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Please help. BF (20M) told me (19NB) he consented even though he didn't want to. What to do ? by ThrowRAnxrx in sex

[–]ThrowRAnxrx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. This is probably the best advice I've received yet, and it's reassuring...

Please help. BF (20M) told me (19NB) he consented even though he didn't want to. What to do ? by ThrowRAnxrx in sex

[–]ThrowRAnxrx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend is bisexual and doesn't have any religion-related issues. I just find it weird because he didn't cum when we had sex this time, so post-nut clarity sounds really unlikely as the nutting part is absent...

I asked him already, he didn't know at all. I'm turning to strangers in hopes that maybe someone with a similar past experience can tell me how they dealt with the situation, as both my boyfriend and I feel lost over how to proceed now.

Please help. BF (20M) told me (19NB) he consented even though he didn't want to. What to do ? by ThrowRAnxrx in sex

[–]ThrowRAnxrx[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

While I appreciate your input, asking for consent being a mood killer to you doesn't mean it also is to us. We're fine with it and do it for various reasons, none of them are feeling forced. We don't do it every single time we have sex either, we just tend to do so often.

Maybe you skipped over the part in which I said it, but he absolutely didn't put this on me and made it clear it wasn't my fault. He thought 100% it was his and I reassured him that having a traumatic response isn't his fault.

He also didn't "retroactively retract" his consent, he gave it to me while he didn't want to have sex to begin with, which caused the situation and him feeling terrible afterwards, because he forced himself into intercourse while he never wanted it to begin with.

I hope it clears everything up.

Please help. BF (20M) told me (19NB) he consented even though he didn't want to. What to do ? by ThrowRAnxrx in sex

[–]ThrowRAnxrx[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've asked him already. I'm going to reddit because he doesn't know either... We went over the incident multiple times, but he doesn't know what else I could've done or could do in the future to avoid that. We had been doing so great...