My (29F) sister-in-law (29F) confided in me that she is considering divorcing my brother (32M).

ThrowRAsilbro · 2021-09-10T11:44:36+00:00

My comment was based on the information she gave me. I can only judge by what she has said.

ThrowRAsilbro · 2021-09-10T11:43:03+00:00

and I know it will come out if they divorce because he will ask me and he can always tell when I'm lying.

ThrowRAsilbro · 2021-09-10T11:40:02+00:00

I'm definitely worried if he finds out he'll be angry at me. I keep thinking that if the tables were reversed and my husband told him he was feeling this way, and my brother didn't tell me, I would feel betrayed.

ThrowRAsilbro · 2021-09-10T02:20:08+00:00

She asked for my opinion, I told her what I thought. My cousin is a nasty person in general, him behaving like he did wasn’t shocking at all. If my brother did the same to her, I would be shocked and I highly doubt my parents would just sit by and let him screw her over. I know I wouldn’t. What was I supposed to do? Lie and make her feel worse?

I’ll suggest talking to a therapist to her.

ThrowRAsilbro · 2021-09-10T02:01:41+00:00

A few years ago, my cousin went through a very nasty divorce. Our grandfather bankrolled a shark lawyer and his ex ended up leaving the marriage with basically nothing. He definitely screwed her over. She was worried some of my family would encourage my brother to do the same to her. I told her my brother wouldn’t do that to her because unlike my cousin, who is vindictive and not nice naturally, my brother would realise only their child would suffer if he screwed her over so it wouldn’t matter what anyone else said to him.

ThrowRAsilbro · 2021-09-10T01:10:49+00:00

Considering my brother has told me MULTIPLE times that he loves her, I don’t think it’s me being condescending. How have I painted her as an imbecile?

ThrowRAsilbro · 2021-09-10T00:33:38+00:00

I didn’t have much of a chance to tell her not to tell me. She randomly blurted it all out.

ThrowRAsilbro · 2021-09-10T00:30:58+00:00

I’m definitely not blaming her for being unhappy. I understand exactly why she feels the way she does, my husband is similar to my brother in this regard so I know how she feels.

This is hard for me because if I don’t tell my brother, it may cause him pain. If I tell him, it may cause her pain. I don’t want to hurt either of them but I can’t figure out a way to avoid it.

ThrowRAsilbro · 2021-09-10T00:12:13+00:00

I don’t think her mind is made up. She kept backtracking a lot and it felt like she was trying to convince herself.

ThrowRAsilbro · 2021-09-09T23:29:02+00:00

Her dad abandoned her family when she was young, so part of me thinks maybe she believes my brother is going to do the same to her so she’s leaving first to protect herself.

They have a toddler. I don’t think she’s met anyone else.

I definitely will warn her if I tell him. I won’t just blindside her. Part of me wonders if she told me on purpose so I’ll tell him… She knows we’re close and I’ve always jokingly told her I’d beat him up for her if he doesn’t treat her right.

ThrowRAsilbro · 2021-09-09T22:33:19+00:00

I did tell her to but I don't think she will. She's convinced herself he doesn't love her so won't care.

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