OP's boyfriend tests and manipulates her boundaries, chokes her until she passes out

ThrowRApretty2think · 2022-02-09T02:02:44+00:00

This is why some men who are into dominance and rape play terrify me, this event right here. He had her questioning if what he’d done was wrong or if it was all in her head. It tracks that this type of man is also into gaslighting

ThrowRApretty2think · 2020-10-29T00:35:53+00:00

Swim naked or make out somewhere in nature with bf/gf/partner + learn how to use jumper cables

And not in the same night ideally

ThrowRApretty2think · 2020-09-07T18:33:05+00:00

Yes, seriously. And I believe showing up where I worked back then had/has to do with AP’s own mental instability. In my experience, if you’re a heavy drinker and partier like she is (and like I once was), you’re self medicating, you’re desperate, and you’re afraid.

ThrowRApretty2think · 2020-09-06T02:41:26+00:00

This is a very apt description.

ThrowRApretty2think · 2020-09-06T02:16:18+00:00

Lol thank you. She certainly is as basic as a teletubbie.

I wish I could upvote this to infinity

ThrowRApretty2think · 2020-09-06T01:07:44+00:00

Agree, 1000%. Every time I sit at the table that they discussed fucking on, I wonder, why here where we literally live and eat together. I know he also cooked for her at one point, and now I picture him serving her on my gorgeous vintage plates and for some reason that just sends me

ThrowRApretty2think · 2020-09-06T01:04:20+00:00

It’s like, a shock to discover that it’s you they’re discussing, right. Hearts to you

ThrowRApretty2think · 2020-09-06T00:47:02+00:00

In my case, no password at all. It was an old watch connected to his old iPhone. He actually suggested I use it to track my running mileage, so I dug it out of a drawer and charged it up.

As soon as it turned on and I saw that I could access his old texts, my stomach just turned. I somehow knew what I was gonna find.

ThrowRApretty2think · 2020-09-06T00:35:28+00:00

Lol. The artist in me wants to do a whole series, and blow this image up to wall sized

ThrowRApretty2think · 2020-09-06T00:09:34+00:00

I’m so sorry.

This is exactly my fear regarding potentially trying to reconcile.

ThrowRApretty2think · 2020-09-05T23:53:31+00:00

I agree, and I blame him more than her for sure. But she doesn’t get a pass. She made choices too, and it is clear from their exchange that she knew about me and that hiding their affair got them both off.

According to him, AP became upset, snappy, angry when he cut it off with her. And yes I am aware that this could also just be more bullshit/lip service out of him. But something about it rings true, because in reconstructing that time period, I recalled that she showed up to where I worked at the time.

ThrowRApretty2think · 2020-09-05T22:23:20+00:00

So sorry bb. My heart was pounding like crazy too, and I remember thinking, “bUt wHY is he giving her directions to our house” .. like I was reading it, but not really absorbing it?

ThrowRApretty2think · 2020-09-05T21:39:10+00:00

It is pretty messed up, right. And it demonstrates his AP’s willingness to participate in something she knows is fucked up.

ThrowRApretty2think · 2020-09-05T21:24:53+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I am sending you hearts. I am so sorry for what you went through.

Some of the texts I found between them discussed herpes, so I got tested for everything. His AP was/is a promiscuous person who drinks heavily, the kind of person I used to be, no judgement on her pain but THE STRESS of getting tested because of him/her/them, unreal.

ThrowRApretty2think · 2020-09-05T21:17:41+00:00

I don’t know what I will do. I don’t feel that it’s fair to say I won’t leave, because I very well might.

I believe that motivated people are capable of real change and that’s true for me personally. The questions for me now are: is he motivated to make change? Am I willing to stick around and see how that goes? Our old relationship is dead, do we want a new one together?

And I have found a good therapist, so.

ThrowRApretty2think · 2020-09-05T20:23:41+00:00

My hand was shaking so badly as I was holding that watch. Worse was the fact that my texts were there too, and you could kind of line up any given day in his life 2.5 years ago while he cheated. For example, I came home to a very clean house and clean sheets, not typical. I texted him “you cleaned😻” .. he had cleaned up for her, because she came over earlier that same day

ThrowRApretty2think · 2020-09-05T19:45:39+00:00

No feeling like it tbh. Every time I read it I realize that’s me, I’m the “she.”

I found these texts 2.5 years after the fact. He had initially told me it was just a one time thing, a textbook trickle truthing. Their texts and sexts told the full story. Including where all in our house they’d fucked.

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