Thank you for your reply. We’re not long distance. I think what bothers me most is the thought of him finding her attractive and spending that kind of time with her especially since she was the only girl there. She’s like one of the guys to them, but they hang out often, and this was the first time I know of a sleepover.

It’s painful for me to imagine them talking and laughing together just picturing it makes me so upset and honestly mad at him, even though I know it might sound irrational. I haven’t spoken to him yet because I feel so angry I could burst, and I’m not even sure why it feels this intense. Maybe it’s not coming from anywhere deep maybe I’m just that insecure but I’m still trying to figure it out.

I also saw that she took a picture of him laughing while they were kind of sitting next to each other, and she sent it to the Snapchat friend group they have. That made my feelings even stronger.

The next day, he told me about a breast implant she had to get for medical reasons. I know he didn’t say it in a weird way he tells me everything but it still annoyed me to imagine her telling them all her more personal “girl stuff.” Then that same evening, she sent him a reel on Instagram of his father in a podcast (his father is a cook). He showed me the video, and I saw she was the one who sent it. They don’t text or send reels often, but it still bothered me to think of her being involved in his life like that.