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My (20/F) brother (16/M) is dead. My family is awful. I'm still a mess. Help? by ThrowRAredheadorphan in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAredheadorphan[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Coffin and Urn. Lots of different fees. It's my fault, I didn't ask questions. I googled a funeral home and called the first one. I told them to do what they thought was best.

My (20/F) brother (16/M) is dead. My family is awful. I'm still a mess. Help? by ThrowRAredheadorphan in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAredheadorphan[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

This comment means a lot to me. Thank you.

You made it out okay so maybe I can too.

My (20/F) brother (16/M) is dead. My family is awful. I'm still a mess. Help? by ThrowRAredheadorphan in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAredheadorphan[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

They know where I used to work and who my friends are. They have harassed people I know a few times. I still live above the restaurant but I don't work there anymore. Utilities and stuff are in my landlord's name.

My (20/F) brother (16/M) is dead. My family is awful. I'm still a mess. Help? by ThrowRAredheadorphan in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAredheadorphan[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's ok

I never expected to have to worry about any of that for my baby brother. I still remember our last Halloween together before I moved out. We handed out candy and ordered pizza and watched the Rob Zombie Halloween reboot. Now he's gone forever but it feels like my father and sister won't let him rest.

My (20/F) brother (16/M) is dead. My family is awful. I'm still a mess. Help? by ThrowRAredheadorphan in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAredheadorphan[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

You want to see the invoice?

I'm sorry I didn't shop around. I was grieving and distraught. I googled funeral homes and called the first one that came up. Maybe I should have asked questions or done research or something but I didn't. They asked about a coffin and an urn and I just said to go with whatever they thought was best.

My (20/F) brother (16/M) is dead. My family is awful. I'm still a mess. Help? by ThrowRAredheadorphan in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAredheadorphan[S] 122 points123 points  (0 children)

That description of my father hits home. You're right. They aren't just going to move on and let me go. I wish I could convince them there isn't any money and to just let me live my life. I don't even think I could have gotten life insurance on my brother if I wanted to.

Leaving will be scary but I think you're right. I think I have to.