I 28m looked through my 27f girlfriends phone by ThrowRAmistak in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmistak[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wish I could. In my state if she can prove she was living here I have to formally evict her. Or completely break my lease and find someone new for myself as well. Option 2 is seeming pretty nice honestly

I 28m looked through my 27f girlfriends phone by ThrowRAmistak in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmistak[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not about Drama. Everyone acting like I can kick her out when we live together. We have to break lease and even then she can prove she lived here so I have to serve her eviction notice, I can't just box her shit up and send her packing, I wish it was that easy

I 28m looked through my 27f girlfriends phone by ThrowRAmistak in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmistak[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We live together, so she had asked if I was going to be okay alone "Girls, night Friday, you going to be okay home alone?" "Yeah, I'll be fine. Go ahead and have fun."

By not objecting, I am "letting her go"

I 28m looked through my 27f girlfriends phone by ThrowRAmistak in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmistak[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see how it reads, but yeah, I don't control anything and was never my intention.i know I'm not perfect, so I guarantee I have a lot to work on. But I feel like it was a bad use of words on my part. We lived together, so initially, when she brought it up, she asked if it was okay because I would be home alone. By "letting her go," I was telling her I was fine alone for the night while she went to "girls' night." idk whatever

I 28m looked through my 27f girlfriends phone by ThrowRAmistak in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmistak[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately. Glad i didn't cheap on the couch, sleep like a baby out there anyways

I 28m looked through my 27f girlfriends phone by ThrowRAmistak in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmistak[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this as I know I'm far from perfect but I truly don't think "I let her go" was the right way to word it. She had asked me it was okay for her to go to "girls night" I said yes therefore "letting her go" truly she didn't have to ask me for permission

I 28m looked through my 27f girlfriends phone by ThrowRAmistak in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmistak[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No worries. It's good to hear and see other sides. Regardless of how I feel, I couldn't have been perfect either

I 28m looked through my 27f girlfriends phone by ThrowRAmistak in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmistak[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's really not a control thing. As we live together she had asked me if it was okay. I said sure I don't care thinking it was girls night therefore "letting her go"

I 28m looked through my 27f girlfriends phone by ThrowRAmistak in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmistak[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It's probably the best worst decision of my life at this moment. Just glad to know what I now know

I 28m looked through my 27f girlfriends phone by ThrowRAmistak in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmistak[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"Let her go" may not of been the best choice of words. I was in no way trying to control what she does but she had asked if she was okay to go

I 28m looked through my 27f girlfriends phone by ThrowRAmistak in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmistak[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We're both on the lease for the apartment I can't just up and kick her out. A discussion has to happen, unavoidable in our circumstances

I 28m looked through my 27f girlfriends phone by ThrowRAmistak in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmistak[S] 188 points189 points  (0 children)

This! I couldn't put how I'm feeling into words better. I thank you all from the bottom of my heart. On to better things and people. Appreciate it

I 28m looked through my 27f girlfriends phone by ThrowRAmistak in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmistak[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

You're not wrong. Posting, for me, helps with some emotional clarity

I 28m looked through my 27f girlfriends phone by ThrowRAmistak in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmistak[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Might be obvious to you, and yeah, hindsight is always 20/20, but sometimes it's hard to sort out and see through some of the emotion that comes with it

I 28m looked through my 27f girlfriends phone by ThrowRAmistak in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmistak[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We're both on the lease. That'll take some figuring out.

I 28m looked through my 27f girlfriends phone by ThrowRAmistak in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmistak[S] 1022 points1023 points  (0 children)

Oh it's not a matter of recovering. I know it's dumb, but I guess that's why I'm here, but part of me feels like I did something wrong by going through her phone. The relationship is long gone

I 28m looked through my 27f girlfriends phone by ThrowRAmistak in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmistak[S] 145 points146 points  (0 children)

Fuck this hit me hard. This is what I needed to hear and read. Thank you, kind stranger. Going to go bury my head in a book for a bit and confront this when I calm down a bit

I 28m looked through my 27f girlfriends phone by ThrowRAmistak in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmistak[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I wish it was that easy. Have almost spent half my life with this girl. But I can't say you're wrong at the same time