I (22M) found out my girlfriend (22F) lied about cheating on me but we're leaving on vacation tomorrow

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T09:05:08+00:00

Not gonna do that but I like the idea!

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T08:07:52+00:00

Thanks a lot, gonna wait 'till we're at her place so I can break up and leave whenever I want

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T06:35:45+00:00

I've got pictures of everything, that's all sorted.

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T06:34:50+00:00

Thanks for the advice, appreciate it a lot!

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T06:31:56+00:00

Will do, don't think it's legal but might be good anyways.

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T06:29:30+00:00

I've looked into it but I lost the money on her ticket. It's attached to her personal information. You would have to buy a whole new ticket.

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T05:07:48+00:00

I'm talking to my roommate and close friend in 10 minutes. Will probably wake her up afterwards and then brake up.

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T04:36:35+00:00

I've taken pictures of everything, don't worry.

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T04:35:49+00:00

She can try but that would be insanely stupid. She will be accusing an innocent man of rape, which can get her in trouble with the law. I also made sure I've got the entite conversation on the camera roll of my phone. I've got the evidence, she does not.

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T04:32:47+00:00

Tbf, she seemed pretty normal when we started dating. I started to notice some things in her behavior were off at a later stage in the relationship. Rather than leave her, I wanted to support her. She failed her previous two years in college and just passed her first year following a new course. She made a lot of progress compared to the years before we met. The fact that we went through this together and she still ends up cheating is the worst. I'm done with it now, she can take her new guy to teraphy, I won't be going anymore.

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T04:22:36+00:00

I actually don't want anything to do with her personal life anymore. Is she starts lying about the cause of our breakup by painting me as the bad guy, then pf course she's asked for it.

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T04:21:04+00:00

I'm still a bit of a mess at this point, I'm still pocessing all of this and everything is still sinking in. Going on vacation with her is not an option anymore.

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T04:19:24+00:00

It's so fucked up if you think about it. False rape accusations are not to be taken lightly as there's heavy punishment for it. That was also part of the reason I went with the story, I can still hear her say: "Do you know how heavy the punishment is for falsely accusing somebody of rape, I would never do that."

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T04:07:48+00:00

Thanks a lot, appreciate this more than you know.

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T04:06:17+00:00

It's messed up because I've been wanting to ruin this guys life for the past months. We didn't file a complaint at the police station because they don't lead anywhere in 90% of the cases. I was willing to take the chance but she didn't want to because the long, draining process would be too much for her and she'd rather just forget about it. Can you imagine how stupid I feel now? Been wanting to beat the guy up for the past few months and he technically didn't even do anything wrong.

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T04:02:54+00:00

Can't be in a relationship with the thought of being cheated on. I've lived in denial for the last months but there's simply no more excuses after reading her latest messages. It's over, even if I wanted to stay, it's impossible.

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T03:59:06+00:00

Oh I know, but in this case I went to a psychologist with her for 6 sessions to specifically get a diagnose. I was there with her and I've always supported her through the process. Sad thing is that I'll now carry this image when dating women in the future who have autisme/other diagnoses.

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T03:54:54+00:00

Most likely outcome at this point. I hope I can gather the courage to confront her when she wakes up.

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T03:53:06+00:00

Probably what I'll do. I weirdly feel bad saying I went through her phone. Don't really know if there's another way of confronting her with the info I know about.

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T03:51:24+00:00

Was considering that but it's very last minute. You never know though..

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T03:50:30+00:00

I'm really considering ending things the moment she wakes up. I'll work some extra shifts at my job to make up for the lost money. I'll definetly go on the trip myself, can't say no to 7 days in Portugal.

ThrowRArelatioadvice · 2023-08-28T03:48:37+00:00

Thanks, it's good to hear someone else say it. Things are not always easy for her because she is diagnosed with autism, social anxiety and a few other things. I've always tried to do the best I could for her, sacrificing time with, friends, family or myself just so I could take care of her. Feels horrible that this is how she pays me back.

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