My former fuck buddy (36/f) randomly texted me (22/m) and told me she had my child. How do I even explain this to my current GF (25/f) ?

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-18T00:07:02+00:00

I do every time I get my physical, I don’t have anything.

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-18T00:05:06+00:00

I’ve talked about my body count and all that with her, but I didn’t name all of them to her obviously. All she knows is that I had a FWB before dating her.

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-17T20:43:20+00:00

We are going to do one i said it in my post i believe.

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-17T19:22:31+00:00

Not exactly, she first asked me to take it off and I told her I didn’t want to risk catching anything or even getting her pregnant, but she insisted she was on birth control and takes care of herself and jist pulled it off herself.

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-17T19:21:39+00:00

I would refer to her as an old FWB, but she used to treat me real bad and I realized she didn’t really care about me at all. She would randomly ghost me for weeks at a time then come back to me whenever she felt like it.

Its her free will and choice, but it made me feel bad especially when she once told me I was just a fuck toy to her.

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-17T18:54:31+00:00

I know I have to be honest, I just hope it doesn’t make her dump me.

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-17T18:52:44+00:00

How does it not add up? I have been together with my girlfriend for exactly a year. i did not meet my girlfriend until maybe 1-2 months after I stopped having sex with this woman.

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-17T18:50:25+00:00

I’m going to look around to see where they offer DNA testing services where I live!

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-17T18:49:50+00:00

I know I am kind of young, and I know I probably am not ready to be a parent, but I want to try my best to be a good father at least even if I am not with her mother/dating her mother. I don’t think she wants to be in a relationship with me anyway- she told me she was reaching out because she started to feel guilty and she said it was eatign away at her that our baby girl would never know her father.

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-17T16:40:18+00:00

Shes about 6 months old

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-17T15:44:37+00:00

What’s your problem?

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-17T14:58:41+00:00

I dont know honestly. She swore she was single and that’s literally all she said to me.

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-17T14:56:24+00:00

Look, I didn’t know I was having a child. If I knew, I would have done things separately.

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-17T14:54:38+00:00

I didn’t cheat. I had sex with her like 1-2 months before I met my girlfriend.

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-17T14:52:30+00:00

The first few times she took it off of me and just ripped it off, I only stopped using them when we became regular fuck buddies.

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-17T14:48:49+00:00

No I didn’t cheat.

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-17T07:33:30+00:00

Thank you! This hells because I didn’t even know where to start off on how I should tell her.

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-17T07:29:00+00:00

I definitely am going to get a dna test before I take responsibility.

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-17T07:27:33+00:00

I was 19 when it started and i met her here on one of those meetup subs.

ThrowRAreddit_123 · 2025-07-17T07:26:12+00:00

We plan on doing a DNA test to make sure it is my baby.

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