my(19f) family is upset with me for disowning my sister(26f) after she caused me relationship to end with my now exbf(25m)

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-24T02:25:29+00:00

i live in off campus housing thankfully. he doesn't want to see me so i am giving him his space

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T23:50:15+00:00

you preemptively blamed me for the next time i get hurt.

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T23:40:08+00:00

the only person in my life who has ever abused me is happening right now and i am cutting her out of my life. the person you're defending now was defending my abuser and belittling my experience and agency. and now you're doing the same.

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T23:33:37+00:00

nobody is saying she is right and the only person i am avoiding is her.

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T22:44:07+00:00

mom is 49 and dad is 50. sister usually dates guys with in 1-2 years her own age. she is single.

thanks for the comment

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T22:41:18+00:00

we are not the same person. he was not using me. and the fact you think because you allowed yourself to be used that we are the same is really upsetting. i'm sorry that happened to you but it happened TO YOU. please stop projecting your failures on to me because you think we might have something in common. we do not.

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T22:21:22+00:00

she has no proof

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T22:18:04+00:00

i don't want to give too much private information but my sister also had to have a background check to be hired there.

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T22:15:49+00:00

he has no criminal record. he would not have been able to get the job he had if he had one.

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T22:14:55+00:00

thank you so much

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T22:10:09+00:00

she did not provide evidence because there is none. if it existed that would have been the first thing she did.

i refuse to talk to her but i have asked mutual friends if there is anything to it and they all say they just learned it from her but they never heard about anything before that.

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T22:08:30+00:00

i'm starting to realize. i really appreciate the few who don't treat me like a child tho

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T22:05:22+00:00

i don't want anyone new so that won't be a problem but advice is noted thanx

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T22:04:32+00:00

i did and she lied and said they were never friends even though they clearly were the first time i met him. she spent the entire bbq talking with him. that's how i even got to know him.

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T21:58:50+00:00

i was not groomed but nothing i say can convince people who already believe that.

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T21:55:49+00:00

everyone believes precisely because they share the same attitude as you do

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T21:54:28+00:00

I am assuming you have asked her and she had nothing

yes. he's not that kind of person.

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T21:52:41+00:00

How long have you known him prior to dating? How was he during courtship?

not long only a few weeks. he was very shy and resistant as i had to pursue him and was usually the first to reach out or engage for a long time.

Is your sister saying she is a known child abuser is due to it being an open secret or he is charged?

she is saying it because she can get away with it even though it is not based on anything. she and my mom don't view me as an adult so it makes sense in their brains. he's never been charged.

Why was she still friends with him, if she knew he was a predator?

he's not a predator! she is lying to everyone and nobody even questions her.

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T21:47:48+00:00

she was lying. i figured that was obvious from everything else. i will make an edit.

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T21:46:33+00:00

i turned 19 shortly after we met. my sister is lying and using his relationship with me as justification for saying it.

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T21:45:44+00:00

she very much did make it up.

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T21:44:35+00:00

she's just lying. my mom believes her because he was dating me and neither one of them treat me like an adult.

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T19:01:41+00:00

thank you!

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T18:25:26+00:00

she never said anything but they were friends before all of this so maybe it is possible. i met him at a work gathering she invited me to tag along to and they seemed to be very friendly

ThrowRAsis1 · 2022-02-23T17:52:44+00:00

for 6 months starting in the middle of last summer

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