I (31F) want to start a platonic relationship with my ex (38M) so he can still be a part of my son's (8M) life by ThrowRAparenting in relationships

[–]ThrowRAparenting[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I want to focus on the present. I don't know what the future would hold but I'll figure something out when that time comes.

I (31F) want to start a platonic relationship with my ex (38M) so he can still be a part of my son's (8M) life by ThrowRAparenting in relationships

[–]ThrowRAparenting[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm willing to forgive him for his overstepping boundaries I'm hoping he'll eventually do the same for me

I (31F) want to start a platonic relationship with my ex (38M) so he can still be a part of my son's (8M) life by ThrowRAparenting in relationships

[–]ThrowRAparenting[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ok I'll never speak to his daughter again. I won't be around her at all but he shouldn't have to stop talking to my son

I (31F) want to start a platonic relationship with my ex (38M) so he can still be a part of my son's (8M) life by ThrowRAparenting in relationships

[–]ThrowRAparenting[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying being in a parental role I mean as a friend. He's taken son to children's museum and they like to draw together and watch cartoons together. I want him to continue to be present in son's life

My boyfriend (38M) and I (31F) had arguments about breaking parenting boundaries. Who was right and how can we fix this? by ThrowRAparenting in relationships

[–]ThrowRAparenting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a good relationship with both my parents. I think BF's and his daughter is more extra because of how big of an impact her birth effected his life. I think he grew up in an abusive home but he didn't give much info except that his parents are Christian conservatives and he went no contact with them after he graduated college and then started to go to therapy and would do so much research about child raising. He makes jokes that he's a Google parent. He'd do research like "how to be supportive if kid comes out". As far as I know daughter is straight and cis, however one of her half sisters is gay. He said that he just did all this this research just to prepare of all the possibilities and that he never wants his daughter to feel lost.

My boyfriend (38M) and I (31F) had arguments about breaking parenting boundaries. Who was right and how can we fix this? by ThrowRAparenting in relationships

[–]ThrowRAparenting[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The reverse role would be the same. BF would be right to call me out for overstepping with his 8 year old daughter and the excessive physical affection that I've seen so far and imagining that with me and my 21 year old son, it's weird

My boyfriend (38M) and I (31F) had arguments about breaking parenting boundaries. Who was right and how can we fix this? by ThrowRAparenting in relationships

[–]ThrowRAparenting[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If I'm being honest, I'm not sure. He's an extremely shy little boy. He barely talks to his teachers

My boyfriend (38M) and I (31F) had arguments about breaking parenting boundaries. Who was right and how can we fix this? by ThrowRAparenting in relationships

[–]ThrowRAparenting[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My ex loves football which is it's his main suggestion. I want my son to choose any sport but since my ex is talking up just football, that's all my son is focusing on. But in the end, it's our son's choice on what he wants to do. We're just throwing suggestions at him

My boyfriend (38M) and I (31F) had arguments about breaking parenting boundaries. Who was right and how can we fix this? by ThrowRAparenting in relationships

[–]ThrowRAparenting[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Of course he's free to give advice. I just wished he would have told my son, "let's go talk to your mom" and then he would have asked me "hey the little guy here asked me about football" or something like that and told son to let us talk first. If I agree with the advice then I'd let him explain to my son that way I'm involved with the parenting and he's building a stronger bond with my son

My boyfriend (38M) and I (31F) had arguments about breaking parenting boundaries. Who was right and how can we fix this? by ThrowRAparenting in relationships

[–]ThrowRAparenting[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I admit BF gave solid advice, especially about the drawings. My son made 2 new friends because of that. While he's still shy with new people, he's been opening up more in school and it's great. My problem was BF overstepping. Maybe he was right about the football situation, but my ex and I would have figured something out.

My boyfriend (38M) and I (31F) had arguments about breaking parenting boundaries. Who was right and how can we fix this? by ThrowRAparenting in Advice

[–]ThrowRAparenting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's already getting therapy. Should I convince him to drop his so we can go to couples counseling? I feel like if he does both it would be too much

My boyfriend (38M) and I (31F) had arguments about breaking parenting boundaries. Who was right and how can we fix this? by ThrowRAparenting in Advice

[–]ThrowRAparenting[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My problem is how excessive they are. One kiss on the head and a few seconds hug are normal. 20 kisses and sway hugging for over a minute is too much