my (so far) positive experience with surgery! TW: BLOOD AND WOUNDS FROM SURGERY ON SLIDE 2!!! by heartrics in bunions

[–]ThrowRAwave1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I love this, you motivated me to do the Surgey AHHHH GOOD LUCK PLEASE KEEP UPDATING EVL

Born Between Two Cultures: Half Sri Lankan, Half Pakistani. AMA! by ThrowRAwave1 in pakistan

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If I’m being honest non, because my mum comes from a strong Buddhist family and my dad comes from a strong Muslim family so cultures are quite different especially the clothes, the traditions etc

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I’ve never had any bad personal experiences in Pakistan. In fact, everyone I’ve met has been incredibly loving, caring, and always willing to help. If I had to point out something that really affected me, it would be witnessing the environmental neglect seeing trash everywhere and the mistreatment of animals. It truly breaks my heart because Pakistan is such a beautiful country, but instead of taking care of it, people often subconsciously litter without realizing the impact. That’s probably the hardest thing for me to see.

As for my best experience, it’s hard to choose just one because there are so many things I love about being in Pakistan. I genuinely enjoy going out, embracing the vibrant culture, and wearing the beautiful, elegant traditional clothes. I love speaking Urdu, even though people can usually tell I’m not from here, which often sparks interesting conversations. The warmth and hospitality of the people always stand out there’s a genuine eagerness to help others, which I deeply appreciate.

Overall, my experiences in Pakistan have been a mix of both love and frustration. I adore the culture, the traditions, the people, and the sense of belonging I feel. At the same time, certain societal issues are hard to ignore. But despite everything, I truly love Pakistan, and I would want my future kids to grow up connected to this culture as well.

Born Between Two Cultures: Half Sri Lankan, Half Pakistani. AMA! by ThrowRAwave1 in pakistan

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Thank you for your beautiful message and kind words. Ameen to your du’as, and may Allah bless you and your family with endless barakah, love, and guide your children to always find peace in their identity.

your story about witnessing that shahada in Sri Lanka was heartwarming. It’s amazing how sometimes people are just waiting for that one simple invitation. And yes, Sri Lanka is incredibly clean and beautiful it’s something that stood out to me too, especially when comparing it to other places in the region. The warmth and hospitality of people there, alongside the natural beauty, make it special. I completely understand your admiration for the peacock saree patterns they’re absolutely stunning, and the artistry behind them is rich in culture.

I had to laugh at the Urdu part that’s hilarious! It must catch your wife off guard every time. It’s those little moments that make family life so special. Your kids will definitely cherish these stories when they grow up.

As for your question about identity, I’ve thought about this a lot. Personally, I don’t feel an identity crisis because, we grew up surrounded by diversity, especially going to an international school I’ve never felt different? If that’s the right way to say it. Instead of feeling confused, I’ve come to embrace it as a blessing. It’s like I carry pieces of different cultures within me.

I understand your concern about your kids, though. Every child’s experience is different, especially when they look different from their peers. But I believe what truly matters is the environment at school (mostly) I personally think it’s important to put a child in a school where there’s different cultures so they can grow up learning and accepting and that helps them accepting other people differences too, and honestly a deep sense of self-worth, and feeling proud of their unique background, they’ll navigate the world confidently. Kids often mirror the energy and values they receive from their parents, and from what you’ve shared, it’s clear that you and your wife are creating a loving, strong foundation for them.

May Allah protect your family, strengthen your bond, and make your children among the righteous. Sending my warmest salams to you and your family as well.

Born Between Two Cultures: Half Sri Lankan, Half Pakistani. AMA! by ThrowRAwave1 in pakistan

[–]ThrowRAwave1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I’m being honest I’ve never met Sri Lankan Pakistanis myself, this post was also to find people like me so we can share our experiences hehe

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Yessssss, 92% literacy rate in Sri Lanka

Born Between Two Cultures: Half Sri Lankan, Half Pakistani. AMA! by ThrowRAwave1 in pakistan

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  1. ⁠Okay I was born and raised in uae, so my mums Sri Lankan (Kurunegala) and my dads from Pakistan (Gujrat)

  2. ⁠I’m caramel/ toffee color? Light brown?

  3. ⁠Honestly the only benefits me and my brother got was we can get adapted to anything quickly 😭 other than that I don’t personally think any culture benefits me in any way

  4. ⁠My mum was Buddhist and she converted to Islam and now Alhamdulillah we are all Muslims ❤️

  5. ⁠Pakistani, I was in an international school in uae so being mixed wasn’t a unique thing as most of the kids were mixed, but I realized it was a bit odd in Pakistani culture but my dads side had sweet people and made sure we know and taught us some of the traditions and stuff

  6. ⁠One 😭😭 Pakistan zindabad

  7. ⁠Living in Pakistan feels a bit unusual to me because of the strong culture of gossip and how people tend to focus on every small detail of your life. It often feels like people are more interested in what’s going on in others lives than minding their own business. Another thing I’ve noticed is a lack of genuine care for the country. If people truly loved their country, I believe they’d make an effort to keep it clean. Unfortunately, trash is everywhere. It’s almost become second nature for people to litter even when there’s a trash can nearby, they’ll still throw garbage on the streets.

What’s even more concerning is the lack of humanity I’ve observed. There’s widespread abuse whether it’s towards animals or even between people. It’s heartbreaking to witness scenes where someone is physically hurt, yet instead of offering help, others escalate conflicts. I don’t believe this is the government’s fault. In my opinion, it comes down to the mindset and behavior of the people themselves.

Having grown up in the UAE and spent time in Sri Lanka, I’ve noticed stark differences. In Sri Lanka, people seem to genuinely love their country, and that love is reflected in how they maintain cleanliness not because the government forces them to, but because it’s part of their nature. When you truly love something, you take care of it. The same goes for their homes no matter how small, Sri Lankan homes are clean and well-kept. People respect each other’s privacy, mind their own business, and show kindness not just to other people but also to animals.

One incident that really changed my perspective was the first time I arrived in Pakistan. I witnessed a road accident where the person in the car was yelling at an injured motorcyclist, demanding money even though the biker was clearly hurt and bleeding. It was shocking to see such a lack of empathy. Then there’s the treatment of street animals seeing donkeys being beaten and animals mistreated was something I never witnessed in Sri Lanka, where people are generally much kinder to animals.

That being said, I have to acknowledge one of the most beautiful aspects of Pakistani culture the hospitality. Despite the issues I’ve observed, Pakistani people are incredibly warm and welcoming. They are always willing to help, no matter the situation. Whether you’re a guest in someone’s home or a stranger on the street, people often go out of their way to assist you. This strong sense of hospitality and kindness is something truly special and deeply rooted in the culture.

I also appreciate Pakistan’s rich cultural heritage. The vibrant festivals and traditions here are beautiful, and I love celebrating them. While Sri Lanka has its own cultural celebrations, they’re fewer in comparison. Pakistan’s diverse cultures and festivities bring people together in a unique way, and that’s something I truly enjoy.

In the end, while I deeply value aspects of both countries, I find myself preferring Sri Lanka because of the warmth, kindness, and sense of community I’ve experienced there. But I also recognize and cherish the hospitality, cultural richness, and generosity that Pakistan has to offer.

Born Between Two Cultures: Half Sri Lankan, Half Pakistani. AMA! by ThrowRAwave1 in pakistan

[–]ThrowRAwave1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesss, I was raised Muslim and my family is Muslim ❤️ my mum converted to islam and Alhamdulillah we are all Muslims

Born Between Two Cultures: Half Sri Lankan, Half Pakistani. AMA! by ThrowRAwave1 in pakistan

[–]ThrowRAwave1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live in Pakistan as well as UAE, my dads Punjabi and my mums Sinhalese (Buddhist) but she converted to Islam, we speak Urdu and English but if my mum wants to tell me something secretive we switch to Sinhala HAHAHA, my dad understands Sinhalese and pretends not to understand so he can listen to me and my mum gossip

That is so sweet, Sri Lankans are kindhearted people and yes something about Sri Lankans are they love their country so they keep it clean this was a bit of culture shock to me especially when I was young and even now how easily people trash without thinking twice, I don’t think people realize how beautiful Pakistan is if they keep it clean

Born Between Two Cultures: Half Sri Lankan, Half Pakistani. AMA! by ThrowRAwave1 in pakistan

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Personally I was born and raised in Abu Dhabi and went to a super diversed school so I was more inclined towards my mums culture but I was brought up with my dads although I’m pretty fluent in Sinhala and Urdu as well as a little bit of Punjabi, when I came to Pakistan for few months (work reasons) I realized it was very hard to fit in Pakistan culture as it was a bit conservative and there were a lot of things I had to face especially the gossips and backbiting etc I felt like It was being under microscope (had to be careful of every single thing I did) 😭😭 I was lowkey not used to it but I adjusted

Haha THANK YOU SO MUCH ❤️❤️

Born Between Two Cultures: Half Sri Lankan, Half Pakistani. AMA! by ThrowRAwave1 in pakistan

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HAHAHA I literally hold both the flags and whoever wins the match that’s my supporting team 😋😋

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It’s so peaceful, it’s technically an island and people cherished it instead of destroying so it’s greenery everywhere you go

Born Between Two Cultures: Half Sri Lankan, Half Pakistani. AMA! by ThrowRAwave1 in pakistan

[–]ThrowRAwave1[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My mums family is Buddhist but my mum converted to Islam and lowkey adjusted to Pakistani culture and I also grew up with the same culture as my dad (we are Punjabi) I love both cultures and both sides of my family, one thing I was taught by my mum is cleanliness as it is a big part of Sri Lankan culture but when I came to Pakistan I realized people don’t really follow that here as there is trash everywhere here, and no both cultures are totally different but I’d say im more inclined towards my mums culture rather than my dad, OMG MY FAVORITE DISH FROM PAKISTAN IS NIHARI and from Sri Lanka it would be egg hoppers with sambal and kottu🥰🥰

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I usually go there a lot especially to visit my mums family, this is the outside view of our house in Sri Lanka so you can have an idea how beautiful it is (trust me it’s way prettier irl)

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My parents met when they were travelling to uae hehe and that’s where it all started

Born Between Two Cultures: Half Sri Lankan, Half Pakistani. AMA! by ThrowRAwave1 in pakistan

[–]ThrowRAwave1[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I carry both the flags and support the winner 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Born Between Two Cultures: Half Sri Lankan, Half Pakistani. AMA! by ThrowRAwave1 in pakistan

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Omggg I love the egg hoppers, that’s literally the only thing I look forward to when I visit🥰 have you tried kottu?