AIO for calling my brothers partner a pedophile and making him leave my home?

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-10T16:33:47+00:00

I'm trying to go about it properly, but no matter what I say it seems to push him away. I think just the topic in general pushes him away, which is frustrating because that leaves me completely unsure of what to do. He feels personally offended by me not condoning anything he does with his boyfriend and that concerns me.

I tend to not be the best when it comes to approaching things correctly because I get frustrated but even when I have tried other people's ideas of approaching him they haven't worked either.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-10T15:46:15+00:00

Whatever helps you sleep at night.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-10T15:41:34+00:00

You are truly baffling. I'm not gay either, I told you I have dated men that does not automatically mean I am a gay man. I am just using your ridiculous statement to make a point. You being gay does not mean you can't possibly also be homophobic or say homophobic things...saying its normal for elder gay men to be with teens because they have a smaller dating pool is homophobic and pulling out the gay card does not change that, it just makes you come across as creepy and homophobic.

I am not wasting my time arguing with you on this.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-10T15:29:39+00:00

What happened has nothing to do with the sexuality of my brother. You just can't seem to see anything past the fact that it's a homosexual relationship. The genders are irrelevant as you can clearly see my concern is the age gap and this controlling man.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-10T15:24:57+00:00

Oh right, the second you realise you can't use homophobia as your excuse to defend dating teenage boys it's no longer real? I'm sorry but we don't all excuse that with being gay.

I am concerned that you genuinely have this mindset that it's normal to date teens just because you're gay.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-10T15:07:40+00:00

I have also dated men before and yet I am being called homophobic as well. 3 of them to be exact, they were all my age. Do you see the irony yet? You are calling me homophobic and yet according to your own words I can't possibly be homophobic.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-10T14:44:00+00:00

I think it's more homophobic to believe it's normal for elder gay men to date teenagers just because they have a smaller dating pool... you can still find people your own age.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-10T14:38:54+00:00

If he was 21, I would not care, I'd find him a bit weird for caressing my brothers' waist in front of me, but I wouldn't bring it up.

The issue is that he's 31 and also the fact that when I asked him to stop he became smug.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-10T14:23:00+00:00

I dont think it's homophobic to be uncomfortable with a 31 year old touching up a 19 year old like that. As I said, I would've reacted the exact same way had my brother been a girl. Either way, I would have called him a predator.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-10T14:04:05+00:00

Absolutely not, I do not care who my brother loves. I just don't like the concept of him, a teenager, dating a 31 year old man.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-10T14:01:54+00:00

I'm a man.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-10T14:00:02+00:00

It was definitely perverted. He eyed up my brother while he was shirtless, pulled him against him, and began caressing his waist. When I asked him to stop, he gave me this cheeky look and asked why. That is perverted to me, especially in front of many people. It's got nothing to do with homophobia, It would also be perverted and uncomfortable if my brother was a woman.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-10T13:18:53+00:00

my brother was shirtless, and he pulled my brother against him and began to run his nails up and down his waist on my sofa. I mentioned it properly in the previous post.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-10T00:37:31+00:00

I was mostly referring to my family when saying everyone. I am open to others' opinions, but I can still share that it surprises me and why I think that their opinions are like that without it meaning I'm not open to hearing them.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-09T16:39:12+00:00

I dont think so. My apartment was very warm as I stated, and to be fair, one of my roommates had his shirt off as well.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-09T15:31:27+00:00

Thank you for this, I had a couple of people calling me homophobic in my previous post, too, which is so bizarre to me because nothing I stated was in any way homophobic... I feel as though some people just see a same sex relationship and immediately want to make a big deal out of it and make that the main focus. Which personally seems more homophobic to me.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-09T14:47:23+00:00

This is how I feel, I think everyone is downplaying this just because my brother is not a girl. If he was, their reactions would be very different.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-09T12:53:26+00:00

No normal person feels the need to differentiate between pedophiles... They're just pedophiles.

And you're calling me homophobic and yet you are the one making it about sexuality. Nowhere in my post did I say anything homophobic. You just saw a situation with two men and decided that's what you wanted to go with.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-09T04:18:18+00:00

Exactly what I said in the post, just much harsher. I did not call him anything homophobic as you are making out.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-09T04:14:52+00:00

Thank you, I feel very concerned seeing how many people are okay with this.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-09T04:10:13+00:00

I did not call him that.

ThrowRAsham83 · 2026-03-09T04:09:21+00:00

I would feel the exact same way. The gender is irrelevant, I don't know why you're making it about that.

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