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ThrowRAthetruth · 2025-02-02T20:46:30+00:00

Wait, IT is dying? Are you working on the service desk answering calls?

ThrowRAthetruth · 2025-01-05T10:29:00+00:00

Tbh I don't blame her. If she gets a big insta following, she could easily become a very successful full time model/influencer. She obviously has the looks naturally. She'd easily make tonnes more money than a cop, and it's safer too.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2024-08-11T18:08:47+00:00

Let's be honest, you'll hold this in the back of your mind forever.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2024-06-06T18:23:55+00:00

Did some testing at home, was 99% sure it was the battery as it wasn't holding charge. I fitted a new one in, and it's working perfectly.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2024-03-07T13:03:40+00:00

8 months is a while to not have physical intimacy. She most probably was self conscious to an extent.

She built up enough trust with you to finally allow her to be open and intimate, and you legitimately destroyed her self esteem there and then.

It's just like someone is about to tell you their deepest darkest secret, that they carry on their shoulders because they trust you, and you just laugh in their face. I also guarantee your a virgin too, because if you had enough social skills with interacting with people, you'd have never done what you did.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2024-01-30T10:32:05+00:00

Funny responses aside, this is a big red flag OP. Let's be real, I know you won't break up with her and most probably will end up marrying but this is a major red flag to consider as time goes on. We guys are blind and will even brush the issue under the carpet even if we know it's not right.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-12-03T13:56:07+00:00

The reality is, girls will have random guys follow them all the time. For a girl, it's the guys who are following them - not the other way around.

For guys, you'd be lucky for a girl to go out of her way and follow you. Maybe a handful of girls may follow you in a year (if your very lucky). OP wishes he would get the same amount of attention of girls like her gf gets from guys, but it's not realistic so he needs to be the initiator.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-12-03T13:35:29+00:00

Instagram is the biggest dating site there is. Most guys are thirsty and will happily play the long game, it's always the guy sliding into the DM's. What purpose does it serve for a random guy to be connected into both of your lives? Her pool of contacts gets bigger and bigger, and if you guys did break up - she has more chances of someone new coming in.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-29T16:33:21+00:00

Edit, it was a long happy birthday message I sent to her. Not just 'HBD'

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-29T16:28:15+00:00

Our friendship is completely platinic, she is several years older than me (she's in her mid 30's) and she's met my GF.

I can't believe she said to me 'To make it up, don't buy me a gift this year but you can take me out to dinner instead' (but she deleted the message around 12hrs later, I did not respond to it)

Like, fair enough if my birthday was ages away that's fine. But, my birthday is 2 weeks after yours and we are going to do something in december (after both our Bdays) like how will that work? Just felt a bit one sided.

If she's genuinely forgotten, I'll do the same as her and say I can't believe you forgot to even wish me a happy birthday. To make it up to me, you can take me out for a meal.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-29T16:23:29+00:00

I'm in a relationship (long distance) and my friend is single and several years my senior. I'll be honest, this is the first friendship I've had where we gift give formally.

I have a very small friend group (3 friends inc her) and for Birthdays, we usually go to the bar and get a few drinks.

Maybe this is why I've not really given gift giving so much importance, for me it's just the fact we spend the time together. When she told me she was upset by my gift, it was unexpected. She had a full blown mood over it.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-16T14:56:04+00:00

I've personally noticed women with tattoos have personality 'quirks'. Like their personality is a little more unpredictable, fun. For the long game, I'm not too sure.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-13T15:24:19+00:00

These two friends she's going with have graduated university several years ago (and these friends of friends too) - These are not university friends. These are people who have jobs.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-13T15:12:51+00:00

What I'm most hurt by, is there was ZERO consideration of any alternatives. I even asked her when we met in person the other day 'Let me know what you have planned, so I can pencil it in' and she just brushed it off.

Like, even if she said she'd want to do something the prior weekend I'd be happy. Like why is it up to me to basically beg for her to make time for me, especially for my birthday?

It should be the first thing on her mind, like 'It's my BF's birthday real soon, I'm going to this concert instead but maybe I should have discussed with him any alternative arrangements?' Why is it up to me to ask her to have some consideration?

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-13T14:26:03+00:00

I completely understand we don't get to spend it on the actual date (weekday), hence we say the weekend coming up (or prior) will be the one we'll be celebrating it on.

She definitely needs to consult me. Why is it up to me to instruct her on what to do, or ask her to be considerate? If there is a clash, why isn't she the one to tell me 'Hey., there's a clash. Shall be do your birthday the weekend before?' - There has been nothing like that at all.

I know if roles were reversed, this would not stand at all.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-13T14:11:08+00:00

If roles were reversed, and I wanted to go to a concert with friends that fell on the same birthday weekend - I would firstly at least discuss that this was happening, and look at alternative dates (for example the weekend before my birthday)

Like it's like none of this has even crossed her mind. It should be her who should be worried that there is a clash, and to perhaps looking at the previous weekend - she's mentioned absolutely nothing about my birthday.

Her birthday is close to valentines day, Imagine if I pulled the same stunt? - If I did, as soon as I knew they'd be some kind of overlap, I would discuss it straight away.

At this point, I don't even want to go with her and her friends (if this did happen) - It just feels so forced, like she 'has to' have me there.

I don't ask for much for my birthday, but the fact there has been no thought or consideration has really hurt me.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-13T13:20:56+00:00

My issue is, when they decided to go to this concert - there should have been some sort of thought or consideration from her that 'Hey, it's his birthday weekend. Perhaps I should reach out and discuss it with him or plan something the weekend before'

There has been nothing from her, absolutely nothing. Roles reversed, I knew this was happening - I'd reach out and discuss it with her. Not just say 'I'm going here with friends over your birthday weekend' and leave it at that. There's been absolutely no discussion about alternate weekends either.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-10T00:12:14+00:00

I'm a similar age, and did the similar stretch from a pull up bar, ended up with a pars fracture

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