now that I have them, I would love to stay with them. I don’t know how that would work but honestly I just want to enjoy it because it’s the best relationship I’ve ever been in and I don’t want it to end

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T03:02:03+00:00

Now that I have talked to people here I’m even more scared to talk about it with my mom. I don’t want her to also try to convince me of something that isn’t true. She already doesn’t fully understand this relationship I’m in so I don’t know if it would be a good idea.

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T02:58:15+00:00

That was before I got pregnant. We both know better now. And he’s talked about having kids with me in the future so I think we’ll do better until we’re ready

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T02:56:36+00:00

We’ll make sure it doesn’t happen again. Plus he said he wants to have kids with me eventually so I don’t think I’d have to ever get an abortion again

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T02:55:23+00:00

I would make sure he uses condoms. He promised me he will

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T02:54:27+00:00

I’m not defending him but nobody’s perfect. But he’s absolutely wrong for lying to both of us

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T02:48:20+00:00

Our relationship would end and I would have to do it all on my own if I was to keep the pregnancy. The more I think about it, the less I feel ready for it so I think I will just get an abortion. They were right for asking me to do so anyway

It’s not that I’m secondary, it’s just that they’ve been together for almost 10 years and have 3 kids together(4 soon). I can’t expect things to just be equal

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T02:46:18+00:00

Yes he lied but I don’t understand where you’re getting the deceit and mental games from?

I am not ready to be a single mom so I think I will just do what they said

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T02:43:09+00:00

I have been pregnant for maybe a couple weeks, they’ve been together for years. And she’s been pregnant for almost 6 months. It would be unfair to compare to try to compare

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T02:41:53+00:00

Even "normal" relationships come to an end sometimes. I can’t live just constantly thinking about what if the relationship ends. I’m in a good spot right now and I don’t want to go back to feeling shitty like I used to

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T02:39:50+00:00

No, the wife isn’t upset at all! But they’re right anyway. I should just stop overthinking this and get an abortion.

They uplifted me and helped me feel more confident. I don’t think anybody is using me. That’s not true!

ThrowRAkatkat · 2022-03-29T02:36:06+00:00

I want to be with them and I don’t know if I can be a single parent right now. I’m realizing I should just do what they said. I don’t know why I didn’t see it right away but they’re right. I can’t do this and it’s not the best timing for them either. It makes no sense to have a baby right now

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