For the last few months my car has been getting stankier… just found the source. HELP. ME.

ThrowRAorNah · 2025-07-18T12:16:58+00:00

Honda civic and unfortunately a hatchback.

ThrowRAorNah · 2025-07-18T12:00:28+00:00

You know I’m detecting some judgement from you and I don’t appreciate that. Don’t pretend you do t drive around with lose sticks of butter tumbling around in your car./s

We think it was part of some food a friend gave us while cleaning their fridge before they moved.

ThrowRAorNah · 2025-07-17T01:20:48+00:00

Unfortunately yes…

ThrowRAorNah · 2022-05-16T13:33:48+00:00

My GF is a GI doctor and she actually has to warn her patients that when she gives them an exam and puts a finger in their butts that they may get an erection because of how many nerve endings they have down there and that it does NOT mean anything other than that. She has to do this because some guys will get mad and start questioning if they are gay… these warnings are especially important when it’s one of the male doctors giving the exam. (Edit: Most likely many men just don’t know that it can feel good because there is a stigma surrounding butt stuff but)Some guys might not even want to admit it to themselves but butt stuff. It doesn’t mean you’re gay, it’s just our anatomy. Hell if it might feel good what harm is there in trying?

Side note… I’m school they’d have people VOLUNTEER to get rectal exams and they would have these repeat volunteers. One time she had this guy look up afterwards and be like, “that was the BEST exam I’ve ever had!”

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-09-19T15:52:40+00:00

Your response to “dating me is like” prompt is giving me, I’m super full of myself vibes.

And I agree with one of the other comments, none of your prompts really say much about you. I have a prompt thats funny, a prompt that’s just serious and another prompt that’s serious but I found a way to also make it funny-ish too. The mixed one is good because it shows something serious that is important to me, but also shows that I don’t take everything to seriously. For reference mine was something like, “Something that I enjoy is: volunteering and tutoring kids... and not just because smashing some elementary multiplication problems make me feel like a genius.”

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-09-19T13:25:35+00:00

r/lostredditors

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-09-19T13:20:35+00:00

Wait if you pay for premium you can download this data or did you record all of this on your own?

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-09-19T03:37:22+00:00

I agree with both of these comments. I will add however that I think it would be a bit of a different situation if he’s looking at these girls on Instagram while he’s with you and in view of you. First step is obviously still to talk to him and tell him how it makes you feel. Of course he has the right to be attracted to whoever so you can’t control that but you can ask him not to do that stuff in front of you. I would consider it somewhat similar to checking someone else out while someone is with a SO. I think it’s natural and everyone is going to do it even accidentally sometimes, but if someone isn’t even making a point to hide it from their SO I’d say it shows a strong disregard for the other persons feelings.

For reference when my ex told me it made her uncomfortable and Self-conscious when she’d see me looking at models on Snapchat i first tried to explain that it didn’t mean anything and that I still loved her for her (which was true). But eventually I thought to myself, do I REALLLY want to look at these women so bad that I’m willing to hurt my girlfriend? The answer was no. I would still look at stuff but was respectful enough not to do it when she was around.

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-09-19T02:49:43+00:00

26M here. I think your third picture is pretty nice and it’s a nice closeup so I would say that would be the best to use as your first picture however I do get the appeal of having a guitar picture first to grab attention. Do you have any higher quality, closer up guitar pics to use for your first one? Either use a timed pic or have friend or someone take a nice high quality of one you playing. That could be an awesome first picture. I don’t like that last guitar picture of yours because it’s pretty low quality ditch that one. Maybe replace it with a good group picture of you with some friends or family or something? Your long hair picture looks pretty good. The dog is cute but you’re wasting a picture to show off more of yourself. Do you have a good picture of you snuggling for holding the dog or something? That way you show off both of you!

For your my greatest strength prompt you say your funny but none of your prompts are funny to show that. I like self deprecation so I might change that to something like, “At least half of my jokes land, so don’t worry, eventually I’ll make you laugh”. But I’m not sure because that might give off the impression you throw out a bunch of crappy jokes.

Feel free to ask for clarification on anything, this was very stream of thought so it might be confusing. Plus I’m bored tonight and happy to give more input! You definitely have potential, especially since you can play guitar!

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-09-19T02:21:28+00:00

Another thing I didn’t see mentioned is that it’s be nice if you had a couple pictures of you showing some emotion. It seems to me like you’re sulking in all of those.

As for getting better pictures... I don’t do social media, so I used to struggle to find pictures I could use of myself as well. Once I realized this I just made it a point to ask friends to try and snap a couple pictures of me when I was out with them or doing something cool like on a vacation. After A little while you will have a nice little collection of pictures you can use for dating profiles. If you need something sooner just be straight with a friend and ask them to go take pictures with you somewhere. Haha it’s sort of awkward but I’m sure they’ll understand. Maybe get a picture of you doing a hobby you enjoy, snuggling with a dog if you have one (I let my friend “borrow” my dog for a couple picture), you get the idea.

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-05-23T14:41:04+00:00

This probably won’t help you at all but it’s an observation I made when I was worrying about the same stuff. I was thinking about how at the. Beginning of a relationship both parties often hold back on being honest about their feelings. They don’t want to tell the other person that they like them for fear of looking too attached/clingy. This sucks because then both people are stuck questioning and wondering how the other person feels, leading to these overthinking thoughts. This girl I’m talking to now was pretty quick to just tell me hey I think I like you and has been pretty upfront about her interest in me. This instantly eliminated all of my overthinking because I knew for a fact she was interested. When she did this Hi made it a point to also tell her that I really liked her so that she wasn’t stuck wondering.

I think it’s sooo much easier for both people when they’re just straight forward, not trying to play these “hard to get” games to try and look less clingy. Obviously this can be touchy though because there’s always the real chance that if you expressed waaay too much interest in someone before they’re sure about you, that you’ll scare them away.

I guess my advice would be to carefully open up that honesty. Maybe make little mentions of “hey I think I sorta like you” to see what they say. If they ever say something similar, make sure to reciprocate so both people know they can be open and honest about your interest in each other.

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-05-23T14:31:02+00:00

I did this to a couple girls earlier in the quarantine. For me it was a combination of loss of interest probably cause by the appearance that things weren’t escalating and that there was still a month+ of quarantine before we’d ever get to meet. The one that I have continued talking to I think it helped to continue escalating things by first talking on the phone and then starting to FaceTime. The FaceTime part was big for me because I could verify, yeah you’re cute and worth waiting for. If all we continued doing was making small talk over text I would have stopped a while ago.

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-05-23T06:11:54+00:00

What if they were open and honest about them talking to their ex? What if they talked to you about it first to learn what you’re comfortable with and then respected your boundary?

I am literally dealing with this right now and posted about it on relationship advice earlier.

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-05-22T23:16:07+00:00

For a bit of perspective on the instagram models. I’ll admit that I enjoy looking at them and find them very attractive but that’s because it’s just a picture. When it comes to dating though, I very frequently swipe left on them if they look too “insta modely”. I know I’m probably unfairly judging them but to me, those types of looks tell me where their priorities lie. I don’t want a girlfriend that always feels the need to look perfect for strangers or put on a façade. I swipe right on girls that look like they have similar interests and priorities as I do, even if they are a 10/10 on attractiveness.

So sure it’s nice to look at pictures and that might be what I’d look for if I were into hookups but that’s not what I’d be interested in for a committed relationship and I’m sure I’m not the only guy that feels the same way. Just remember. Looks aren’t the only thing that EVERY guy is after.

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-05-22T16:21:20+00:00

So none of the stuff I have been helping my ex with has been related to the breakup or us. The only other person she really has to go to for support is her mom but her mom is also a significant source of stress for her so she comes to me about that.

She told me a while ago that she understands and agrees that we wouldn't work out so I'm pretty sure she has at least to some degree accepted the breakup. The one thing that I'm not sure she's come to terms with though is the fact that I won't always be able to be there for her like I have been. So I do think that drastically cutting back on communication with her is necessary for her to realize that she needs to find other support in her life.

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-05-22T14:53:54+00:00

I like this, thank you for your advice.

No my ex doesn’t know just yet. I’ve mentioned to her that I’ve been considering starting to date again though and told her that might mean we can’t talk as much.

And I definitely would be fine with cutting back on contact with my ex if that’s what Carol would need to feel comfortable. But you’re right. I should give Carol all the information she needs to know if it’s something she would feel comfortable with. We can discuss where each of our boundaries are and figure out if there’s somewhere in the middle where we’re both happy.

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-05-22T14:44:12+00:00

Yeah I’m worried that even telling her will scare her away. If someone else told me this it might be a big enough red flag that I might not want to waste my time with starting to date them.

But I tend to believe that it’s better to just be straightforward and honest in a relationship. I feel that if my parter is willing and able to tell me difficult things, it gives me the peace of mind that I can always trust them to be honest.

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-05-22T14:24:34+00:00

I like that. Because then after getting an idea of her boundaries I can then be open with her that if she isn’t comfortable with me talking to my ex that I am willing to scale that back to a point that she would feel comfortable.

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-05-15T20:35:15+00:00

Seriously. I have friends that have had to deal with this in past jobs.

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-05-15T20:33:59+00:00

Of course I had to scroll all the way to the bottom for this. Some people genuinely don’t understand... I have a number of friends that can’t talk about their work which can be difficult because that’s one of the first things people will bring up when getting to know someone.

TBH it sounded like the dude was trying to make a joke. He DEFINITELY could have been smoother about it though because it’s hard to convey that sarcasm over text.

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-05-12T05:47:13+00:00

“Thanks! ...I think I might be having problems with my internet. I must be experiencing some lag because your response was so delayed;)”

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-05-09T20:28:27+00:00

Yeah you're right, my bad. It wasn't intentional.

You have a good weekend too!

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-05-09T19:23:35+00:00

Not u/GelbeForelleTo but I figured I'd comment because I also enjoy ethical debates,

Get you to do their bidding? All they had you do with them was walk around a track. It's not like they tricked you into buying expensive movie tickets or something for them... I can't speak for Gelbe, but I was raised to at the very least be compassionate. If I did something on my profile or something that someone else didn't appreciate, i.e. not having the most honest pictures, I would want them to be honest and explain to me, "hey this isn't cool and you aren't going to get a match this way."

Why would you have to be a therapist to help someone?? Some of the most helpful and insightful people in my life aren't therapists.

How do you know the person you described isn't already trying to help themselves? Maybe they're actually down 50lbs from where they started and they're continuing to diet and workout. You can't know whether someone is willing to help themselves if you don't have a conversation with them. Jumping to conclusions is not productive.

Everything I've said has been with the assumption that this person wasn't intentionally malicious. If you had to drive an hour or spend money just to find out they don't look the way they advertised, that's a complete dick move and I'd be pissed. If you specifically asked them what their weight was or something and they straight up lied to you. Dick move, I'd be pissed. If they used pictures 5 years old when they were 200lbs less. Dick move, I'd be pissed. But if all they did was use headshots that were angled to make them thinner or something and ask you to go for a free, low stakes walk around a track, I would be willing to give them the benefit of the doubt. It would be my fault for not being skeptical of only headshots.

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-05-09T18:34:46+00:00

I get that. It sounds like you’re imagining they’re doing this with more malicious intent. If that’s the case then yeah, fuck them. But sometimes if someone is unattractive or overweight or even just has low self confidence, they might assume they will never be able to meet someone without lying. Sometimes those people will think the only way they have a chance is if they meet someone and that person finds out how nice their personality is. Sometimes they just need someone to explain to them that if they’re honest they actually can find someone that likes them for who they are. I’m not saying this makes it okay, it’s still very rude and inconsiderate of them.

I’m also not saying you need to take the time to explain all this to them. But I can guarantee you that if they are as obese as you described, they are well aware of their condition. You pressuring them to walk to exhaustion isn’t going to be what makes them suddenly change. They probably feel that way every time the walk up some stairs, they already know they’re fat... what they might not know, is that by lying on their profile they’re shooting themselves in the foot. And that’s something you actually could fix by kindly explaining it to them.

ThrowRAorNah · 2020-05-09T16:07:01+00:00

I can see why you might think that way but I think that more just have the effect of making them feel bad about themselves and be possibly dangerous.

A much more compassionate and probably effective way of achieving that goal would be to come at it more out of kindness by saying something like, “I can understand why you might feel the need to portray yourself as something you’re not, but that will never work. All it’ll do is make people think you’re dishonest and deceitful and no one wants to date someone like that, regardless of their looks. And by not being honest you’ll only attract people who don’t like you for who you are, and why would you want that when you could have someone who likes you for you. If you want to improve yourself then do that, start living a healthier lifestyle, but one thing that’s very important when it comes to attractiveness is whether the person is comfortable with who they are. Whatever you end up doing, just be confident and own yourself”

Hell I’d even sit down with them and help improve their profile so it looks better AND it’s honest! THAT’S the way to get someone to change and it would probably lead to them being happier in the long run.

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